Why do men want to watch their women with another?

My guess is that this has been covered, and if it is redundant, let me know: why do I have a fantasy to watch my fantastic spouse have sex with another man?

I understand that a lot of us hubbies want to be observers and participants, but aren't we supposed to be jealous and exclusive?

I, for one, want to have my spouse be satisfied to the utmost, and that is the key. But wondering about others.

Thanks.

I agree. Watching my wife in total pleasure is amazing. I’ve had other threesomes with different people, but watching my wife is a huge turn on for me. I have ingrained images. Like seeing the look on her face wile she said “seriously?”, when I asked her if she’d like to have a threesome with a friend for our first experience. Do you ever fixate on specific things. Like, I think of a time watching her feet move while my friend was fucking her in the missionary position and he had her legs up on his shoulders. I also enjoy receiving oral from my wife more while she’s being pleasured as well.

So for me there are several reasons I think its of interest to me. And since I determined that Mrs. Nomad has an interest in other ladies my interest extends to seeing that as well. The first reason is that I strive to see her happy. Whether it's in bed with me or in bed with another person. Second I'm an engineer. I am always trying to fix or improve things. This includes things in our relationship though I've gotten better at understanding that something don't need to be fixed. I just need to acknowledge that I know about them. But I learn by observing so if I watch her enjoying herself I'm mentally taking notes to see if there is something new I can try that I've never thought of before. With regard to her and another lady there is the added component that I hope she will bring her new friend back over and introduce her to me.

Mr. Nomad

1hotminute said:

I agree. Watching my wife in total pleasure is amazing. I’ve had other threesomes with different people, but watching my wife is a huge turn on for me. I have ingrained images. Like seeing the look on her face wile she said “seriously?”, when I asked her if she’d like to have a threesome with a friend for our first experience. Do you ever fixate on specific things. Like, I think of a time watching her feet move while my friend was fucking her in the missionary position and he had her legs up on his shoulders. I also enjoy receiving oral from my wife more while she’s being pleasured as well.

yes actually. fixate on the first seconds he (friend) enters her, then watching her face, nipples swell and then as he about to cum, how he goes fast and then slows down unloading in her. Super hot.

I’ve watched my wife with many a man. When we first were in foursomes (that’s how we started out,) as I was screwing a woman I liked looking over and watching my wife get screwed. It made me harder.

Then we transitioned into MFMs. We both liked that because many women can have multiple orgasms, while most mature men can only have one, at least in a couple of hours. That meant if my wife was going to have as much fun as possible, there needed to be at least two of us to please her. I’d usually let them start and go for an extended amount of time and then join in.

I always enjoyed watching her tease the other man and the two of them engaged in foreplay and coitus. Again, I think I had a better erection because of the visual aspect of the situation.

But to answer the question ‘why’, I’d say simply that it’s a lot of fun!

We have discussed this at length and I can share what he has shared with me - simply stated he loves seeing me get satisfied. He also loves it that I am able to experience what he alone can’t provide. Whether it’s riding a much bigger cock or having two 24 year old's working their asses off to impress me and get me off, he is all in. That said, I enjoy the same.

I love watching two ladies working on his hard cock or watching him cum inside a new partner for the first time i love it. We even get off watching each other’s videos.

This is extremely gratifying, most of the respondents feel much like I do. The turn on, thrill, pleasure has several facets, but the most prominent reason we want to watch is because of our deep caring for our wives. That seems to me one of the best damn reasons for non-monogamy.

I have almost gotten used to the polite, supportive and intelligent conversations on this site, versus some of the ugly stuff you see elsewhere, but when so many of the husbands here abandon the possessive, jealous, grasping, demanding behavior that we often see in the vanilla world (maybe all over?) in favor of a different strategy. Our wives/SOs get to explore and expand their pleasure activities with not only the approval, but the encouragement of the one they go home with. Their most important guy.

My wife sometimes complains a bit about how much work is required to "break in" a new partner--"No, don't pinch and twirl my nipples like you're tuning in the BBC, gentle please." "I am multi-O, very quick to achieve one. Don't be a pussy." "Yeah, oral is ok once in a while, but what I really want is to be filled up...and then filled up." You get the picture.

Thanks to all so far who have supported the position posited above--we want the best for our wives.

1) The guy wants his woman to be happy.

2) It's live porn with someone you know. (For some reason, men like to see porn with women they know, even if the "knowing" is a celebrity.)

That for sure sounds super hot. Once I watched my wife’s face as she came when a friend ate her out. I don’t think I ever made her cum like that, but whatever it takes. It’s a team effort sometimes.

That’s hot. My first wife liked to have sex all night so when we started inviting my friend for sex we could take turns taking care of her. We were younger dudes then so we could re up while the other guy was working her out.

It is about her letting loose, different sounds, dirty talk, moves... very erotic.Like I said prior there is nothing more erotic than seeing him enter her the first time and then cumming in her, on her whatever. Super hot.

My wife asked me to answer this one since she frequently asks, but what do you get out of it. To start with, most of ours have been MFM or swaps, so really, not a whole lot of just watching. I think the biggest part of it is seeing and experiencing her greatly heighten sexuality when it involves two men, from seduction in the bar or where ever to the actual act and beyond. I mean, it’s like putting big slicks and a turbo charger on the family sedan and taking it out to the local drag strip, a whole new exciting ride. And the thing is, this applies whether the other guy is some built young kid, some short chubby guy who wooed her with his wit and humor and an old but friendly dude that she took a likeing to. These guys are so different that you have concern that somehow they are any type of threat to the relationship, quite the contrary, tools to help it along. Which gets us to the other benefit, I have learned so much more about her sexual likes and dislikes, as well about her personality, areas, that I didn’t choose to explore but others have; things that other guys do to her or with her or have her do that I hadn’t tried but see that she enjoys.

Well said!

Chiccouplexx, terrific metaphor. As Padoc wrote, "Well said." Thanks for the insights.

.. it’s like putting big slicks and a turbo charger on the family sedan and taking it out to the local drag strip, a whole new exciting ride...

People do that?

People do that?

They use to, nowadays I guess they stay at home and play with Alexa.

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You're right.

My wife was always a bit inhibited about sex. I can remember being really turned on, when we were dating, the first time she actually asked me to fuck her. I didn't know she would use that word until then.

But that was nothing compared to the first time I saw her fuck a friend of ours, who I knew that she had the hots for.

When it's me with the two guys, hubby likes to watch, my boyfriend Red doesn't like to see me screwing someone else. So when it's me in an MFM with them, Red goes first while hubby gets excited watching us, then Red leaves and hubby gets more excited knowing he getting his turn in my sloppy pussy. It all works out to everyone's satisfaction. Why Red is turned off by seeing me having sex with another man, IDK, he's ok with another woman. Hubby says he just gets excited watching any couple fuck and wants the same.

A more fundamental question is why do men (more than women) like to watch other people (not necessarily, but including their wife/SO) have sexual intercourse?

My wife was also extremely turned on the first time she had sex with our best male friend. It was actually a spontaneous and totally unplanned swap with my wife, me, our best friend, and his wife. For a long time after that, he and my wife got together many afternoons, with all our approval. My wife was not working and he was working nights so the two of them had a lot of time to play while their kids our out kids were at school. That was a great time. When I was at work, I was very turned on knowing the two of them were playing.

M... My wife was not working and he was working nights so the two of them had a lot of time to play... When I was at work, I was very turned on knowing the two of them were playing.

And when you got home what happened?

Whenever she got back from playing with him (Bill), it was our time for fun. She has always played bareback with him, so it really added to my excitement to know he had cum inside her earlier in the day. The two of them played together off and on for over 30 years. It was really a poly relationship. A couple years ago he reconnected with L, a woman from his youth, and started a poly relationship with her and her husband. She lives across the country so it's a long-distance relationship with them flying to see each other a few times a year. L knows about us, and how we have played with him for years. We have met her and she is very friendly. Even though L denies it, there seems to be a slight jealousy issue on her part, so we have backed off. We are still good friends with Bill but we no longer play with him.

Whenever she got back from playing with him (Bill), it was our time for fun. She has always played bareback with him, so it really added to my excitement to know he had cum inside her earlier in the day. ..