How long does intercourse last for you?

It has been quite sometime since we were single & we haven't been swinging full swap very long. The thing I worry about is not lasting as long as I used to. I am 50 now & I worry about satisfying my swing female partner. I guess I do ok for a middle-aged man but I still worry if I am performing time wise as expected.

Ladies, what do you find a normal time frame is for "intercourse" from your male swing partner? Especially those middle-aged partners... 50ish. With or without Viagra, Cialis, etc. Sometimes I use it sometimes I don't. Just intercourse... not foreplay, oral etc.

5 minutes

10 minutes

20 minutes

or longer... how long?

I'm not qualified to answer from the female set of experience so I asked JoAnn. She says, "It depends on the guy." She also says that one particular swing partner stays in so long and goes at it so enthusiastically that she usually gets sore and has to ask him to take it out before he's done. Then there is this other guy that thinks he is at a baseball game -- three strokes and he's out.

I know you did not ask for it but here is my personal experience. I carry Viagra pills with me owing to the fact that the older I get the more I need them. Without a little blue pill, I can maintain the "coitus" without "interruptus" for about five minutes. Using a blue pill and consciously "slowing the pace" when I feel a climax building, I can go thirty minutes but no longer. There comes a point in time when I just have to have that release.

Background comment: I like oral sex as much as anybody but I go away feeling I did not have a completely satisfactory experience unless there was intercourse. Just me.

It's hard to say for me (especially since you're looking for serious answers). It so depends on the situation for me. With a condom I can go for quite awhile. If I'm excited and with my wife (no condom)-embarrassingly short (minute or 2).

Depending on the situation, how relaxed I am, how excited I am, what type of condom I'm wearing could be anywhere from 1 min. to 20 min. If I go too short I feel kind of bad but if I go longer than 15 minutes I actually feel like they're probably feeling like "enough already". So there's a serious answer for you. Oh and I've never tried the viagra but I'm 33 yrs old so...

Now my funny answer: "Not long enough!":D

Welcome to the Swingers Board, cplndixie You came in so quiet and all, we almost missed ya.

This is a good place for not only a little funning around, but the serious stuff also. Hope you check out the introduction forum and tell us a little more about yourselves and even your experience or interests in the lifestyle.

Your post was a good one. Unfortunately its a subject most don't like to talk about.

Well..... excluding me heck, I'll talk about anything. Especially when I get to have a dirty mind. Thats the reason I like swinger women so much, Its OK with them to be a little dirty minded

I did ask Mrs fun, for fairness to your question " Ladies, what do you find a normal time frame is for "intercourse" from your male swing partner? "

OK, she didn't exactly give the answers we want to hear. In fact, she answered my/our question, with another question. I hate that !!! She asked "why does it matter"

Thats not confusing though to me....The thing is, Mrs fun and I are actually on the same page. For years now I don't look at the clock to measure sex. It's kinda like asking someone "how was I" To me, either are just as rude sexually.

I will always hold the quickie record with Mrs fun... I am a playmate.... we call it a nooner. If, you count having sex with my boots on and her panties around one ankle as sex with a playmate (Technically ? its less than a half our lunch ) We have found that few min nooner to be just as exhilarating as the hours of sex with playmates or even each other.

We play together and I have seen men who last a short time and those who last longer. Been there when I had to stop Mrs fun because I could tell she needed hydration. ( she thanked me ) Been there when a man or woman has finished long before her as well.

Never have I heard her complain either way. Never have I heard a playmate complain. I cant imagine a woman thinking.....

" Hmmmm , that was 19 minute's "

I would rather leave them thinking more about the whole experience. A smile, a giggle, after glow....... That can be accomplished in less than 30 perhaps even 15

I don't really know in min how long anyone lasts, I'll have to see what others say....

cplndixie said:

Its been quite sometime since we were single & we havent been swinging full swap very long. The thing I worry about is not lasting as long as I used to. I am 50 now & I worry about satisfying my swing female partner. I guess I do ok for a middle aged man but I still worry if I am performing time wise as expected.

Ladies, what do you find a normal time frame is for "intercourse" from your male swing partner? Especially those middle aged partners... 50ish. With or without Viagra, Cialis, etc. Sometimes I use it sometimes I dont. Just intercourse... not foreplay, oral etc.

 

5 minutes

10 minutes

20 minutes

or longer... how long?

Hi there and !! We're so glad you found our little corner of the world!

You're roughly the same age as my husband. He would agree with you about "time". He has no problem with us together, and really FWIW, there is no time line or any expectations to sex, is there? Each sexual episode is different but wonderful, therefore, each man is going to be different, but each one exciting in his own right.

Dave brings a small dose of viagra with us on play dates, but he doesn't always use it. The one thing I've noticed is that he can last just as long with or without the drug. The only difference is that he can recover quicker and keep on playing while medicated.

Now, since I am a woman, I can truthfully answer that in all seriousness, I love sex as much as anyone, but constant thrusting for more than about 10 minutes is enough to make me sore. Longevity is not all it's cracked up to be. We've been contacted by men who boast of their thrusting power and can last up to 45 minutes. Well honestly, that really scares the hell outta me. Do you know how much that would hurt [me]?

Give me the perfect number of drinks, a condom and the right mind-set and I'll bang it until it's raw...but enough about masturbation...

I'm not built to last for more than three minutes of continuous intercourse...I just don't have it. Add a bit of alcohol and a condom and I can do the ol' in and out for 15 minutes or more but I need the de-sensitizing help.

Let me screw a while, eat pussy a while, finger it a bit, screw it some more, lick it while longer, play with her ass a bit, and so on and so forth and I'm good for hours.

Viagra and Cialis decrease recovery time a great deal but don't help with longevity.

I've not had a complaint so far and I've either had the pleasure of doing it again or being asked to do it again...so I'm thinkin' that combination of maneuvers works...but it could also explain some of the laughter.

The bottom line is this...If you pound-fuck some poor woman for an hour who gets off in 3 minutes you're not doing her any favors. If she needs an hour to get off and you use a series of different techniques to get her off and she complains...well...she can kiss your and my asses.

Perfect what you like, work on what others like and try to perfect them and then whip out this incredible array of weapons and you'll make the most discerning woman your friend for life...and probably her friends too! And that's what I'm talkin' about.

Happy hunting.

Trace

Trace Ekies said:

. . . Add a bit of alcohol and a condom and I can do the ol' in and out for 15 minutes or more but I need the de-sensitizing help.

Trace, good Swingersboard friend. I must respectfully disagree on one point. Alcohol might reduce inhibition. But it definitely makes "keeping it up" more difficult.

To be honest I am not a marathon runner when it comes to sex. If I come across a profile that says "he can last all night" I say whoa, not for me. I dont want to do it all night long, that's too much like work...

While I have never really timed just the intercourse aspect of it, I would say that once I am satisfied to the point that I have orgasmed my last orgasm then I want him to have his turn and be done. If it took 10, 20 minutes, and were both in a state of wow, then I cant ask for anything better! Anything longer than that becomes uncomfortable, I get sore easily and when it starts to feel like sandpaper...well that's just not fun anymore...

I personally would much rather have 20 minutes of hot, heart racing, mind-blowing ecstasy than 1-2 hours getting irritated wishing the guy would hurry up already!

I think y'all answered my question. Thanks a bunch guys & girls. I was just wondering if I was going to be a disappointment. I just didn't know if I was able to stay up as long as "she" expected me too. My concern was, I am just getting older & I am not a spring chicken anymore & I just wanted to know where I stand. I think I will be alright. Now I won't worry & I think I will be more confident & will be able to perform better. I just didn't want any mental distractions from worry/concern. Thanks again both guys & girls.

For me (Mr Toycple) it depends from person to person and what my state of excitement is at the time. I find that with play partners using condoms I tend to last longer, but with my wife not using any, sometimes it is not as long as I would like.

There's been some international studies on this, with national averages. I can't find the study right now. But, I did find an article about one study. It indicated 16.2 minutes. Search for "Length of sexual intercourse most important to women, new study" in Google.

Well I thought I might get some serious & helpful answers here. I have seen some very good posts on this forum since I have been looking around on here for several days. Maybe it just wasnt a good post or worded correctly.

I would say a lack of sense of humor would be more of a problem than how long you last.

I don't think answers to your question are going to help you. I'd focus more on getting to know your individual partner's likes and dislikes. Also, it would be beneficial to ease your own concerns about being good enough. That seems like a better avenue to fulfilling your partner's needs than meeting an arbitrary time length of intercourse.

Mr. Ivory here. Maybe I'm out of my mind, but I hardly ever think about how long I can maintain intercourse because I understand that for the vast majority of women intercourse alone is not going to lead them to orgasm. I try to give my partner one (or more!) orgasm(s) orally or manually, if that's what she prefers, before even thinking about intercourse. Then, if she has another orgasm during intercourse that's great. But if not, hopefully no one's feelings are hurt.

Men seem to put a lot of pressure on themselves to last a long time during intercourse, but most women I've ever talked to say that they don't want to be pounded for hours. The vaginal orgasm is a male fantasy/invention. We men should spend more time building up our oral stamina and worrying about how to please a woman's whole body, not just her nether regions.

I'm always confused by posts like this, as I am by posts about problems with lubrication. Women aren't dripping fountains who get turned on by the mere thought of sex with us, no matter how studly we may be. And I don't think I've ever met a woman who, after a long, sensual play session in which she came a few times from oral, manual, or vaginal sex (usually with added clitoral stimulation), said "you know, hon, that was great, but you didn't fuck me for long enough."

There are many more, and often better, ways to please a woman than having intercourse. Let's focus on those and not so much on the all-powerful "PIV" method. Then we can stop worrying so much about whether we're disappointing our playmates during intercourse because we'll know they had amazing orgasms *beforehand*.

My personal best is 30 minutes, but I'm usually done in 10-15 minutes. That being said, I find that women can reach orgasm through PIV when they've been properly warmed up beforehand. So, I start each session with 10-30 minutes of foreplay. I haven't had any complaints yet.

Gentlemen, please take the pressure off your selves on this issue. There are many of us out there who desire much more than just intercourse. Who would like you to pleasure our whole body just as we want to yours. While a session of inventive, playful, drawn out intercourse is a wonderful, fun, fulfilling activity - for me it is not the end all to beat all. It can be a delicious treat. Not required as a main course.

Having said that, I realize many women do not feel as I do. But my sense is most of us are as Mr. Ivory described. But the reality is we will never all play with each other. Impossible feat. As with every activity the women who need long extending pounding intercourse each and every play session will find those men. Just as the women whom, as described above, are looking for men who take their time being skilled at the other arts will be focused on meeting those desires in partner selection. A more down to earth way of saying it is....different strokes for different folks...and that is why we are all grateful there are many choices in play partners if you are willing to do the work. So take a deep breath gentlemen and concentrate on your hands, your lips, your tongue....using your entire sexual and sensual being during the dance of playtime.

Hell I’ll come right out and tell you the truth. It depends on who I am with and the mood that I am in and how my medicines are affecting me. I have been with a women and lasted for over 45 minutes and been with my wife and lasted less then 5 minutes. On an average when I am not on my medicines I last about 10 to 15 minutes give or take a couple of minutes. But that could also be because my body is hyped up from being on the medicines.