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I'm talking about profile pictures here.

 

Ones that show the posters in everyday clothing, fully dressed?

 

or

 

Ones that are more sexual? Little or no clothing, provocative poses, etc.

 

We're new here, and just wondering how best to present ourselves. I'm thinking we shouldn't be so..."out there"...because that doesn't really feel right for us. Guess I just answered my own question, huh. :lol:

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We prefer to see the "whole" person. Clothed or naked does not matter so much but we do not want to see just a close up shot of their "package!"

 

When people send us nothing but the close up shots we delete them. If that is the main picture in their profile then we just move on and don't bother reading.

 

If a person feels that their best shot is a close up of their dick then we are not interested at all.

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We belong to several boards, and the underlying issue that is paramount on all of them is that swingers are not porn stars. By that I mean we are everyday people, with kids, jobs, bills, and all the problems that go along with 2005. That being said, we seem to have better communication skills with our partners, as well as the increased libido to actively act out our fantasys. That is why a full picture is so important. If you are proud of your breasts, or have great legs, be sure to include them, but if you can't show your face to compliment the rest of those wonderful parts, you are incomplete. I see so many "amateur" clips that are shot from behind, and all you see is this ass moving up and down on some legs. Maybe for some, but doesn't do anything for me. Show me a face, with expression, as well as the 'up and down', and that's sexy.

 

Sorry, got a little long winded, but I think swingers are a lot more classy and discriminating and want a whole person, not just parts.

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VegasLee said:

If a person feels that their best shot is a close up of their dick then we are not interested at all.

 

Dito! My sentiments exactly. I keep hoping that enough men will read posts like this one, spread the word and it will stop!

 

I love to see pictures of couples that are real. Provocative, clothed, whatever... just real pictures in real settings. Candid pictures are the best I think.

 

And seeing the whole person (people) is good.

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I agree with VegasLee, we do not like shots of just your "package" (man or woman). That will turn us off immediately!

 

We prefer to see a little skin (normally neck to waistline) so we can see what your body REALLY looks like. Full body shots with skimpy clothes or with out clothes are fine as long as they are done tastefully. Leaving a little to the imagination is good. We do not post face pics where just anyone can see them but they are part of our private pics that we will open to those that e-mail us that we want to go farther with. I agree with the other post that a face is very important and tells a lot about people and we meet no one with out seeing their faces first. But I understand if that is reserved for only those you plan on getting to know better.

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I prefer to see the person before the body so to speak. I really hate when someone sends me a pic or the pic in the profile is nothing but a cock/pussy shot. A little warning would be nice, since some of us do have little kidlets. Thats a side issue though.. I just dont think that a persons best side is ever what is between thier legs. I dont pick my partners that way.

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Naked photos? No way! We want you folks to see us the way we are everyday. By the way, that's the way I want to see ya'll too. Just 'cause your naked doesn't mean I'm getting it on with ya.

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I am incredibly turned off by close up shots of certain body parts - I'm constantly surprised about what some peopel think the rest of us want to see. Are there people out there who truly appreciate the dick or pussy close up pictures?

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I hate the close up pics of people genitalia but in the same aspect I would never put a picture of my face on the internet. If I talk to you or chat with you and then feel comfortable sharing those pics, I then will give you pics of my face.

 

Discreetness is essential to me. I am complete but I just don't care to show my whole body to everyone and their dog. I would never consider meeting anyone without seeing facial pics first and I would never expect someone to do that with me either. But I will share those pics only with people I feel comfortable with and know that there is a great potential to meeting in person.

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I didn't think the original question was about closeups of genitalia, but about sensual/sexy/provocative pictures as opposed to ones we could show our parents!

 

Now, I too HATE the genitalia pictures...though I've seen some very intriquing and beautiful erotic pictures of people here and elsewhere with little to nothing on.

 

On the other hand, I am just as happy seeing a "family" type photo. I agree with VegasLee...I like to see the whole person, no matter whether the shot is provocative or casual.

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We like a little of both and we have some of each on our profile...as private pix!

 

We may send a private photo to someone in an e-mail to let them see our faces. We will usually tell them that our privates show genitalia. Some of them are close ups. All tastefully done and edited by Fem D before the decision is made to install them as part of our private profile.

 

There really is soooo much more that goes into desiring to know someone though. Photos may be an initial turn off if the photo isn't a good one or it doesn't show the person in their best light. In our opinion, (we caution you) that is NOT the end of the deal. You start to chat and find out about their personalities and grow to like them through that way. Then the initial disinterest may turn into interest...Phone calls (something that doesn't happen enough) should be made to hear the voices and to be sure that everyone is on the same page, but that too can change over time. One thing we have learned in the past few months is to never judge a book by it's cover.

 

Anyway, that is my two cents worth.

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webbguy said:
How is my new profile pic? I it too tame? :)

 

NO! not too tame. I'm much more comfortable with a pic like that than one that's so "in your face." :kiss:

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Although I applaud those who are open enough about their sexuality to show it all and not worry, my woman and I live in a smaller community where our fantasies and sex life might be discriminated against, or teased about. Therefore, pictures which could be copied and shared with others with whom we might not want, just isn't in the cards for us. Personally I keep pictures private, but, I can't be convinced that others on the internet would be as discreet. But, I do enjoy seeing faces and bodies of people who don't have our scruples. Perhaps, some day, we'll change, but for now.....

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We, too, like to see the whole person in a photo. If an actual face shot isn't posted on an ad, it should be available to send privately or something. The close-up genital shots are a turn off, especially on guys, and we must agree with an earlier post that said if that's your best feature, we'll pass.... lol. We may show some skin on some of our pics, but we're not baring it all for the whole world to see. Pics in sexy clothes, or engaged in some activity (and we don't mean sex) are nice to see- it gives you an idea of someone's personality and interests.

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For us we have clothed and then pics of us getting one of our fantasies fulfilled in our private photos. With that bit on 20/20 the Mrs. put all pics in private so if someone asks to see ours they are going to see all pics. They are tastefully done and for us it was fun to have those pics done. We like to see pics of the whole person. The close up genitalia shots dont do anything for either one of us. I have seen some pics that have piqued my curiousity but that doesnt mean it turned me on. That is our two cents.

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We like to see g-rated/normal pics first. If we meet, hit it off, then we share more risque pics. Seeing the normal one first give a better idea of the couple and why not leave a little something to the imagination?

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I like to see a shot of the entire person, including face. If it is a little enticing or provacative, in a classy way, that is good also.

 

I am a little put off when someone I don't know sends me a picture of themselves naked or exposing their genitalia in the initial contact. Makes me wonder how discreet they are about other things.

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sexy is ok, but sexy, not 'butchers block' closeups.. :)

 

one tip, don't use the flash. take your pictures using daylight, or a bright light shining against a wall... it makes the world of difference.

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We prefer pictures of both halves of the couple. It's amazing how many great looking women marry the son of Frankenstein. The wife gets frustrated on the site we use as “he” seems to be invisible and “she” has 100 pictures. We also skip profiles with close-ups of the privates. This just seems crude to us and we look for folks with class.

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We have nothing heavier than PG posted on our public profile. We have some R photos in our private pics on our profile. We prefer G, PG, and R pics on profiles. Most important is full body shots, whether clothed or naked. We are very turned-off by crotch only shots. It's okay if you have one on your profile, just make sure it isn't the only thing we see of you. :)

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We agree with all of you. We like to see g-rated pics or classy sexy pics not close up nudes. I don't mind if those are part of the private pics but not the default pic. I like to leave something to be discovered.

 

Son of frankenstein djjwp, that is so true. I am also really turned off if there is no pic of the guy. That happens a lot. I am bi and like to look at the girl pics but I also need to see the guy. I feel if he is that bad that they won't even post something then I'm not interested. I have pics of both of us on our profile, no faces in the public pics though but a good representation of what we look like body-wise.

 

Good point JimWActg about being discreet. I never thought of that but it makes sense.

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NaughtyKitten, love the name, We agree.

 

We like what we call tastefully erotic. We tend to shy away from profiles with crotch shots. The more erotic shots we do like to look at, but actually they push us away from contacting them.

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Dito NaughtyKitten

 

What is up with NO pictures of the guy. I really hate that. :mad:

 

FEM D

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We have a G-rated pic on our profile - we also like to see G-rated pics too. It leaves something to the imagination.

 

Jenn and James

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NaughtyKitten, love the name,

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Thanks! A friend gave me the nickname kitten recently, and I love it. I added the naughty. If you like tasefully erotic you should check out our profile and see if that is what you mean. I think they turned out good. SLS ntyktncpl.

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Dito NaughtyKitten

 

What is up with NO pictures of the guy. I really hate that. :mad:

 

FEM D

I just assume he must be horribly disfugured or something. :lol:

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I admire photos that show some thought was put into them. It is too easy in these digital days to simply strip down and take a pic.

 

I would rather see a picture that reflects a persons style and taste and what their idea of when and how they look attractive. Same as I look for when first meeting someone.

 

Innuendo is much sexier than blatant, at least to me!

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Everybody likes diffents thing when looking at photos. For us we like full body shots with lacy things and for the guy underwear, etc... We really don't like those closeup, body part shots where unless they come in a photo series where you show all parts and can get a look at the person behind them. Because we do this for a living, we try and photo the whole person in different moods and states of dress. Hmmmm did that make sense LOL Surrender

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I always feel a photo sends a message of who you are in character. A photo has personality and it's important to consider what part of your personality you're showing to the public.

 

I enjoy seeing how a person likes to dress. I also like seeing what they surround themselves with, whether it be while they're on vacation or when at home. Everything in the picture sends a message about them; for this reason it's important to be aware of what else is in a picture with you.

 

Too often, people forget that the pile of clothes in the corner or the ironing board next to them really stands out more than they do.

 

LM

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Now my thoughts on pics...truthfully I think people put to much into looking at pics. What we have found is most look way better than their pics. We have sexy ones of me and just added a couple more of hubby (all g rated of him) but I would hope that those that we talk to would also look at our personalities as well . I think pics should be a small part of your decision to play. Personality rates so much more. Yes there should be some pics of both on any site to give you an IDEA of what the person looks like after all there does have to be some physical attraction. We have meet some that we thought were soooo hot and turns out that they have the personality of a rock!! So when we look at pics on the different sites we belong to we like to see full body but doesn't have to be nekkid or sexual. Full clothed is just fine sine if we like each other we will all get nekkid soon enough. but I wont turn down looking at sexy ones after all YES I love perving pics! But if they dont have very many or no sexy ones that is fine. I just need a general idea of what they look like...and then if we talk their personality will make them either sexier or a total turn-off.

 

but that is just my 2 cents for the day!!

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Personality is big with us too. We always like to meet people first for coffee, see if there is chemistry, and then set up a date from there.

 

Part of chemistry is personality. We are attracted to couples not because of their looks but for their personality. If your personality is dull and boring, it doesn't set a good tone for the future. If you're not over attractive but have a charming, witty, or bubbly personality, chances are that we will be up for another date.

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BradAndJanet said:
What I really like is to see people laughing and having a good time. Happy people are sexy. :)

 

I agree... I also like to see natural pics. All that posing and make up can be really misleading. Good candid shots can tell you so much more about someone, and their true beauty.

 

Roxy :)

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I love your avatar pic Roxysbayou, I've admired it in the past and I want to make mention of it now since I have the chance. It's soooooo sexy

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Another comment about pics on people's ads.....does anyone else think it's weird or ....something....that some people use their WEDDING photos on a swinger's ad site? For some reason, it just kinda strikes us as a really undesirable thing to see on someone's ad.

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see we always want a face shot/body shot clothing optional as long as its tasteful. We belong to sights that its normal to post body shots but there has been many of messages that I have replied back"Does this penis have a face????" I think many men are so insecure with their package that they feel we gotta see it first. Makes no sense to me. Now I post face shots alot of the time but they are professional shots and I have had no one come up to me and say I saw you on such and such site. :rolleyes:

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wolfnblu said:
Another comment about pics on people's ads.....does anyone else think it's weird or ....something....that some people use their WEDDING photos on a swinger's ad site? For some reason, it just kinda strikes us as a really undesirable thing to see on someone's ad.

I feel the same Wolfnblu!! It just seems...... wrong somehow. :eek:

 

I prefer G rated shots myself. I don't care if they have faces on them, ours do not. But I do have face shots in our private pics and won't open up them to someone who won't show me their face. ;)

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wolfnblu said:
Another comment about pics on people's ads.....does anyone else think it's weird or ....something....that some people use their WEDDING photos on a swinger's ad site? For some reason, it just kinda strikes us as a really undesirable thing to see on someone's ad.

Yep, I agree. I can only figure that is the one picture that shows them at their best in their opinion.

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