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How many people have quit the lifestyle due to STD fear or acquisition?

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Just wondering how many have quit swinging due to STD concerns?

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If someone has a fear of STD's why would they be in the lifestyle to begin with?

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We adjusted by forming a closed group with other like-minded couples. It's possible, but very unlikely, that someone will cheat. There's just so much readily available among us - everything from a quick hard fuck to a date doing something the wife isn't interested in.

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If they quit, they probably wouldn't be still coming here... just saying.

 

Very logical point.

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One could ask, "How many people have quit sex altogether due to STD fear?" Your vanilla marriage husband of twenty years could cheat on you with the young promiscuous woman at the gym. Us having sex within our family and our one married boyfriend with a wife who knows, actually decreases the risk. With what's available to all of us, there's much less reason to look elsewhere.

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I'm sure it has happened but I've never heard of anyone getting an STD from swinging?

 

You ever?

 

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Yes. HPV, HSV2, Chlamydia. We personally know people who contracted these from swinging. We know more swingers who have contracted HPV than not. 

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On 3/1/2020 at 9:24 AM, njbm said:

Yes. HPV, HSV2, Chlamydia.

When I was very young cooties was also a fear.

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Our good friend just had a hysterectomy as a result of multiple HPV infections. Another female swinging friend had cervical cancer. Another has had multiple procedures to have irregular cells removed. 

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It’s like getting up on the diving board.  The first time, you walk out, or even crawl out the the end and kind of step off.  Before long you’ve added a nice little jump, you’re actually diving, maybe a twist or a flip and you’re eyeing the high dive.

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It is predominately a need of self research and understanding of what each risk may be and practical avoidance.   Compared to normal dating and sexual practices of the vanilla world where contracting something has a higher rate, much higher than in the lifestyle, the lifestyle in most cases is far safer as well as more sexually fulfilling.

 

for most all participants in the lifestyle the age of participation is older, usually 35 to 65.  Not to say there is not younger or older participants, just the regular age range.   The core age group varies a bit but 40s to late 50s seems most evident.  As a result, knowledge, life experience and mature reasoning and thinking can be expected.  Most only participate locally to regionally.  Most all attend house parties or private group gatherings.  Many grow more to a semi polyamorous type group relationship.  More avoid an open public party forum.  Most all know what they want, interests, what works....rather than the hit or miss bar/club scene.

 

all of this and other smaller points bring this to a much safer experience then many would think.

 

 

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Well I will be a negative Nancy to be realistic. A high percentage of the public has HPV and/or HSV. The rates must be higher among active swingers. Condom usage helps prevent the spread of these infections, but it is far from bullet proof or even reliable.

 

If you want to swing with this knowledge, you are moving forward knowing and accepting the risks. To think that people who swing have a lower risk than the general public seems counterintuitive to me. Active serial sex seekers have less infections than people with no or one partner at a time? 
 

I am sure that I am more sensitive to this issue in light of the coronavirus issue, which is rampant in New Jersey. 

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The lifestyle is a closed community, so the stigma of STDs holds far more weight than in the vanilla world.  I believe most couples hide their status and schedule dates around flare ups.  Add in the open secret that plenty in the lifestyle go bareback on occasion, and it becomes obvious HPV and HSV are prevalent in the lifestyle.   There is no contact tracing in the lifestyle.  Couples just silently drop out or give other reasons that provide the possibility to return.  

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