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Do the men here have any curiosity, interest, or fantasy about being a Sugar Daddy? And, if so, what is it that attracts you to it? If not, what turns you off about it? I'm particularly interested in why a married man would desire this type of arrangement. Thanks.

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Why would they want to do it?

 

Because they make a lot of money. Because they have children with a women that they have fallen out of love with and no longer sleep with (much less have sex with). Because they want to tuck their children in every night. Because they don't want to lose the lifestyle they enjoy.

 

So they support another women on the side that provides some TLC.

 

Good luck with your search.

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Good question. If I take a deep down look inside myself, I think there's a small part of me that would be intrigued by that type of arrangement.

Why? Well like kikonkrome said, they'd have to make some pretty good bank to be able to do it. So, it would in some part be a measure of wealth I suppose. The other part I suppose is the perceived feeling of being in power of the arrangement. Strip it down to the core and it is a business arrangement at its base, and the guy feels like he holds the wallet so he is in charge of the arrangement.

 

So I guess if I were to do something like this it would be "because I make enough money to have a kept woman, and if I get bored and can shut it down whenever I feel like it". So, ego and self-validation on some weird level or something?

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In my travels to places like Republic of the Philippines and various latin American countries, I learned that very many men even of moderate monetary means "keep" a second woman. A spouse might even know about the second woman and tacitly tolerate. It seems more likely to happen where the cultural attitudes are sympathetic, at least in part, for such arrangements and where women do not enjoy economic independence. I also learned that the men do not keep the sugar baby relationship secret from their men friends. I'll speculate that having a sharp-looking babe on your arm while entering a fashionable venue is roughly equivalent to displaying a very expensive Rolex watch. He is saying to his peers, "I do it because I can."

 

Personally, I'm too cheap to have any notion like keeping a sugar baby.

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Good question. If I take a deep down look inside myself, I think there's a small part of me that would be intrigued by that type of arrangement.

 

I played around with the idea of that type of relationship when I was freshly divorced. Frankly the girls were kinda boring, not really that much fun? In the end I went with a more traditional relationship.

 

I have had at least tow friends that have had 'suger babies' or girls on the side. One time they were able to end it and move on to whatever lay next. The other had the super dramatic five stage clinger that wanted to be his next wife. He had a really hard time ending that. And of course had all sorts of drama with a wife and mother that refused to sleep with him much less have sex with him.

 

In my travels to places like Republic of the Philippines and various latin American countries, I learned that very many men even of moderate monetary means "keep" a second woman. A spouse might even know about the second woman and tacitly tolerate. It seems more likely to happen where the cultural attitudes are sympathetic, at least in part, for such arrangements and where women do not enjoy economic independence. I also learned that the men do not keep the sugar baby relationship secret from their men friends. I'll speculate that having a sharp-looking babe on your arm while entering a fashionable venue is roughly equivalent to displaying a very expensive Rolex watch. He is saying to his peers, "I do it because I can."

 

Personally, I'm too cheap to have any notion like keeping a sugar baby.

 

Yeah Asia, South America it is pretty common. I have seen some stuff in Europe as well. I am not really sure how accepted it is but rather tolerated. It is not exactly acceptable in polite society to discuss it. I have also met guys that keep multiple families going in different countries!! Tough to get child support, or attach assets if the guy is just going to disappear to a different country, I guess.

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Personally, I'm too cheap to have any notion like keeping a sugar baby.

 

Not cheap, thrifty.

 

I want to be with someone because they want to be with me, not because I (for lack of a better term) pay them to be with me. Isn't that just a form of prostitution if you are having to give them money or things to be with you? Pass.

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Can honestly say this kind of arrangement would do nothing for me! I would not be able to get turned on knowing the woman is only with me for the money and don't find anything attractive about a woman that would want that kind of arrangement. To each their own.

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I agree, I'd have a hard time having any sexual interest in that kind of arrangement. Too, given what I understand the Sugar Baby demographic to be, it seems to carry the high potential for drama, and even if the arrangement started with some heat, nothing cools things off like drama. If I was going to go the pay to play route, then just give me the good old-fashioned hire a prostitute approach. It's a straight business transaction, no pretending or putting window dressing on it or possibility for complications.

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