The fact that you told her at least this aspect of your personality isn't a bad thing, it took you 28 years to get to that point which you should have talked about before you were married or as soon as you yourself realized it, but whats done is done so ok better late.Originally Posted by DKent
I won't comment about the whole cheating thing because there is nothing more I can add there that hasn't been said.
I will comment on your motivation. It IS selfish, 100% selfish. Sure you want to swing with your wife because YOU want to swing with your wife not because she wants to swing with you.
Really its kind of tragic if you ask me. For 28 years your wife never knew you and you hid what you were from her for whatever reason. I don't know if I'm lucky or if I'm good, but I know I never have to fear my wife learning something about who I am or what I've done. Hell, as I've often joked, 'Honey you knew that before you married me.'.