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    Default Oral sex swapping advice please.

    My wife and I had our first experience last night. I have a thread about it on the appropriate board. We had discussed beforehand that we are good with oral sex and we did not hesitate to exchange oral with our playmates last night. It's pretty clear how oral sex is done safely in fellatio but cunnilingus is a different story. How do others perform oral sex while swapping. Is it just a no go for you? Do you use your best judgement? Is there some way of eating pussy protected that I'm not aware of? I love eating pussy and we had no doubts about the cleanliness of our playmates last night. We really do not want to rule out oral sex but we could use some advice from more experienced swingers.


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    I don't want to discount the dangers in swinging, but through life we do things that are dangerous. I ski. When I ski, I drink heavily and smoke a lot of pot. I am easily the most effed up person on the hill but I am having a blast. I don't hurt anyone and I take responsibility for my own injuries. I have the option of skiing straight, slow, and only on groomed runs. But I wouldn't go skiing.
    You can take all the danger and fun out of swinging. A dental dam is perfectly safe way to perform cunnilingus. And I can't imagine the feelings of the person you are doing this to.
    If I remember correctly, about 90% of our immune system is located between our lips and stomach. If your mouth isn't bleeding, you are probably safe enough to eat without fear. If you are too skeeked out, maybe a different hobby?

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    I love the taste of a woman and would likely have never swapped if oral sex had been off the table. We chose couples who had been married for years and had little (or no) exposure outside their marriage. I'm sure they could have lied to us, but we had a pretty good feel for that, too. Dental Dams? No, thanks. If that had been my option, I'd have taken my delicious wife and gone home.
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    It is typical to not use protection during oral sex. Risky? Yes...but so are a lot of other common things in life.
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    If some protection is required for oral sex, either giving or receiving, then I'd rather just not have oral sex. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, so if that's the rule they want to have, that is fine, but those of us that don't have that rule also have the right to give a polite "no thanks". Is there some risk there? I'm sure there is, but like I posted in another thread on the same subject recently, there is risk in driving to the grocery store too but that doesn't keep me from doing it without giving it a second thought. There is risk in nearly everything, you just have to find your happy place and then go with it.
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    I can't answer about the swapping part only my experience in dating. I have never given a blowjob to anyone wearing a condom. I don't think it has ever been brought up. It is hard enough to make sure it is used during sex. As a matter of fact if we didn't have a condom, oral was all we were going to do before I was on birth control. About guys going down on me, not all guys have done that. Especially when I was younger. I read in another thread about dental dams and I laughed. I used to be afraid that I wasn't clean or smelled like flowers. I would make sure I would wash with sweet smelling soap. It is funny that I had no problem putting something in my mouth and worried about that. If I can take him in my mouth, I am not putting a rubber sheet on me. I enjoy getting oral sex. I have joked about breaking guys jaws and have been very satisfied with just oral. Recently for the first time in my life I went down on a girlfriend. no protection used. It was quite different than giving a blowjob and I think I want to again.

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    My sister in law is a gorgeous but very straight laced redhead. She started dating a guy shortly after her divorce was final and after several months decided to sleep with him at his place. Foreplay had just started when she heard him fumbling around. The next time he touched her, near her pussy, he was wearing surgical gloves!! Even she thought that was taking the germaphobe thing way too far. That was their last date. My point is similar to others, there ARE risks with any sexual partner unless you're having sex alone…then you run the risk of abrasion. Some risk is inherent in swinging but can be mitigated by refining your selection process. I can tell you that Mrs Doc would NEVER put a latex sheathed penis in her mouth and if I was told I had to use a dental dam to go down on a woman we'd be dressed and out the door in a heartbeat. We try to be smart AND safe without missing the best parts of sex which include skin, taste, texture, fluids and pheromones. It is a balancing act.

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    Quote Originally Posted by padoc View Post
    My sister in law is a gorgeous but very straight laced redhead. She started dating a guy shortly after her divorce was final and after several months decided to sleep with him at his place. Foreplay had just started when she heard him fumbling around. The next time he touched her, near her pussy, he was wearing surgical gloves!! Even she thought that was taking the germaphobe thing way too far. That was their last date. My point is similar to others, there ARE risks with any sexual partner unless you're having sex alone…then you run the risk of abrasion. Some risk is inherent in swinging but can be mitigated by refining your selection process. I can tell you that Mrs Doc would NEVER put a latex sheathed penis in her mouth and if I was told I had to use a dental dam to go down on a woman we'd be dressed and out the door in a heartbeat. We try to be smart AND safe without missing the best parts of sex which include skin, taste, texture, fluids and pheromones. It is a balancing act.
    At one level your story is hilarious, PAdoc. But it's also appalling. I think the outcome of their ill-fated courtship is in some sense unsurprising. That two full-grown adults would date for "months" before becoming sexually engaged is I suggest a bit unusual in this day and age. Perhaps I'm not the best to judge this, as my dates are all in the LS (and mostly couples) and if we aren't in bed on the first date we are on the second, or we are both moving on. :-) In any case I certainly hope your sister-in-law's social life has improved since then. I cannot imagine what she must have thought when she felt latex-clad fingers brushing her lower abdomen. Good for her for beating a hasty retreat.

    And I completely agree with your observation that it's the sensory aspects -- tactile delight of skin-on-skin and your partner's flavors and aromas that make a sexual engagement transcendent rather than merely pleasant.

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    Quote Originally Posted by padoc View Post
    I can tell you that Mrs Doc would NEVER put a latex sheathed penis in her mouth and if I was told I had to use a dental dam to go down on a woman we'd be dressed and out the door in a heartbeat. We try to be smart AND safe without missing the best parts of sex which include skin, taste, texture, fluids and pheromones. It is a balancing act.
    Seconded. We both agreed early on that whatever happened, this would be undesirable. Mrs. EastInWest had a hard time, initially, with the idea of men she didn't know well cumming her mouth, but she had a harder time with the idea of men she didn't know well cumming into a condom in her mouth. It was a revealing moment: she was far more offended by the idea of giving a mediocre blowjob than the idea of giving it "unsafely". It was just the taboo that was holding her up.

    She seems to be getting over it. I'm happy for her. We just don't consider it that risky.


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    You have the right to make up your own rules how you play and you have a right to be picky with who you let in your bedroom. But when you place to much rules your choices in getting who you want become very slim. You'll get plenty of men who'll line up to be invited but couples not so much. If you do want to swing but hate the risk involved then just venture in to voyeurism. Find couples that enjoy to be watched or enjoy same room sex. Another option is to become poly with a couple or female. To let someone in to your life that you completely trust that won't venture out. Good luck with everything.

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    What are the most likely risks from unprotected oral sex? HSV 2?

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    Quote Originally Posted by njbm View Post
    What are the most likely risks from unprotected oral sex? HSV 2?
    HSV2 of the mouth would be highly unlikely, HSV1 of the mouth is possible, but you are much, much more likely to contract that from kissing. HSV1 transmitted to the receiver's genitalia is possible if the receiver does not already have HSV1 in their nervous system.

    Oral chlamydia and gonorrhea are possible if the person you are going down on has one of these infections. Someone could have these bacteria in their throat and pass it to the receiver.

    HIV transmission via oral sex is very rare.
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    I have heard concerns voiced about swallowing pre-cum, but I remain unaware of what STD or STI it could cause. I think HPV would be unlikely as well, correct?

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    When we first started swinging, I had guys wear a condom even for oral sex. But, I didn’t like it nearly as much. And, after all, I didn’t expect them to slip on over their tongues.

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    HPV infection of the throat is pretty common. Usually it is asymptomatic, but it can lead to throat cancer. https://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-...gealcancer.htm
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    I've heard of people using saran wrap as a barrier for oral sex with a woman. I've never used any kind of "protection" for oral, and if someone tried to put saran wrap over me before going down I think I would just call the whole thing off. lol

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    Never used protection for oral, always for vaginal penetration. Never had any problem, and I've been doing this for 15 years.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Mrs.Rockin View Post
    I've heard of people using saran wrap as a barrier for oral sex with a woman. I've never used any kind of "protection" for oral, and if someone tried to put saran wrap over me before going down I think I would just call the whole thing off. lol
    With the experience of many years and even more partners I've found that for a surprisingly large proportion of women, as pleasurable as they might find intercourse, they like receiving oral even more. They pleasure they collectively expressed in a way trained me to love all the aspects of giving women oral - the taste, the smell and the sight of a woman's pussy, and all the variations that exist - are as strongly gratifying for me as any other aspect of erotic activity. And I like a really wide range. :-)

    Unfortunately, my beloved (and pleasingly horny) wife as a result of a series of bladder infections early in our relationship, developed a dread of receiving oral. I'm grateful that when she masturbates manually as part of foreplay, she offers me her fingers to lick and suck. But it's not satisfying in the way that burying my face between a woman's thighs is. (Fortunately all of my play partners are more than happy to receive my oral ministrations.)

    My wife and I did once try oral with a dental dam. It was about as satisfying for me as licking a balloon, and even less so for her.

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    We were with a couple and I went down on his wife. Things seemed very slippery and it took me a while as a newbie to realize that most likely she had had unprotected sex with either her husband or someone. I was pretty sure that the slippery and taste and sex smell was from sperm. It worried me that I could be exposed to STI but nothing happened. Surely if you are at a club you should also condomize with your wife respecting others who might be with her later or might lick her later.

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    I have never used protection to give or get oral sex, as I expect with the super majority of those that swing.

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    We do not use condoms for oral sex, never have

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