My wife and I have been married for a while. We go to clubs and play with each other. We have even experienced a soft swap before. For our anniversary we are going to Hedo and we both would to see the other in a full swap. However we never have nor does she ever want to use condoms when we play with each other. I'm trying to find what the proper etiquette is in this situation. If we are playing or just finished playing and then others become part of it my fluids could or would still be inside of her. She says that she is taking the same risk when she goes down on another lady. She says that if we have penetration with others there should be a condom but not between our self? Opinions please?