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When is a condom... uh... used?

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So the other day we were playing with a very good single male friend of ours... We had just gotten finished with "round 2" when I walked around the bed...

 

There - lying like a newly shed snake skin, still wet in the sun, was something that obviously wasn't mine...

 

"Ummm, I hate to be accusatory, but is this your USED condom?" It was a bit of a rhetorical question - after all, I don't use them with my wife and my wife doesn't need them since she doesn't have a weiner of her own...

 

"Well, technically, it isn't 'USED'" was the smart ass response...

 

"What do you mean it isn't 'technically USED'?"

 

"Well - I didn't finish with it..."

 

"Well..." somewhat speechless, "I'm still not picking it up..."

 

Now, to put this in perspective, this is a really good friend and we pick at each other quite a bit. Being the gentleman that he is, he picked up his condom and disposed of it.

 

My question is - when in the hell is a condom USED?

 

I am thinking if it has been wrapped around schlong, it is a goner... It's not "almost new" or "like new" or "gently experienced" - it's USED...

 

To be honest, now that I think about it, I am squeamish enough to say that if another guy brings a condom, pulls it out of the wrapper and hands it to me - I don't want it... It's USED enough even then...

 

What do you think?

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I am thinking if it has been wrapped around schlong, it is a goner... It's not "almost new" or "like new" or "gently experienced" - it's USED...

 

 

Yeah, I agree with ya! It was used. :lol:

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I am thinking if it has been wrapped around schlong, it is a goner... It's not "almost new" or "like new" or "gently experienced" - it's USED...

It's also not a "certified previously owned condom"

 

For me, when it is unrolled, it's used.

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two4youinswva said:
It's also not a "certified previously owned condom"

 

Just to clarify - as I am one of those who likes to anticipate objection - EVEN if it has had a multi-point quality inspection and never been smoked in?

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I have to agree, it was used. Once it's been put on it is USED. You can't take it off and put it back on again (at least not very easily), so it's used.

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I would consider it 'used' only after it has performed the duty for which it was intended.

 

Until then it remains 'usable'.

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Er.... it's a bit tricky putting one back on again once it's been on and off!!

 

"Used" - definitely.

 

CB

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This thread is just to funny!!! :lol:

 

Sounds a little like the 5 second rule with dropping food or utensils on the floor. If you can get to it before 5 seconds have gone by, it is OK to eat or use... :D

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playmatesinpgh said:
Sounds a little like the 5 second rule with dropping food or utensils on the floor. If you can get to it before 5 seconds have gone by, it is OK to eat or use... :D

 

If you pull it off, drop it on the floor and pick it up within five seconds...

 

You can eat it, if you want to...

 

::P:

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Yep.... used.

 

Maybe you should put a wastebasket next to the bed?

 

Maybe since the hurricane there is a condom shortage or something, and he was in the rationing program?

 

Maybe he is just a frugal sort, that recycles his condoms?

 

Maybe he needed it for his Halloween Costume?

 

I am not sure, but it is used and there is nothing more to say. The minute it is out of the wrapper it is used, in my opinion. I even hate to see a guy open one and hand it to another.

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I even hate to see a guy open one and hand it to another.

 

For those who feel this way, can you say why?

 

As the female, I have no problem watching this and even find the cooperation between the guys to be a turn-on.

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I read an article many years ago, that did research on several different condoms. The article stated that the minute the lubricated condom was touched, bacteria start to form, in the lubricating agent.

 

The article stated that a condom is traditionally made to last for no more than an hour per wear.

 

It has always just sorta creeped me out, I guess.

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Spoomonkey said:
If you pull it off, drop it on the floor and pick it up within five seconds...

 

You can eat it, if you want to...

 

::P:

 

:lol::lol:

 

Guess it would be like gum; just chew on it till the flavor runs low. :eek:

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"I would consider it 'used' only after it has performed the duty for which it was intended."

 

Since a condom is used to prevent STD's and not just pregnancy and also since an STD could be transferred or a woman become pregnant (pre cum) without actual full ejaculation then I would say that a condom has "performed the duty for which it was intended" as soon as it is worn

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tribbles said:
I even hate to see a guy open one and hand it to another.

 

For those who feel this way, can you say why?

 

As the female, I have no problem watching this and even find the cooperation between the guys to be a turn-on.

 

Well it's great if a guy doesn't have a condom and another guy will share but does he have to unwrap it for him? :eek: Just had him the condom and let him do it.

 

I don't think it's good for it to be in too many hands before it's intended use. :rolleyes:

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I guess I don't see a problem with guy # 1 touching it by handing it to guy #2-even out of the wrapper if it has not been unrolled yet. But then, so far I don't like the 1:1 swap stuff...I like the group stuff better....so maybe anything that hints at group cooperation gives me a little 'lift'.

 

What if I unwrap it and hand it to my DH to use on another woman we are both playing with? And it was just easier for me to get to the condom and cuz he was busy, I did the honors of unwrapping it? Even putting it on him? Does it feel any different -less ick or same ick factor?

 

This may be another one of those everyone has their own individual likes/dislikes thingy.....no real right or wrong, just what floats or sinks your boat. :)

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tribbles said:
This may be another one of those everyone has their own individual likes/dislikes thingy.....no real right or wrong, just what floats or sinks your boat. :)

 

I think that is what it is. Can't always explain it, just some things kind of make you shudder at the thought :lol:

 

As far as unwrapping for Mr Spoo, I am usually busy with the woman's husband :D or if it's a single woman, keeping her occupied in other ways :rolleyes:

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tribbles said:
What if I unwrap it and hand it to my DH to use on another woman we are both playing with?

 

Yep - honestly - I would feel differently about that... Couldn't tell you why, really, but the scenario of my wife or female playmate unwrapping my condom and giving it to me (or putting it on me) is pretty hot...

 

To be honest, though, I have played many times with other men in the play room and have yet to have a guy say, "here you go, buddy" and hand me an unwrapped condom. If that happened, I say, "Thanks, but I have my own."

 

If he asked if I minded if he put it on me... well... *willies*

 

I suppose for me then a condom is used when I male touches the exposed latex of the condom - however briefly, however lightly, however casually. Once he's touched it - it is his to use, pitch or eat...

 

If a female touches the condom, it has more shelf life...

 

Now - if she rubs it on a guy's chest, plays tug of war with the guy, pulls it out of his mouth to keep him from eating it - then it is HIS condom, and quite used at that point.

 

A condom just kind of says penis to me...

 

MY condom says MY penis - and since I am all about MY penis, I'm cool with that. Someone else's condom - regardless of how fleeting the relationship between condom and wanker - says someone else's penis - which I am not particularly cool with...

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To clarify.....

 

I have no issue with girl unwrapping condom and install on dick. I don't mind doing that task myself, even.

 

There is just something about a guy unwrapping it and handing it to another guy.

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If he asked if I minded if he put it on me... well... *willies*

 

:lol:

 

Okay.... that one left a splattering of tea all over my monitor!

 

So, does "willy" have the same meaning in US English slang as it does in English/British English slang?

 

CB

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I believe that once it has been "installed" on the appropriate member, it needs to be disposed of correctly. Only one set of hands should touch the actually condom. As a female, it is kind of disgusting to think of another male touching the actually condom that will be inside of you. One female would never ask anyone to hand them their diaphragm.

 

You should consider the condom used once it enters the female. Or another man touches it :eek:

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All the wit on this one has mostly been played out.

 

I think N should offer the other male the condom if he is too stupid to remember he is to use it. She is good about that.

 

On the other hand, if "he" even looks at the condom, still wrapped or not, "I" considered it "used"! First up, best dressed kind of thing. :lol:

 

Great post.

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You people swap and do all kind of sexual things with strangers and swallow all types of body fluids and do "cream pies" and you are squeamish about a condom????

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You people swap and do all kind of sexual things with strangers and swallow all types of body fluids and do "cream pies" and you are squeamish about a condom????

I don't do "cream pies" ;)

 

 

So, does "willy" have the same meaning in US English slang as it does in English/British English slang?

"Willy"= American Slang for Penis.

 

"The Willies"= That involuntary shudder that ripples through your body when you find something "distasteful".

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brilliantbrunet said:
You people swap and do all kind of sexual things with strangers and swallow all types of body fluids and do "cream pies" and you are squeamish about a condom????

 

Not ALL of us do EVERYTHING you list. Each person has different interests, different boundaries and different levels of squeamishness...

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You people swap and do all kind of sexual things with strangers and swallow all types of body fluids and do "cream pies" and you are squeamish about a condom????

 

You PEOPLE??? :eek:

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northindycpl said:
You PEOPLE??? :eek:

 

Huh...

 

I hadn't caught that...

 

People is far too general a phrase...

 

First of all - let's say maybe half of all swingers - and that is pretty generous - have sex with strangers. I tend to believe that MOST swingers begin in smaller, tighter groups and stay there. That's my thought, anyway... I think that it is actually the minority of swingers who are actually involved in clubs, internet dating, etc.

 

But to be generous - we'll go with half...

 

Of that half, I would guess probably a minutia actually do "all kinds of sexual things." Most have boundaries somewhere, eliminating some of the nastier "kinds" of acts...

 

Probably that same minutia would actually swallow "all kinds" of bodily fluids. There are a lot of different body fluids out there, so "all kinds" probably knocks out all but the freakiest among us...

 

Heck, even those who will swallow sperm for a partner is a representative minority...

 

The fact that we are discussing condoms at all means that we are probably not all doing "cream pies". A few of us are - but most of us aren't.

 

And - here's the kicker - this thread was started by a monkey, and while I am proud to occasionally be considered a "people"... Well... Let's be honest here...

 

So - chances are the "you PEOPLE" she is referring to is probably not well represented on this board or in the lifestyle. In fact, my guess would be the "swallow-anything, do-anything-sexual" swingers she's referring to are probably the few very far left field types who saw the "five second rule" applied to eating condoms...

 

Sat back slowly in their chairs...

 

And said, "good idea"...

 

I think his name is Billy and his breath smells like turds and he has a bad case of syphilis...

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When it's been removed from it's package, touched and been breathed upon by somebody... and/or (for us) it's been torn open and exposed to air and light. Don't cha think? :)

 

I'd return just about any food item (or cosmetic for that matter) to the store PRONTO if I came home and found

the seal tampered with or missing.

 

Your friend's very questionable condom should be a no-brainer.

Funny friend!

 

:lol:

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Recycle.

 

I rinse mine off and hang them on the dish rack to dry, like plastic sandwich bags and empty water bottles.

 

 

(kidding....)

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They are not THAT expensive! And I have never heard of a nationwide condom shortage. (Wouldn't society as a whole be all the happier if it were so? ) :rolleyes:

 

It was definitely used.

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It's also not a "certified previously owned condom"

 

For me, when it is unrolled, it's used.

 

 

LOL @ this and your comment earlier in the thread.

 

this is kind of in the vein i was thinking about this;

a) who can get one of the bastards back on after it's unrolled

b) and who's this houdini slapping one on so quick nobody sees him doing it.

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Two comments;

1.There used to be re-usable condoms. Rather thicker than normal condoms, and they even had their own drying cage. You washed them out and drew them down over this plastic coated wire device.

 

2. I was told that you used condoms on every conceivable occasion.

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I liked that comment out recycling the condom...turning it inside out and using it again....a really kinky thing to do...

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Recycling condoms? "Inconceivable!"

 

A condom just kind of says penis to me
Lol--Spoo, you crack me up!

 

Seriously, though--talking condoms would be a hoot. But what would they say . . . ?

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