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My question is how would you feel if your man asked you to use a strap-on dildo on him?

 

My wife and I have good sex and it seems to be getting better with age; we are in our 40's. I have always enjoyed anal stimulation and she sometimes she will insert a finger or two into my rectum while giving me oral sex and this drives me out of my mind.

 

She is not into anal sex (we tried a couple of times) and I respect her wishes and would not push anything that she is not comfortable with but I really can't stop thinking about a women using a strap-on dildo on me. I am not Bi, just that area has a lot of feeling for me and I am afraid if I would ask her to do this she will think I am over the edge.

 

I hope to experience this form of sex play sometime soon. I am open to suggestions.

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The first time I asked her to do that she was reluctant to say the least. After a while, she opened up to the idea. Our first attempt was comical - she developed a new appreciation for the male anatomy! Now, we do it occasionally and have a great time when we do.

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Welcome by the way!

 

I have brought the topic up to my wife. She hasn't said yes, but she hasn't said no either. She has used her vibrator on me a few times, and it drives me crazy! Im still hoping she says yes to the whole strap on thing eventually! :D

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Well... I've mentioned to my SO a few times that I'd like to use a strap-on with him. He's not so certain he's ready for that yet, although I have played with him anally with a vibrator toy and my fingers. He really seems to enjoy that, and I believe that's making him more curious to try a little more. It turns me on very much as well.

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First of all, music2man, I think it's great that you can communicate your desires so openly with your wife. If you've been following the topics here about anal sex, you can see it's pretty divided about how people feel about it. Some like it, some don't.

 

It sounds like you've both worked up to the idea (at least) of some more exploration with anal stimulation. She knows you enjoy it, and she is happy to do what makes you feel wonderful.

 

You might want to consider trying a small dildo before a strap-on. If my partner wanted me to pleasure him with a strap-on, I'd say yes....but would want to try out using a small toy first, so I could learn what and how to pleasure him.

 

I don't think your question or desire is over the edge at all! The prostate is very sensitive, and most men seem to welcome some form of anal stimulation.

 

Now personally, this is something I need to work on: perhaps I was raised with a strict attitude about the rectum being unclean...or whatever. It is just something I have a difficult time accepting. So for me, I don't do anal sex. However, if my lover wanted me to try something where he received.....I'd ask for his guidance, as it's terra incognita for me.

 

I'd worry about my nails injuring him....etc. and I think I need to just let go of some old 'conditioning' as far as believing it is unclean...and therefore not a good thing to share. What's really important to me is pleasuring my partner. He gives me tremendous pleasure...most enthusiastically and lovingly....so it's only fair I be open to try out what will send him over the moon.

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I think I am not alone from the replys except for bobandsandy (way to Go)

 

nwazscor, you said this would turns you on, the women would not be stimulated duing this sex act so it the turn on due to being in control. I know if I am giving my partner great pleasure I can almost cum with out much stimulation. Sometimes it is in giving that we receive.

 

NightGoddess brought up some very important point about the whole anal sex thing. I agree most people have a negitive attutide about anal sex. This could largely be due because that part of the body is thought to be unclean. At the same time it can be a big turn on ( like children doing something bad and getting away with it)

 

The point about being clean is of the most importance. I know I do not want to be subconscious during sex if my partner does stimulate my ass, when she pulls out ,things are a different color, Big turn off for her and me. One of the most important things to keep in mind is to prepare for anal sex by cleansing the colon. Adminstrating a warm cleansing enema to you partner can be a form of forplay and there are some good health benefits about a occasional cleansing of the colon, and the warm water will help you relax for easier penetration. soapbox

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I've always wanted to see what a strap-on felt like with my past girlfriends but they weren't too interested in trying:rolleyes:

 

One of them even said: "What are you, gay"? I said no, I just wanted to experiment and try new things. She gave me a weird look like I was crazy.

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Originally posted by gsu22

I've always wanted to see what a strap-on felt like with my past girlfriends but they weren't too interested in trying:rolleyes:

 

One of them even said: "What are you, gay"? I said no, I just wanted to experiment and try new things. She gave me a weird look like I was crazy.

 

-- Too bad the girlfriends didn't see the opportunity for trying something new and go for it.....however, as my partner says, "Isn't getting older great?!".....we leave behind those old ways of thinking and being....and enjoy. Hope you get your fantasy, gentlemen ;)

 

Oh, and thanks for the info about cleansing before playing....makes sense to me, and explains how the situation gets changed from a 'dirty' venue.....to 'clean'....if that makes sense! (lol)

 

Very informative thread!

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Although we haven't used a strap on for her, we do enjoy using a double dong in the same fashion. It is also GREAT for doing it "Lesbian Style"..... what a trip :claps:

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I think I would to a double take to my husband if he wanted me to use a strap on with him. I thinks that would be so erotic to see and of course do. But of course he has is boundries when it comes to what he wants stimulating him. I have been using my fingers in his anal area. But is it strange, with the other spouse/hub that I have been with , they would have loved to have a small vibrator. How can you convince your own hub on how stimulating it is for me to watch him get pleasure in any way..?

 

Does anyone have any ideas?:confused:

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After a few drink with my wife she decides to try anal sitmulation with me, Maybe that's why we were drinking first, Anyway I loved it, We talked about a strap on and one day she came Home with one. We've used it a couple of times and it is great,

 

I think this whole subject with a male and his anus is such a taboo subject (in some circles), My wife does house parties that sells adult novilities, And the amount of anal toys that are bought for the males are incredible. It happens all the time but nobody want to admit it.

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haha... interesting.. it was me who approached my husband about doing him with a strap on..

I dont know why but I can see me in some sexy thigh highs.. and giving it to him good :)

:8-0::

 

he has been receptive to it but we are working out way up there.. starting slow :)

I never really had a bad attitude about it being dirty... I just make sure that we are both clean before we go into anal play. :D

~Luxuria

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My boyfriend asked me to try a strap on on him and I said "sure." He went out and purchased one with a very small dildo. He LOVES it and I love giving him that pleasure! (Sometimes I think anal stimulation is the best way for him to come. Any other straight guys out there like that?)

 

One night, we even acted out a fantasy and he surprised me by going down and giving my strap-on head! He asked me if this turned me on and I said, "yes", but to be honest, it freaked me out a little. (Although I found it very intesting how he would give a blow job. I learned a few things that night!)

 

You think I have anything to worry about? He just gets into the darn strap-on too much! Is going down on over the top? Jury still out for me on that one.

 

Any thoughts?

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You have to deceide what's over the top for you, Something that might be outlandish and crazy to you might be the norm for someone else.

 

I've done the blow job to a strap on before, but then again my wife says she want to see me with another guy ( hasn't happened yet), So it was a big turn on for her,

 

Maybe it was something he always wanted to try and you having a strap on let him experiance his fanatise without really doing it,

 

Communication is the key in this and any sistuation, Would you have a problem if he was into oral with a guy?

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Originally posted by JC2you

My boyfriend asked me to try a strap on on him and I said "sure." He went out and purchased one with a very small dildo. He LOVES it and I love giving him that pleasure! (Sometimes I think anal stimulation is the best way for him to come. Any other straight guys out there like that?)

 

One night, we even acted out a fantasy and he surprised me by going down and giving my strap-on head! He asked me if this turned me on and I said, "yes", but to be honest, it freaked me out a little. (Although I found it very intesting how he would give a blow job. I learned a few things that night!)

 

You think I have anything to worry about? He just gets into the darn strap-on too much! Is going down on over the top? Jury still out for me on that one.

 

Any thoughts?

 

Ok, with regards to you using the strap-on on him, there appear to be no real problems, since you admit that he "LOVES" it, and you enjoy giving him pleasure.

 

As to his going down on the strap-on . . . well, if it was slightly unnerving for you to see him doing that, you ought to consider telling him about your reaction (assuming you haven't already). Open and honest communication is one of the standard answers around here for ensuring that situations don't get out of hand.

 

Question is: why *did* it freak you out? Was it simply the sight of him pleasuring a toy? Or was it the thought that he might be fantasizing about doing the same thing to another man?

 

I'd suggest it's important for you to try and be clear in your own head as to why this event disturbed you. If your boyfriend *is* having bisexual fantasies that he would like to pursue – and that's a facet of his sexuality that you'd be uncomfortable with – then you really need to establish that now. Then again - and to try and put things into some sort of perspective - it might simply be a case of fantasy and role-playing on his part. Not every fantasy we have is one we'd want to enact in real life.

 

Do you have anything to worry about? Hard to say. If he's having bisexual fantasies that he'd like to act on, and you have a problem with that, then the answer might be "yes". If he's just being a little too keen to involve the strap-on in your love play, then you might simply need to remind him that there are other facets of your sexuality you'd like to explore, ones that don't always necessitate the use of strap-ons.

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I too have asked my husband to let me use a strap-on! I am very turned on by his ass anyway. I love to lay on top of him, and grind my pussy into his ass (gets me hot just thinking of it)! We both enjoy when I lick his ass, and he has allowed me to use my finger to stimulate him anally. He really gets into that, but is hesitant to let me get the strap-on. I think he is afraid that he won't be "manly" anymore, if I do him. I have told him over and over, not to be concerned about that because he's ALL MAN! Anyway, I hope soon he will let me try.

 

I think with anything sexually, both of you have to be comfortable and open to try it. I would never demand anything from him that we weren't both totally comfortable with. In my experiences, I have found that the quickest way to get someone to say "NO", is to insist that they do something.

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I have told my boyfriend that although I do enjoy uing the strap-on and other toys on him, that I do want just "straight sex" . I dont want to have to include the toys and kinky play each time we have sex. After I told hoim that, we didnt have sex for three days. On the third day, I told him I missed him and he talked about getting out the strap on!! I said "are you kidding me?" I told him I LOVE the toys, but having sex without is important to me also. He said he agreed and gave his best shot and making love to me without them. Personally, I think he missed the anal play. It took him forever to come -- and sometimes he just wont without them. I now know how much he needs anal play/toys. Without it, he (says) he enjoys it, but he sometimes wont come. This kind of makes me sad.

 

My boyfriend says that when he uses the strap on, goes down on it, sucks on it, and talks about fantasies of a fem male going down on him-- it is just a fantasy. But then other times he talks about how it is probably true that the same sex would probably know how to give you better oral sex and that it is a fantasy of his to be with a fem. male. He even asked me if it would turn me on more to see him fuck a male or to get fucked. It does turn me on, but not sure how I would feel if it happened. I just wonder since we have already filled his fantasies of the strap on and giving it head, that what is next? He loves anal play and wonder since he had experienced things building up to ths, what else would he want to try?

 

I "may" be able to watch him get a blow job from another man and would get off watching him suck another guy off (with fingers in ass), but secretly would HATE to lose him enjoying the opposite sex too much. He can already 'come' better with anal play, so this scares me! If I talk to him about it, he downplays it and says I am the hottest thing he has ever had and loves making love to me. (Personally, I think he then struggles to come with me having straight sex. It is then that I usually he gets frustrated and just says he really enjoyed that (w/o coming) or I will get out a toy for him because it is frustrating that he will not come otherwise.)

 

Help!!! Any thoughts?

 

BTW-- his hair dresser for the past 11 years is very gay. He talks to me about the guys that hit on him when he is having his hair cut. He told me that the guy that cuts his hair is a drag queen and has invited him to parties and drag shows. He says he has never went, but would love to go with me. He told me he was sorry he has never been able to go before. Do I have any concern?

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I think what freaked me out was the fact he got into giving head to the strap on so much it spooked me. He does it now even when I dont ask him too. Yes, I visualize him with a man and although it does turn me on, it scares me to think he is a closeted bi curious or bi male. Why? I just fear -- and these are fears -- that because he loves anal play so much -- probably more than straight sex with me -- and now knowing he enjoys giving head to my strap on -- that I will not be able to turn him on with straight sex anymore. That is, sex with no toys or anal play. We seem to be headed there already, although when I speak to him about it, he says he loves being with me first and foremost, but then he often does not come when we are having straight sex. With anal play, he shoots like a rocket! Then I get frustrated (but hide it) and get out a toy so he can come. He seems to totally dig it and enjoy that type of sex much more. It kind of makes me sad in a way..... I love my boyfriend, not my vibrator!

 

When I speak to him about this, he will just have straight sex with me for a day or so, and says he loves it. But if he did -- then why is he not coming? I try not to make him feel ackward about it, but it is really weighing on my mind. Even if he was bi -- he would never admit it. He thinks he is the stud of all studs, you know?!

 

Any more thoughts?

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Most of my toys are ultra realistics and I get so absolutely turned on when I slap Sir Mike's cheeks with them...

 

:hahaha:

 

 

Slutty Wife

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Slutty Wife, you are so crazy!

 

Music2Man, yes i would use a strap-on with my partner. If it makes him feel good, then woo-hoo. I just want him to be happy.

 

To be honest, we both enjoy a little anal play. And in fact, we bought some beads and lube over the weekend. He likes the beads more than I, but I don't have a prostate. Go figure.:lol:

 

I will insert right here that enjoy penetrating my partner. It's like I get to be him, and he gets to be me! Hope that's not too perverted. It's all about the partnership!

 

Now, to answer JC2you. I couldn't help but feel the fear and confusion in your posts. It sounds like you already have your answers but are reluctant to face them. And I can't blame you. Relationships are difficult, especially when dealing with a burgeoning sexuality.

 

I identify as bisexual and my partner identifies as bi-curious. And yes, I understand that if/when he has encounters with men, my partner will discover things about himself. He may find that he prefers men, but that's a risk I'm willing to take for the sake of his happiness. The point is, though, he is an autonomous agent. I do not own his sexuality, nor does he own mine. As no one can own anyone's sexuality. All that any of us can do is be supportive of those we love. This is what friendship is about right?

 

If your BF is gay, he's gay, and you'll have to accept it. And if you are worried about him having sex with other men, why aren't you bothered by him swinging with other women? Just curious, that's all.

 

Also, I noticed that you had mentioned that you are hiding how you really feel. This alone can be detrimental to your relationship. I don't know how long you all have been seeing each other, but it sounds like you have some things to talk about.

 

If he really means that much to you, encourage him to find and fulfill himself. He may find that he was only curious. Maybe he'll identify as bisexual, and things will become even more exciting!

 

If he's gay and your relationship doesn't work out, you'll always have a friend.

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Music2man,

 

Lucky Wife! I would be so excited if my hubby would let me stimulate him anally in any way - with a strap on would be amazing!! Kudos to you for being open to the new...:claps:

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Reading this post I thought we were insane for trying this out. I wanted to test drive my new strap on and get a feel for how I would be able to control it. He was never into anal play until a swing partner massaged his prostate (something I've heard of once and didn't think it was something I was into). He wasn't that receptive to it at first, he thought it was a little freaky and a little gay for him but when I told him he was being silly, that it was still his wife giving him pleasure, he told me to give it a try. He actually enjoyed it, I was surprised. I don't know if it's because I hit the right places or what it was he enjoyed. We only tried it that one time and probably won't again, but I'm glad he was open minded enough to give it a try, even if it was just one time.

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I'm glad you revived this thread, Ali...

 

I was thinking about this last night. The very thought of doing this to my husband turned me on wickedly. I'm not sure if he'd be receptive or not.

 

I'm going to have to buy a strap on and find out. ;)

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My wife and I have introduced this into our relationship and we both get off HARD whenever it takes place. I suppose it helps that we're both bi, but knowing that she's getting as much pleasure from riding me as I am from being ridden adds to it.

 

Don't be shy guys - take it like a man.

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I want a cock!!!

 

:lol: I do have penis envy at times. I think it would feel so good to stick it into either a man or woman.

 

I have wanted a strap-on, or something that works like one for a long time now. I'm waiting to get a recommendation from some of you ladies. :kissface:

 

Ves, I looked at those from the UK. I like the one were you don't have to have a strap. But I wonder if I could hold it tight enough to withstand the banging I'd give somebody. :lol:

 

My PC muscles get a regular work out, but I don't know if they're strong enough to support that weighty device.

 

LM

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We have a Feeldoe and have used it numerous times.

 

As far as the PC muscles being able to hold it in, well...no matter how hard you squeeze when things start getting wet it does tend to slip out. The best way we have found to use it is by using one of the other strap-ons we have that was made for interchangable dildos. It works really great with it.

 

I was real excited about the Feeldoe when we first got it but upon using it I felt like they should have made the bulb a little larger but using it with the other stap it works really good and you do get quite a bit of stimulation from it as you thrust.

 

As far as the other one that Ves linked to, had that one at one time too, it was okay but I like the Feeldoe w/strap much better.

 

Teresa

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On giving strap on head...

Its a power exchange I think. Recieving head is a big visual kick, the way her face changes shape, the (dare I say it) submission, or wish to please is a huge turn on (for me). So maybe he wants you to experience it.

 

On feeldoe...

...mmmmm

 

On the subject in general...

It's so taboo. We talked about it after a late night TV show and went into London together to a (mainly lesbian) shop that fitted my partner with hers. The whole situation still makes me feel a bit strange / nervous. For me its about giving up control mostly. I like being on top (only way to use the feeldoe without the extra help of a harness) while she wanks me, but having your hips grasped and being F**&%$ is an experience that I think makes me as a bloke a far more considerate and uderstanding straight lover.

 

I would say though that since these experiences I have given more consideration to the question "am I bi?". My answer is who knows. I'll find out one day I'm sure.

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My wife anally penetrates me with fingers from time to time and we both love it. Our attitude is to pleasure each other any way we can nothing is off limits for discussion.

 

We have no boundaries on fantasies and we communicate very well on what we choose to play out. I would love my wife to use a strap -on on me she is "warming up ",to the idea. Anal play is much touchier for her from negative past experience, so this is not a high priority but we are "playing through it".

 

Does any one else find anal penetration relaxing?

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This is one of those things on my no-no list. I personally do not find it a turn on and after speaking to my husband, it is on his no-no list also.

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She hated anal, so we started taking it slow on the matter, just some caresses, kisses and she started doing the same thing to me, now I have penetrated her a few times and she has fingered me too, it's weird but exciting have to say, about the strap on Idea, I think if the size it's right would be great to do it, of course it's not everyone and respect people that doesn't like it or wouldn't do it.

 

Take care all

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My wife has used the strap on with me and I think it's great. She say's it's a power thing for her. To be the one in control. She likes to "give it to me good". We got the model that has the opening in the crotch and comes with two dildos. We reverse one thru the crotch opening and the harder she pumps me, the more satisfaction she gets. When she starts to cum, I catch hell. And it's great!!!

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Well hubby would kill me if I answered for him, so I wont. But I will say that its ridiculous to feel that you are in any way shape or form "gay" just because you occasionally like my finger up your anus. I personally enjoy anal sex sometimes, other times I just dont feel like it. I also enjoy fisting and told hubby that I wanted him to try on my rear. We did, and after four fingers that was all I could take, but I had cum running down my legs it was so erotic. As you will learn, the more I post, I love to experiment and try new things. My hubby is really laid back, almost shy. So he is the one that gets shocked when I suggest stuff. I feel that as long as it is in the privacy of our bedroom, lets go for it!!

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But I will say that its ridiculous to feel that you are in any way shape or form "gay" just because you occasionally like my finger up your anus.

 

I've never had your finger up my ass so can't comment ;)

 

but I will say that for me, its not this act alone that makes you feel gay but really understanding the physical pleasure of being penetrated certainly gives you a better understanding of both women AND gay men.

 

That new found understanding, common ground with gay men (or women in general) isn't something most straight guys ever thought they'd have, so it raises new questions about what they might[i/] like, and ultimately their sexuality.

 

I've never been in any way homophobic (i've lived in gay areas of the UK for most of my life), I've flirted in clubs with guys who have thought me to be attractive (returned the odd wink or smile etc) but never ever considered any guy on guy action with anything other than "euwww" until after my strap-on initiation. The association of your anus as a pleasure zone is one thing (the 1st step????), the association of penetration another.

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Just because a man enjoys having a dildo{or anything else }in his ass doesn't make him gay. This is a very strong holdover from "procreative sex only" attitude. Being gay or lesbian is much more than this.

I find anal sex and especially deep rectal penetration to be tremendously relaxing.

It is great for clearing up neck and shoulder pain and tension as well as eliminating headaches{ go slow at first or you'll have a pain in the ass instead!} I have used anal massage for clients with chronic neck pain and it is very effective.

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:rolleyes: This thread made me think of another... there are a lot of different types of people, I find it sad that we keep having to classify ourselves into one of three groups. Straight, Bi, Gay...

 

That being said: I do not think enjoying your female partner giving you anal sex will in anyway make you "gay" or "bi."

 

One of these days I am going to wright up what Ithink the differences are in the three catergories we use, and add in some of my own. for example: I like to use the term "soft bi" when discussing women who enjoy touching from other women, but dont like to give back. Kind of like they are calling themselves bi, but identify more with the "bi curious" idea...

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Wife and I have talked about using a strap-on on me but have not gone as far as buying one. I have to admit that I tried the vibe thing on myself first before letting wife use it on me. I had to reasure her that she would not hurt me. Hey, I was curious...home alone...horny...she hadn't used the vibe and had plenty of lube. She now likes to use the vibe on me on occasion and I have to admit that I enjoy the pleasure from it and the "dirty talk" that she uses when she pleasures me.

 

T (male of PAHornyCpl)

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I bought a double tip dildo for the wife. Then 1 night she tried it on me. I liked it. I just need it well lubed and slow. The while on vacation we bought a strap on and that worked real well to. We have discussed me trying a M sometime when we find the right couple. When looking for a strap on we found 1 place that you could order and change the size and thickness. This might be best for the 1st time for a M. Start small the work up to it. Now as far as the guy going down on it tried that to. The wife would like for me to go down on him or share him. It all comes down to different strokes for different folks. Currently we are still looking for someone to play with.

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Love the idea - Something about the idea of "taking him from behind" turns me on more than just about any other fantasy. But he won't let me get anywhere near the area for any reason. :sad:

 

I'm with LikeMinds and her penis envy. One of my earliest sex dreams (at least of those I remember) centered around me growing - and using - a magnificent penis. I have gotten to use a strap on twice with a female partner. The first time was interesting but somewhat disappointing as she rode me - I felt like little more than a dildo stand. The next time was quite erotic. I was on top that time, and I stared into her eyes as I entered her, seeing her pleasure. Very thrilling. Made me feel powerful in a different way than my usual feminine wiles. And hubby liked watching.

 

:rolleyes: Hmm. I wonder if I could tempt him to suck on it rather than "host" it.......interesting thought.....

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Hi Wow..Just What I was looking for....I'm having such a time with the very same thing my husband is angry at me right now....I'm sick of anal play I feel like he doesn't even need me anymore, he won't come anymore unless there is anal play or I'm rimming him or toys..IT'S always anal!

 

We are both at odds...he feels like I won't touch him any more and so do..I OMG.... I can't make him change..but am sooooo afraid I have lost my husband to the bi cheaters!

He left the other night...He has been begging me to nb\be with a man alone....It hurt sooo bad, but I let him go...

 

I feel he has been doing this all along anyhow.... so please help me through this I have no idea what to do..my mind is in an up roar..I have found some other log in names..and I fear he is meeting men...and I just don't know what I should do to fix us.

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I am a straight guy. I am not homophobic or anything like that, but, in the same way I respect others, I want to be respected.

 

I see that several women play with fire, and are selfish too. Play w fire, because these women think that they have a right to see a man get sexual w another man, just because these women are performing bi sex. If you met a straight man, and you enjoy bi female sex, then,you accepted a straight man, and, your female bisexuality is no right to duress a man into becoming bi. The danger, is, that, he might like it so much, you might loose your BF. This is not really the case I hear a lot, about a man that supposedly was a closeted homosexual or bi, whom was only pushed into it by the female partner. This is a case os straight men, that, apparently from what I read, do it to pleasure the desires of their wives/spouses/gf's ....of viewing him w a man.Chances are, after a few sessions, he might like it to the point of no return. So, why is women asking straight men to submit to another man???

 

I am not judging, just want to find answers. I would never ask a woman to become or act bi for my pleasure. If it comes from her, it is her choice, and, if she was, I would assume she likes it, and, also, I could not accept her demanding me to become bi just because she is bi.

 

There is some males that like it, and, congratulations, you own your life. But, we, if in a couple, we have to remember we are here in a partnership, and, I hear constantly about the rights to enjoy....but...what about the right to enjoy our partner has??? how could it be that a man, goes from straight, through a strap on, onto bi and gay sex, living behind his woman???

 

Those males that are in a closet, just do it, but, please, do not mess up a woman's life, just accept and move on. A woman that can only have sex w a man that can only be penetrated is going too far, and selfish.

 

To those females that play w fire and want to see their straight men submitting to another man, or to submit them to a strap on...think it twice, because, even though you might like the idea of being in the company of a bi male, chances are you will end up seeing him gone.

 

Last, I read a study about bisexualism, and it said that, bi sexual people are indeed interested in both sexes, but the pull on either sex is different. Bi females pull toward the opposite sex, in other words, bi females prefer men, although they enjoy females. Males, on the contrary, a bi male prefers his own sex, to the opposite. So A bi male prefers MM sex, although he can enjoy MF sex.

 

Think about it. Just a thought.

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Hi Wow..Just What I was looking for....I'm having such a time with the very same thing my husband is angry at me right now....I'm sick of anal play I feel like he doesn't even need me anymore, he won't come anymore unless there is anal play or I'm rimming him or toys..IT'S always anal!

 

We are both at odds...he feels like I won't touch him any more and so do..I OMG.... I can't make him change..but am sooooo afraid I have lost my husband to the bi cheaters!

He left the other night...He has been begging me to nb\be with a man alone....It hurt sooo bad, but I let him go...

 

I feel he has been doing this all along anyhow.... so please help me through this I have no idea what to do..my mind is in an up roar..I have found some other log in names..and I fear he is meeting men...and I just don't know what I should do to fix us

 

My advise, there is no fix. If you are uncomfortable with this situation, in the name of your happiness, and any family you may have, cut it off, he will be happy w his life, and you get yourself the kind of man you need. Not every fantasy people has has to be exploited. I may have the fantasy of surfing the biggest wave in the world, but to get into 50+ ft waves, would be suicidal. When mem, or women pushing them into it, desire to try strap on sex...it is "at your own risk". The risk is, loosing your life as you know it.

 

Ladies, do not push anybody ever.

 

Guys, think it twice before getting into a situation that could be irreversible.

 

My 2 cents.

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Well to be short and simple I am straight as an arrow but I'll let Mrs. B strap it on anytime. It is fun to let her drive and it is pleasurable for me. So I say do what makes ya feel good.

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I am really glad that I read this thread.

 

One of my biggest fantasies has been watching my wife get fucked with a strap-on by another woman and then I fuck the woman from behind. The fantasy always ends with me fucking my wife missionary style looking her in the eye as the other woman fucks me from behind with the strap-on.

 

I believe it is a wonderful illustration of the balance of power in the act of sex. To fully submit to a woman while still being in a dominate position over my wife is an amazing turn-on for me.

 

Unfortunately, we are still working on the getting the other woman in the room. :sad:

 

I do understand a few of the threads were the guy feels awkward asking his wife for this. A mutual understanding that “anything” between a man and woman in bed is fair game is a great slogan to live by.

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I'd go for it in a heartbeat. facelick

 

I am not bisexual but for years have enjoyed stimulationg myself back there, and in fact could give my wife some great advice when she decided it was time for her to do it.

 

It gives me a really cool feeling to know that I found that area to be pleasureable when so many other men stay away. Their loss.

 

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My question is how would you feel if your man asked you to use a strap-on dildo on him.

 

My wife and I have good sex and it seems to be getting better with age, we are in our 40's . I have always enjoyed anal stimulation and she sometimes she will insert a finger or two into my rectum while giving me oral sex and this drives me out of my mind.

 

She is not into anal sex (we tried a couple of times) and I respect her wishes and would not push anything that she is not comfortable with but I really can't stop thinking about a women using a strap-on dildo on me. I am not Bi, just that area has a lot of feeling for me and I am afraid if I would ask her to do this she will think I am over the edge. I hope to experience this form of sex play sometime soon. I am open to suggestions.

 

Not for me personally...I prefer to give it to her "anal", I am not opposed to her fingering my hole while we play though.

 

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:) Never had the strap on, butt :) I do enjoy when she plays with her finger in me. Oral or hand job as she gives me the ole prostate check is quite fun. She just doesn't poke and pull she caresses my cheeks, back side of my leggs and the whole nine yards. Makes ya want to scream. Good clean fun is what I say... :D

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