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Why is it that every profile we have looked at recently, or every couple that has made contact with us recently, it is way too obvious that the weight listed is so off it's ridiculous! And painfully obvious!

 

I (Mrs. NC) am very proud to say that I am 5'1 (and a 1/2), and my current is weight is 153 pounds. Oh, how I wish I could say 135 pounds again. Working on it, slowly. But why would I mislead? Just because I DESIRE to be 135 or less does not mean that I am. I am fun-sized, curvy, and very proud! Sometimes not so proud, sometimes a typical insecure woman that always thinks "These jeans make me look fat". Nope, not the jeans, it truly is some extra padding. Oh well, move on.

 

So being the size I am, and looking at some profiles, where a woman states she is 5'3 135 pounds. Um yeah, 135 pounds from the waist up!

 

A few months ago we were contacted by a couple, with full pictures. Her statistics listed her at 5'1, 140 pounds. That would make her lighter than me. I could've fit in her dress twice! So we actually did ask if the pictures were current. Their response was no, they're a little old, I've lost weight since then. Wait, wouldn't you be proud to show off the weight loss and post new pics? Saw them at the club a few weeks later. We understood why there were no updated pictures. Nothing had changed.

 

What is it that causes people to completely misrepresent themselves in this manner? Won't it be obvious if you choose to meet in person? What are they hoping to gain? Is it the husband creating a profile without her knowledge and guessing? Ok, I can forgive that one. Did the husband create the profile without her knowledge, lied, hoping to meet others?

 

Any woman on this board knows that it is very easy for or weight to fluctuate +/- 10 pounds. Can happen within weeks. But to mislead by 40+ pounds? If they are so willing to lie about their weight, what else would they lie about?

 

We are absolutely not looking for Ken and Barbie, or trying to sound superficial. We just want honesty. Period. You can't hide 40 pounds when the clothes come off. So why try?

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I think you may be on to somehting there. At first I always asumed that they were just not telling the truth. but now, I think your thoughts are more along the truth. the men creat a profile and have NO CLUE as to the actual weight. This can be forgivable to a certain extent but once the woman sees the mis-print, she should report the correct wieght.

 

The photo thing gets me too! We actually went to meet a couple who SWORE that the photos were updated recently. I guess the lady walked by an air hose on the way to the meeting cuz she was a good 25% bigger thant he photos. Our decision not to play had nothing to do with her weight and everythig to do with their personalities. A little off, if you will!

 

I guess you can blame the media for all of this. After all, there is not such thing as TRUTH IN ADVERTIZING these days! Hece the saying, "Let the buyer beware!"

 

I agree with you aobut the 10+- matter compltely. I will even go as far as say 20+- for winter months. But after that, COME ON!?!?! They don't think people willnotice. More over, they dont think this will be thought of as a ruse or even worse, an out right lie?

 

If a couple lies aobut one thing, what else are they going to lie about? That is what I concider most when looking at profiles that seem a little off. When I meet them in person, the matter is escalated and my ire is up!

 

We are not snobs. We do not turn away from everyone but Ken and barbie. We would be very frustrated if that were so. We look for the total package. Small, medium, large...It is the individual that matters. As a couple, if they both mesh well with us, we dont harp on the phisical.

 

WHEW! I think that one hit a nerve. Sorry!

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Funny, I actually was quietly cursing the people who list their height, but have their weight blank, or at 0lbs. It's a dead giveaway that she's a bit overweight (at best, and always seems to be the woman, never the man listing himself at 0). Sometimes thats no big deal at all; there are very many women who are incredibly sexy regardless of their weight. It's the feeling like they are trying to hide that fact that is a bit annoying. We're not too worried about what your actual weight is, we're not skinny bobble-heads either, but we do need to find you attractive and if we meet we're going to find out whether you just didnt fill out the weight for some unknown reason, or whether you actively didn't fill it out because you're 40lbs heavier than you wanted to admit to! Sounds kind of snobby writing it here, but as you said we're going to meet in person at some point so why try to play a game there at all?

 

Hope that doesn't come across badly lol, can be a touchy subject.

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Hit a nerve with us too, which prompted the post. So much of it lately! It's like bathing suits, where I read an article "Don't worry if the bathing suit you buy is 2-3 sizes bigger than your normal size, they're just made that way". Then why make them that way!!! Arrgh.

 

Weight is a sensitive subject, especially for women, I know. But like you (and we) said, you can't hide it when you meet in person, so what are you trying to hide anyway? If you're not proud of who you are, then the low self-esteem that you suffer from will NOT entice us to want to get to know you, be your friend, or even consider sharing our spouses with you!

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WOW 153 lbs MMMMM don't lose any more .. I like a girl I can on top of me.. them gals that say 115 lbs ... hummmm ... there fun to look at but do i want to sleep with them .. I'm afraid i would roll over on them and .... oh hell you know

 

 

 

I'm 6"3" 290 lbs just a big old redneck

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I have seen a few where they both list their weights at 0, or from the pictures it's obvious she's not overweight - so why list it as 0? I don't get it.

 

As for the listing the incorrect weight, I've noticed it too. And your post got me thinking... I don't know if it's the guy not knowing, or the woman assuming that mostly men will be looking and won't really be able to tell what a real weight looks like (since most women lie about their weight anway - right? :rollseyes:). But, what they don't count on is other women DO look at the profiles and other women know what a certain weight/ height combo looks like based on their own weight/ height and can tell if that body in that picture matches the dimensions given.

 

I'm 5"3, 135lbs. A year ago I was 5'3, 155lbs. Sometimes I look in the mirror and I still feel like I look 155lbs, it's hard to see the change. Othertimes, I know.. moreso when I go clothes shopping I KNOW the difference of what it looks like. Would Pet know the difference if he hadn't known what my weight was in both cases? I don't know, but I wouldn't assume that he wouldn't.

 

I think some women have been lying about their weight so long, and assume that others do it too, that they really honestly have no idea that people do know/ see the difference. And, then their husbands really may not know. They take their wife at her word for what she weighs (or they just guess).

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Hit a nerve with us too, which prompted the post. So much of it lately! It's like bathing suits, where I read an article "Don't worry if the bathing suit you buy is 2-3 sizes bigger than your normal size, they're just made that way". Then why make them that way!!! Arrgh.

 

 

I just read this and I have to reply... that makes no F'ing SENSE! Ok, when I was 20 I weighed about 110. The funny thing is that sizes HAVE changed since then. I know this because at 135 I am now wearing the same size I wore at 110. Make sense of that! So to tell me that it's ok if my swim suit is a couple of sizes larger than I know I wear because they are made that way is just backwards from what I have personally experienced in shopping over the last 15 years, and especially in the last year. The last time I was the size I am now was 6 years ago and I KNOW I'm wearing smaller sizes now than I was even 6 years ago at the same weight.

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To me its all about honest , if they can be honest about that , they are not going to honest about other things.

As CXXC as it about the whole package and if you click or not .

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EEEK!!!!!

What I see here are two options regarding the review of the profiles. Assume all women lie aobut their weigth and att 30 pounds or Just take it as it is reported and be plesantly surprised to meet a woman who reported it correctly!

 

Not posting a weight is just as bad in my opinion. That to me is like them saying, "Oh hell, they don't really care!" or "If I don't list it, perhaps they wont notice!" ACK!!!!

 

I have noticed men are more honest about this than not. The fact that most men know and rarely lie aobut it to others helps with the beliefe factor.

 

So women lie aobut it all the time huh? That is odd. Perhaps my little bubble of a world is aobut to pop! Mrs. CXXC comes through the bedroom screeming her wieght in frustration so often, I know what she weighs on a weekly basis. You would think someone as small as she is would feel OK with what she weighs. BUT NOOOOOO!!!!!! However, it is reported correctly.

 

6'4" 226 computer geek here! Was 231 a few weeks ago! Damn Easter vacation!!! ALL THAT HAM!!! I CAN'T HELP MYSELF! Mashed tatos, assorted rolls....... I'm drooling. Gotta stop!

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I just read this and I have to reply... that makes no F'ing SENSE! Ok, when I was 20 I weighed about 110. The funny thing is that sizes HAVE changed since then. I know this because at 135 I am now wearing the same size I wore at 110. Make sense of that! So to tell me that it's ok if my swim suit is a couple of sizes larger than I know I wear because they are made that way is just backwards from what I have personally experienced in shopping over the last 15 years, and especially in the last year. The last time I was the size I am now was 6 years ago and I KNOW I'm wearing smaller sizes now than I was even 6 years ago at the same weight.

 

REAON NUMBER ONE!!!!

 

By Dropping the sizes, they have incresed the sales of adult clothing. Children are now having to wear adult clothing (Costs more) as the sizing has been lowered to meet what was once the older childrens sizes.

 

REASON NUMBER TWO!!!!

 

By dropping the size of womens clothing to match the childrens bodies, the children are able to dress in more "Popular" fashions! this is why you see 10 year old gilrs dressing like 16 year olds and 15 year old girls dressing like 21 year olds!

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So women lie aobut it all the time huh? That is odd. Perhaps my little bubble of a world is aobut to pop! Mrs. CXXC comes through the bedroom screeming her wieght in frustration so often, I know what she weighs on a weekly basis. You would think someone as small as she is would feel OK with what she weighs. BUT NOOOOOO!!!!!! However, it is reported correctly.

 

 

I was being facetious about saying that all women lie about their weight. That does seem to be the attitude that some women take "well all women lie about their age and their weight" or that's just something you don't ask a lady. I've heard of women even going so far as to cut out the tags on their clothes rather than admit their true size.... but now that they are adjusting the sizes they shouldn't have to do that so much. Then again... 10 years ago all women strived to be a size 4. Now you can't be happy if you are larger than a 0! How the hell do you have a zero size anyway?! Shouldn't that mean you are wearing nothing!?

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I was being facetious about saying that all women lie about their weight. That does seem to be the attitude that some women take "well all women lie about their age and their weight" or that's just something you don't ask a lady. I've heard of women even going so far as to cut out the tags on their clothes rather than admit their true size.... but now that they are adjusting the sizes they shouldn't have to do that so much. Then again... 10 years ago all women strived to be a size 4. Now you can't be happy if you are larger than a 0! How the hell do you have a zero size anyway?! Shouldn't that mean you are wearing nothing!?

 

Julie

Try my niece! 00! I swear her prom dress was the same width as the sleave of her prom dates tux! and the damn dress cost a fortune! Again, less fabric higher cost! I know!

 

I have never been so foolish as to ask a woman her age and I would NEVER be as suicidal as to ask her weight! HA HA HAH A HA!!! Just put the semi-auto against my temple and pull the trigger!

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Our target range for play partners would probably be HWP, though that's hard to nail down. We're not restricting our search to super in shape people, heck we're not. But there is a range we desire. I do all of the online contacts and do get annoyed when the weight is not filled in. I don't understand why as sooner or later you are going to meet in person. I also don't like pictures that attempt to hide what one looks like. Like from the chest up, or the woman is behind something (her mate or some object). And actually I look at the weight of the man more than the woman as the wife has her preferences as well, 5'10 at 260 is not going to cut it for her, but 220 might be ok.

 

But I also understand that weight is not always an indicator of appearance as people carry it differently.

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I just read this and I have to reply... that makes no F'ing SENSE! Ok, when I was 20 I weighed about 110. The funny thing is that sizes HAVE changed since then. I know this because at 135 I am now wearing the same size I wore at 110.

 

I believe the phenomenon is known as "vanity sizing".

 

Some sizing issues are between companies...try a size 10 from 10 different stores and you might end up being in an 8 or a 12 depending on the manufacturer. :lol:

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mrs P and i are overweight... we don't bother lying about it... i mean if the weight puts them off on paper, i don't think we'd have clicked anyway... Mrs P has a rule, if there are no body shots, add 40 pounds to the listed weight. it hasn't been wrong yet!!!!

 

in saying that, Mrs P actually prefers bigger women, both to play with, and so she doesn't feel intimidated by a "skinnier" girl. this is one thing that harms those that lie.

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There's a great new couple in our area, but they have an oddity or two on their profile. For one, his weight is listed at 1 pound. Not zero-- one. Very strange. And he is not fat whatsoever. I know it's mostly him online, so I don't understand the reason for that. It's not that he feels he needs to hide his weight or lie about it... at least, he shouldn't feel that way (he looks yummy to me). So you just never know about people.

 

There have been a few times my weight has creeped up a few pounds from what's on our profile. I don't change it, because I am thinking that if I change it, it will somehow be okay to not lose the weight back. Some people might have only been shaving off a few pounds when they first listed their weight, and then were too bummed to change it as the pounds crept on.

 

Also, I think some people lie about their weight because they really, really want to be at the weight they have listed, and it seems like it's more real if they claim it to be so. "See? It's written down, it must be true!"

 

It reminds me of a riddle someone attributed to Abraham Lincoln: "How many legs does a dog have, if you call its tail a leg?" The answer is: four legs. Just because you CALL the tail a leg, doesn't make it a leg.

 

CXXC: my husband gets regular frustrated announcements of my weight, as well... but when I weigh more than my stated 144 pounds, he hears it every day instead of every week. He is so good at putting up with me.

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Ms Fuse

All of your reasons sound plausable. I would agree that if one adds and loses a few pounds here and there, it is not really worth the trouble of changing the weight specification.

 

I can see it ow, Mrs. CXXC forcing me to add a pound or two one day and then three days later having me change it to a different total. PURE MADDNESS!!!

 

Be that as it may, I do find the individuals who use partial pics or items to cover parts of their bodies to hide things are simply doing themselves and the potential playmate a disservice. COME ON! A piano? You are hiding behind a piano? Like THAT"S not going to tell me something!

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I must admit, I never bothered filling in the height/weight parts of our profile. It would be hard to do so with any degree of accuracy, since we don't possess a scale and only get weighed once a year at the doctor's office. Currently we're both 2 weeks into the South Beach diet to fit into our clothes better- didn't weigh ourselves before starting because I refuse to obsess about numbers.

 

However, we've had enough people answer our (free, another no-no) ad that it doesn't seem to matter. Mind you, have current pics of myself up with no piano between me and my corset-clad body, so I suppose that helps.

 

I'm not scared/ashamed of my weight, I just don't let it define me.

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I believe the phenomenon is known as "vanity sizing".

 

Some sizing issues are between companies...try a size 10 from 10 different stores and you might end up being in an 8 or a 12 depending on the manufacturer. :lol:

 

Very true. There's even one store that has completely resized everything to be a size 6 or less. When you walk in they explain how their sizing works. It's like S/M/L except it's 2/4/6 or something like that. I've always found that I can wear a slightly smaller size at say Old Navy than I can at other stores. It just makes it more frustrating to shop, than it already was.

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Very true. There's even one store that has completely resized everything to be a size 6 or less. When you walk in they explain how their sizing works. It's like S/M/L except it's 2/4/6 or something like that. I've always found that I can wear a slightly smaller size at say Old Navy than I can at other stores. It just makes it more frustrating to shop, than it already was.

 

I wonder if there is some method to that where they want to force you to have to try things on; perhaps some psychology behind it where you're more likely to buy something you've already tried on? Having a slightly different sizing method to everyone else might play a part in raising the number of people trying things on....

 

Random thought :)

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I ahve to say, I really feel for you ladies. Men have it made. We have our measurement in inches. NOT SIZES! THANK GOD!

I would just shoot myself if I had to deal with what you do.

Whats with the pantyhose sizing? A, A-B, B, and Queen? I think the limited sells SM, M, and LG. But that is it. I think you guys make it harder on yourselves. UGH! I may need a drink earlier than usual today!

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Hit a nerve with us too, which prompted the post. So much of it lately! It's like bathing suits, where I read an article "Don't worry if the bathing suit you buy is 2-3 sizes bigger than your normal size, they're just made that way".
Being a guy I could never understand when Mrs. Willing tells me that when she buys shoes the sizes are always different with different maker. I always thought (silly me) that a size 8 is a size 8 no matter what pattern the maker is using. I guess that same method is going on in womans cloths sizes. I guess it all comes back to image.

Now as for the weight fibbing on profiles Mrs Willing and I have been talking about that for a while now. "That woman can't be that weight" is often tossed around, even though it is not really an issues with either one of us in finding them attractive. Must just be a self esteem issue.

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SHOES!!!!! ARRRGGGG!!! Now that just drives me nuts. In truth, I have more shoes than Mrs. CXXC. The reason is quite simple. 13D is not as common a size as one would think. When I do find a pair that I like, fit, and dont make my feet look like gun boats, I buy one in black and another in brown. If I really like tham, I will buy two of the black as I know they will wear out in time and the chances of getting that same shoe in the future will be rare.

Bakc to the shoe sizing issue. I have noticed as of late that these are different by designer. There is NO WAY i wear a 15E. But according to Agner I do. Steven Madden, Stacy Adams and various other designers have stayed pretty mcuh the same. Hell, even gucci has not changed.

 

By the way, I don't buy these in the states! HA HA HA! Everyone here knows I am too cheap for that. Take a trip to Mexico City, Drive 80 miles south and you will find virtually every manufacturer there! Imagine if you will, the most elegant cap toe at florschiem that seels int he states for $235.00. I got them in MX for $15.00 a pair at the sweat shop! We go every other year to purchase a complete wardrobe. 3 tailored suits for $100.00! Not bad. I even got a tux for $13.00! HA HA! OH! Ummm... about the sizing! Jsut get everything tailored! Let them worry aobut it!

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I too have wondered about the weight thing. I also notice that many take pictures in such a way as to hide their weight as well.

 

This is like not numbering the seats on a plane with a 13th aisle because people are superstitious. Do you really think that the supernatural folks that are going to get you in Aisle 13 don't know you tried to cheat them by mislabling the row with a 14. Come on. I actually think that might make the supernatural folks a bit made, and i don't want to do that.

 

Me and the misses are well within HWP, at 6" 170 and 5'2" 115, but that doesn't tell the whole story does it. At 45, I could certainly use more than a few sit-ups. So, yes HWP, but not buffed by any stretch of the imagination. So, when we meet folks, we are really more concerned with how well they take care of themselves, not how much they weigh.

 

Back to the question. Lying here is just stupid. We are hoping to get together and get NAKED together. Their isn't any hiding then. So, assuming most people are reasonably intelligent, lying about their weight has to reflect some pretty deep emotions.

 

That said, is it any different from a man lying about the size of his cock. I'm almost exactly 7" when measured on the top of my erection to the "end of my super large bulbous head". :lol: I know that makes me a bit larger than average, but when we read posts and ads it seems that everyone is at least that size. In reality, and yes my wife and I have compared, very few partners have been as large as me.

 

So, women stretch the truth about their weight, societies pressure played out on these pages, AND men stretch the truth about the size of their manhood, once again societies pressure played out.

 

In both cases, if you click with those people you've emailed and chatted with, the truth will come out.

 

And since honesty is one key required to be a successful swinger couple, maybe we all need to be just as honest with our play partners. Don't we all want and deserve that much respect.

 

Be well,

 

S

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As I was reading this thread, we got Swing Lifestyle email from a couple who said they thought we'd met at a mixer on Friday night. The email gave their names, and they attached a picture. I looked at the picture, and at their profile heights and weights... and really had to squint. Their picture was REALLY out of date (I didn't even realize who the woman was at first) and their profile weights are just fantasies. If we had met them as a result of an online contact, I would have been pretty annoyed at how different they looked in person.

 

It is a bit annoying. You wonder, when the exaggerations turn into fantasies, what else they are completely deceiving themselves about?

 

On a related subject, I clicked on an AFF profile today that had no fewer than three pictures showing the guy's cock. Under "Male endowment", it said "Long/Thick". I'm thinking, "compared to WHAT?" It wasn't just average, it was darn small. That's sort of in the same category as lying about your weight and posting pictures that show what you really look like. What you look like, is what you look like. Your cock is your cock. Both of these couples will have no problem finding partners, but damn... the lying is a bit much.

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This is like not numbering the seats on a plane with a 13th aisle because people are superstitious.

 

I love that actually, the airline I fly has row 13's and I often choose that row specifically because there is a much higher chance I won't have anyone sitting beside me :)

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Just for fun... here's a VERY recent picture of both of us... taken yesterday.

 

We both hate the no weight or VERY wrong weight thing... AND out of date pictures. If they can't sell what they got with truthful advertising, we are not gonna 'buy' it. We have had a VERY wide range of playmates and some of our closest to date are not HWP. But they were genuine and always truthful about themselves.

 

I weigh in at 175 lbs. ad 5'11" tall - she weighs in at 165 lbs. and 5'6" tall.

 

We both believe in truthful advertising... :D

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It is a bit annoying. You wonder, when the exaggerations turn into fantasies, what else they are completely deceiving themselves about?

 

And that was exactly my point It's not that we are judgemental or looking for Ken and Barbie. We aren't Ken and Barbie either! But just be honest about who you are!

 

Prime example- we're running a weight loss competition at work right now. (I've only lost 5 pounds, gotta step it up!). Anyway, there is a female co-worker that spends her lunch hour every day walking around the block. She eats healthy. However..... I am a size 10 jeans (sometimes 12 thanks to the manufacturers). She has been just bragging about how she's a size 12 again. Ok, I don't know where she shops, but she weighed in this morning at 204 pounds. Hmm, wouldn't that 50 pound difference between us put me in a size 6? Again, why lie?? Why not just keep on working at it until you can honestly say that's your size/weight/whatever! Or just be proud of who you are.

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There are so many possible reasons, I've tried to smoosh them all together into one underlying reason people lie about weights.

 

Most people are delusional about certain aspects of life.

 

How they are delusional will vary, but sometimes I wonder how society just doesn't collapse on itself under the weight of false assumptions, delusions, and general idiocy.

 

It doesn't really bother me any more but only because we have gotten rather cynical and good at picking out true appearances from the fluff out there. Sure we all can find that one couple who is in good shape but has a zero weight listed and doesn't have good pictures, but those are quite rare.

 

Normally if they have a zero weight = over weight. If they dont' have pictures of the woman, shes hideous. If they have pictures where one is heavier than the other, the heavier one is the current one. If they say the pictures are a 'bit' old, they are a few years old and several big macs old. If they had kids since they started to swing and they havent' updated the photos, she hasn't lost the baby flab. If all the pictures of the woman are face forward cleavage shots, shes hiding her belly. If the pictures are all cropped at the neck, shes hiding her belly. Interestingly MOST of the lies have been on the female pictures. For the men IF they have pictures, they tend to be almost too honest. Its often the guy at their worst, not dressed up, and pretty casual.

 

You just start to get a feel for peoples veracity and what they are hiding after you meet enough people vrs what they posted.

 

 

 

13D is not as common a size as one would think.

 

Try getting 12E's, where one foot is slightly longer. Maybe I need to make trips to Mexico for clothes :)

 

But you know what they say, wide feet....

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

hard to find shoes.

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And that was exactly my point It's not that we are judgemental or looking for Ken and Barbie. We aren't Ken and Barbie either! But just be honest about who you are!

 

Prime example- we're running a weight loss competition at work right now. (I've only lost 5 pounds, gotta step it up!). Anyway, there is a female co-worker that spends her lunch hour every day walking around the block. She eats healthy. However..... I am a size 10 jeans (sometimes 12 thanks to the manufacturers). She has been just bragging about how she's a size 12 again. Ok, I don't know where she shops, but she weighed in this morning at 204 pounds. Hmm, wouldn't that 50 pound difference between us put me in a size 6? Again, why lie?? Why not just keep on working at it until you can honestly say that's your size/weight/whatever! Or just be proud of who you are.

 

:soapbox:

 

This is a prime example of why I'd rather not put a weight on profiles. I would prefer actually to put my measurements. That would be far more representative of my overall look than some stupid number on the digital scale each morning and certainly better than relying on a clothing size tag.

 

I'd just as soon not put a weight down on a profile because there's just too much disbelief on both ends in real life; I equally hear from those who don't seem to think I don't look my weight and those who refuse to believe my weight has me in a 6 to 8 to 10 size range.

 

I weighed 157 lbs this morning - obviously PMS and a weekend with carbs did me no favors, with a whopping 5 lb weight gain over 4 days. I am 5'7" (having lost an inch somewhere in the last 10 years). I wear anywhere from a 6 to a 10, depending on the manufacturer/designer, even with the extra bloat from carbs and PMS.

 

If what one puts down as a weight is already viewed as dishonest or incorrect by the majority, I think to myself, "what is the point of doing it at all?" Moreover, it's difficult to remain proud of the fact that I've lost about 80 lbs, continue to work on my diet and exercise habits and thus have kept that weight off for over 5 years, and am happily residing mostly in a size 8, (with the occasional 6) when there's someone snarking about "How can she get in a 6 or 8 at 155 lbs given I weigh less and am in a size XYZ!" And yes, it's been said plenty of times to my face. Personally speaking, I don't know how anyone can use such side-by-side comparisons as meaningful basis of anything! All of us have different heights, bone structures, muscle mass, fat percentages, metabolisms, etc. and our weights all look different and size differently on each of us.

 

And for the record, I did manage to sqeeze my fat ass into some 14s at 200 lbs; it can be done depending on way too many variables, such as the amount of Spandex in said jeans, if I laid down to zip up, etc. And I've had plenty of pictures recently where I sure felt I looked 50 lbs heavier than I actually am.

 

Yes, there are plenty of those who are lying, both in men and women. However, others are not. And with that, I'll get off my soapbox.

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Its not fair that peeps aren't honest about their weight. Attitudes are the whats attractive. I'm definitely no lite weight, but averaged with my beautiful wife, we're an attrractive couple. Plus, we're looking better as we work-out getting ready for Jamaica in August.

 

, if you want a network to get fit with. Its working for us...just needs more lifestylers.

 

Friends should be friends, through life's trials and tribulations.

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On a related subject, I clicked on an AFF profile today that had no fewer than three pictures showing the guy's cock. Under "Male endowment", it said "Long/Thick". I'm thinking, "compared to WHAT?" .

 

OMG Mrs. Fuse, I hate that shit on AFF too! Interesting how the men get to use cute little adjectives like "long/thick" ... oh but we have to put in our exact bra sizes!

 

And, of course, there is no "a bit small than an acutal A cup" choice, cause that's me LOL. (It IS nice not to "have" to wear a bra :rolleyes:)

 

:) Trixie

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And that was exactly my point It's not that we are judgemental or looking for Ken and Barbie. We aren't Ken and Barbie either! But just be honest about who you are!

 

Prime example- we're running a weight loss competition at work right now. (I've only lost 5 pounds, gotta step it up!). Anyway, there is a female co-worker that spends her lunch hour every day walking around the block. She eats healthy. However..... I am a size 10 jeans (sometimes 12 thanks to the manufacturers). She has been just bragging about how she's a size 12 again. Ok, I don't know where she shops, but she weighed in this morning at 204 pounds. Hmm, wouldn't that 50 pound difference between us put me in a size 6? Again, why lie?? Why not just keep on working at it until you can honestly say that's your size/weight/whatever! Or just be proud of who you are.

 

Actually, I really did wear a size 12 when I weighed 200lbs. Just wanted to let you know that it's *totally* possible due to individual differences in body shape. I now weigh around 225-ish and a size 16 or 18, depending on design (as many here have already stated). So yeah, it's possible that your coworker isn't kidding! :)

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I do understand that point. I guess without the visual what I was trying to say about my co-worker doesn't really com across well and was a bad example.

 

If you saw us side by side, it would make more sense.

 

And really everyone, we weren't trying in any way to bring up what the perfect weight is or even size, merely that many profiles we have seen are very misleading. We no longer even look at the weight, just the pictures. If we like the pictures, we don't really care what the box says for weight or what size jeans either one of them are in.

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I think people lie (It may be more accurate to say they're "kidding themselves.") about their weight because they're embarrassed by it.

 

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I do understand that point. I guess without the visual what I was trying to say about my co-worker doesn't really com across well and was a bad example.

 

If you saw us side by side, it would make more sense.

 

And really everyone, we weren't trying in any way to bring up what the perfect weight is or even size, merely that many profiles we have seen are very misleading. We no longer even look at the weight, just the pictures. If we like the pictures, we don't really care what the box says for weight or what size jeans either one of them are in.

 

Oh, I totally understood where you were coming from since the beginning! I'd honestly rather see weights listed as "0lbs" than a lie! We don't care about people's weights at all... but I come from a family where none of the women lie about their age or weight LOL. We're an odd bunch I guess. I'm chubby and people either love it or hate it... but that's their right. Fortunately for us, the hubby & I tend to think that variety is the spice of life! :)

 

It does bother me when I see other chubby folks with profiles saying "We're HWP and prefer that you be also!"... or an obviously plus sized wife where a profile says "No BBW's!" LOL!!! Those make me go :confused: but again, I guess people are attracted to what they're attracted to!

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I think people lie (It may be more accurate to say they're "kidding themselves.") about their weight because they're embarrassed by it.

 

Mr. Alura

 

That sounds right.

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Thanks, Chicup. I feel good when we agree.

 

I'm compelled to say a few words about weight. From high school until Laura's death in February, I weighed 134 pounds or close to it. (There was a time in Afghanistan in 1971 when, after a bout with amoebic dysentery, I weighed 110, but that was a health issue. I don't recommend dysentery as a method of weight management.) In April, I noticed my jeans didn't fit anymore so I stepped onto the scale. 119.5. I dropped further to 118 but have been trying to eat more. This morning I was at 121.5, so I'm coming back!

 

I must admit I like slender women. During our 29 years together, Laura ranged from slender (when we met) to obese (over 200) to slim (during the couple of years before she died). (I loved her the whole time.)

 

It's more than cosmetic. Laura's ONLY increased risk factor for breast cancer was her weight. She did everything else right. She breast fed, ate a healthy, if excessive at times, diet and did everything else that was supposed to ward of the illness.

 

So, let me encourage everyone to get your weight right. The comforting "full" feeling is not worth it, considering the damage that it does. Ignore today's commercials that "full" is "good."

 

And, ladies, NEVER ever miss or delay a mammogram. Laura put one off (for a year) until the harassment from our family doctor's office had it's effect, but it was too late. The tumor was an inch in diameter and had sent cells into the lymph system.

 

I apologize for the preaching, but confess that I feel strongly about this issue. Plus, if our weight is average, we won't have to lie about it.

 

Mr. Alura

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Different sites have different ways of describing weight. On SLS we are honest about both our weights. On AFF you have to pick a body style. I am 6 foot and weigh 200 lbs, my doctor says I should weigh 180 max. Therefore, I list myself as a few extra pounds. I see plenty of men that describe themselves as average and they have a bigger gut than me. I am OK with that because when we do meet people they compliment us on being exactly what we say we are in our profile. I have to assume many of the people that lie like that, never have any intention of meeting.

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Weight is a crazy thing. And gets women all crazy in the head, which is incredibly annoying (I am a woman.) One site we belong to gives us weight categories, but the ranges get larger as the numbers get larger. So the choices are:

 

100 lbs or less

101-115 (14 lb range)

116-125 (9 lb range)

126-135 (9 lb range)

136-150 (14 lb range)

151-175 (24 lb range)

176-200 (24 lb range)

201-250 (49 lb range)

Over 250

 

My weight is in the just-over-200 range, meaning I weigh between about 204 and 207. I am 5'4" which means I am not small for sure! But I do feel like 175-200 is a better choice than 201-250, even if it means I am technically lying. If only for the simple reason that many people would be WAY more likely to click right past our profile if they think I weigh in the 250 pound range.

 

So, is that wrong of me?

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So, is that wrong of me?

 

I think honestly is the best policy but I think what's more important is to have recent photos that's a good representation of what you really look like. I don't think I would like ranges like that either.

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Weight is a crazy thing. And gets women all crazy in the head, which is incredibly annoying (I am a woman.) One site we belong to gives us weight categories, but the ranges get larger as the numbers get larger. So the choices are:

 

100 lbs or less

101-115 (14 lb range)

116-125 (9 lb range)

126-135 (9 lb range)

136-150 (14 lb range)

151-175 (24 lb range)

176-200 (24 lb range)

201-250 (49 lb range)

Over 250

 

My weight is in the just-over-200 range, meaning I weigh between about 204 and 207. I am 5'4" which means I am not small for sure! But I do feel like 175-200 is a better choice than 201-250, even if it means I am technically lying. If only for the simple reason that many people would be WAY more likely to click right past our profile if they think I weigh in the 250 pound range.

 

So, is that wrong of me?

 

Ah, that looks like LL.

 

I'm 203, I put the 176-200 range myself.

 

I think if I recall if you go into it from your profile they have a different range of numbers, rather than the initial profile.

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I think honestly is the best policy but I think what's more important is to have recent photos that's a good representation of what you really look like. I don't think I would like ranges like that either.

 

So true. If you are not going to be honest with yourself, at least have the recent pictures to be honest with the rest of us.

 

We are both listed on one site as "a few extra pounds". We decided that was accurate because, honestly, we both know we are 20 pounds overweight. We were reading one ad last night that described the woman in the profile as a BBW. Looking at the pictures, she was a BBW. Yet in the stats she listed herself as a few extra pounds. Does that mean we can now call ourselves average? ( then again, wouldnt 20 pounds overweight be considered average in America?) :rollseye:

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It's a relative comparison to flaky standards.

 

I'm slightly below the average/normal weight for those of my height in my state, but that's well above the (ideal) average/normal weight for my height in the medical texts.

 

Now which standard do you think I'm going to use?

 

"Average" for the population, or

 

"A few extra pounds" according to my doctor?

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PICTURES say a thousand words!

 

Mrs. CXXC and I have learned to take the weights listed and just toss the idea out the window! We look at the pictures. I have seen wieghts listed as a few extra pounds where the person was quite large. I have also seen the complete opposite yet holding to the same claim.

 

One individual has devoted an entire paragraph on their profile to explain his weight. The individual is 6'6" weighing nearly 300 pounds. If anyone looked at the text and just clocked through they would have missed something very important. the guy was a body builder! He was HUGE! The guys skin looked like it was on too tight! He had muscles in his saliva! however, he weighed almost 300 pounds! That, I guess would be over weight for a 6'6" man! HA HA HA

 

On the flip side, I have seen pictures of people claiming to weigh 125lbs with photos clearly showing a larger individual. Here, I think the man put the wieght in. Guys are horrible at getting wieghts right!

 

My point to all of this, it may not always be a lie. sometimes, it is just incorrect. However, look at the photos. They dont lie. and NO! I dont think they add any weight to the subject!

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Hmm, I always make it a point to be very, very honest about my weight. People are going to find out you're lying, it's incredibly obvious. Plus, if I lie about it they're going to like me for the weight I lied about and not for who I really am. I would RATHER find someone who is nuts about the weight I am now, rather than someone who is nuts about the weight I pretend to be. I'm incredibly proud to be very plump and curvaceous (dare I say FAT?) and I think I look amazing naked. My confidence is nearly as sexy as my plump and delicious hips. I would never tell anyone that I weighed a pound less than 180 right now, even though I've weighed 120 before. I'm happier with my weight now, no reason to lie about it.

 

I'm just not cut out for couples/men that like skinny women, and I'm absolutely ok with that!

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I guess some folk feel there's a need to exaggerate or lie about the numbers - (try throwing those stats out there in metric-numbers to see if that makes people blink a few more times, eh?)

 

While I don't think it's right to outright LIE about one's weight or size - to say you're "average" in build or size is pretty vague & subject to one's perspectives. I knew a gal who was CONVINCED that average size for a man's penis is 8 or 9 inches. (I dunno what kinda donkey-men she's been boinking - but DAMN ... I felt inadequet and I hadn't even met her in person!)

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Ah, lying about the length of your man parts is just silly. I've known lots of men to say "It's about 8 inches" and after meeting them, being convinced they have their ruler upside down.

 

That's such a turn off. I don't really care about the size, but if you feel the need to tell me at least be honest about it.

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Ah, lying about the length of your man parts is just silly. I've known lots of men to say "It's about 8 inches" and after meeting them, being convinced they have their ruler upside down.

 

That's such a turn off. I don't really care about the size, but if you feel the need to tell me at least be honest about it.

 

Yeah - I could measure myself out to eight inches ... but I'd have to start with the ruler up my ass! (*laughing*)

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