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Are fakes and flakes normal with single bi females? Or just on Craigslist?

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Hello, everyone! Long time no post! It's been quite the long time.

 

For awhile we lost all hope in finding that unicorn, but recently we decided to get back into looking for her. So here we are! (female posting, as always).

 

I do have a question, I just want to know if this is common with unicorns. So, we posted an ad on Craigslist (I know, I know: not recommended but we were really careful in what we posted). Got at least five hits in two weeks which is more than what we got on SLS. Sidenote: Our old account got deactivated due to not using it in forever, so we created a new one. So here's hoping we get more hits there. Anyway, I digress.

 

The second girl that replied to our ad was hot. Like, really, really hot. We thought it was too good to be true (turns out it was, but let me finish). Hubby and her trade emails through Craigslist, where you have your real email masked. Then she tells him she wants to email with me, too which is fine. So we do that. Then we trade pics. She wants to know about my experiences, which wasn't much. We talk about all the sex stuff which is fine. Then we wanted to know more about her, like interests, etc. I personally feel more comfortable when I know more about the female than just sex. Couldn't get anything like that out of her, it was like pulling teeth. Then after awhile it turns out she only wanted to be with me, and not the male at all. She claimed to be bi when responding to the ad, but turns out she was a lesbian. We are only interested in playing together, so having the hubby watch isn't going to happen.

 

Then we got another response recently. Did the same thing as above except we got a lot more info that seemed to be legit. She kept wanting to see me completely nude, with face in the picture. Then she sends me a picture of her exposed, ahem...you know. I then ask for a picture like that with her face in it, and she wouldn't do it. Haven't heard from her in over a week.

 

So, basically my question is: Is this normal? Our ad on CL is probably buried under hundreds of other postings so we most likely will not be re-posting there and sticking to SLS, since it seems like you get more verified, real people there.

 

If you got all that, you get a cookie. :)

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I'll take an Oreo please....:D

 

We've posted many times on C/L and AFF looking for Unicorns. I've also messaged single women that fit the profile and state they are looking. 7 years and only one response ever. One look at her pic and it was a no.

 

I'm surprised you got that much response but I have to say C/L is full of a lot of posers and wannabes so I'm not surprised they respond and disappear. MFM ads are even worse you almost have to get a background check to weed out the cheaters.

 

It amazes me really that a lot more single women wouldn't be into a safe NSA type of sex to take care of their needs.

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It amazes me really that a lot more single women wouldn't be into a safe NSA type of sex to take care of their needs.

 

It's actually very easy to do that, so easy that advertising (or responding to advertisements) just isn't required. That makes it very unlikely that you will find a prospective partner on a swinger site and even less likely that you will find one on Craigslist.

 

OP, I don't eat cookies, but...have you considered going to clubs or approaching a friend? That's far more likely to lead to your desires than waiting for single women to contact you (it's not likely to happen unless you are somehow outstanding and even less likely to happen if you're not open to couples).

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I would say your experience is definitely normal. It has so many fakes and many are simply hunting for nude pictures. It has a higher hit rate if you are looking for a single male. I have a single girl friend who finds plenty of dates and NSA sex on there, but I don't know if they are cheaters or not.

 

It did do one thing for us. We posted an ad looking for bi couples, and all the responses were deadends except one couple. They told us they host regular bi couple private parties (we found out later they have profiles on a local swinger site). They and a few others organize these parties and always in the lookout for new people. Anyway, we exchanged emails, talked on the phone, and went to one of the parties to watch, no pressure at all. We have been going to their parties ever since and meeting new friends there that we don't even go to M&Gs or post ads anymore. It's a needle in a haystack, and unicorns may be even harder to find but you never know.

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My guess is that they are likely married as well. I know a couple of swinger wives that are into girls to the point of posting their own ads and seem to prefer that 1 on 1 thing over actually playing with husband's involved.

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Thanks to everyone for the replies! It all makes sense, especially the one comment where they could be married. One girl we talked to had a child, so she could've had a boyfriend or husband we didn't know about.

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I think that is pretty common for craig's list. Many people just want naked pictures.

 

I would look for events in your area. At our meet and greet and our local club we've met quite a few nice single girls. There might also be a better website in your area than sls.

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Now we don't look for unicorns but our rule is no naked pictures until we meet. If you can't decide if you want to have sex with is wearing beach clothes, seeing more wont change that.

 

The second one you talked about seemed like a pic collector an quite likely a guy.

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Now we don't look for unicorns but our rule is no naked pictures until we meet. If you can't decide if you want to have sex with is wearing beach clothes, seeing more wont change that.

 

The second one you talked about seemed like a pic collector an quite likely a guy.

 

I'd much rather decide I want to have sex with you while you still have clothes on... we all have too many imperfections that would likely turn us off before we ever got a chance to see all the things that would turn us on.

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CL is such a crap shoot.

 

Our rule on pics is never face and nudity. That way is anything leaks out...deny, deny, deny.

 

We do peruse CL from time to time. Rarely do we do answer any postings. Seems like they all want pics and text numbers or to drop everything and f..k

Right now!!!

 

If you think your experience is strange ,take a look at the w4w. They either want generous, spam, or most are posted assingle an d how bad they want to be with a woman but in the final few sentences say, I have a man but he only wants to watch, be OK with that. That's the same difference as single guys who set everything up but suddenly the gf is sick on date night.

 

Stay away from CL unless you want hard-core, PNP, drugs, meet and fuck. If you want to get to know one another, meet some same people,e'who may become your FWB, stick to a good pay site.

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