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I will always kiss my wife, regardless of where she's had her mouth. I love her and if she's just sucked another guy dry, I'll kiss her and say good girl.

She loves when I eat her after another guy has cum in her. She says her orgasm from that are so intense. Who am I to deny her such pleasure.

Maybe the reasons men like it does relate to porn. I like it on occasion and my wife will accommodate me because we do for each other. I guess it just sexually charges some to see it and do it. And it's also very visual, something I like most men like, visually stimulating sexual play.

I love kissing my wife and have no problems kissing her anytime.

Perhaps just respect a couples rule to not kiss. It's their reasons and to say you don't understand is fine but it's kind I like saying I don't know why that person likes the color red when I like the color blue and I don't get it. Why do some not like and participate in anal sex, I don't get it? In the end it doesn't matter, play, don't play with them, your choice. For some kissing is very personal and face to face and one needs to become comfortable with it. I think most give up the no kissing rule in time but until then it's what they need do to play and progress.

Wife prefers to swallow her partners cum. She has a couple playmates that she really enjoys the taste. In the end it's not up to me (husband) to say she can or can't do it. She is her own person and boss and I'm okay with it, in part because I know how it feels to have her finish me, I love it!

45 days + post vasectomy. I, like drinnt was once as horny as a schoolboy, everyday in life up to my vasectomy & certainly wanted to bust a nut after. But since the first post vas orgasm it's all been the same for me...Nothing! I told my wife recently that my ejaculations feel more like a urination feeling now. No change yet, no recovery of what I had, no earth shattering weak in the knees post orgasm feeling since. Just an "oh, that must be it" feeling. Before when I had an orgasm I was incredibly sensitive afterwards and needed recovery time. Now you could slap me around after and I can go about my day or night and do whatever needs to be done, the absolute exhaustion/satisfied feeling I had is gone. I was the one in my relationship with my wife that wanted sex all the time, right up until the first orgasm after the vas. I used to get a full feeling, a feeling that I needed to "release" and if I didn't do that at a maximum of every 3 days, I become quite irritable & not easy to live with, release (ejaculation/orgasm) would calm me down & relax me. Felt good. Now I have little desire to initiate anything sexual. Went & saw the physician who did the procedure and he couldn't get me out of his office fast enough. I was in for maybe five minutes. A quick physical exam as I told him I had little swelling and nil pain but now I have a completely different (or absent) orgasm compared to before. He was quick to send me on my way. Wow, am I angry! I don't care to be handled that way. As I see it now, even a vas reversal probably wouldn't change things. Sure I'd ejaculate sperm again because of the vas reconnection. But the reconnection is just the vas (tube) itself, there is no surgical reconnection of any nerve pathways that innervate along the vas. That kind of surgery is not possible. So in the end I suspect what I have now is what I have to live with for the rest of my life. There is no fix and I certainly was not expecting one. But I'd wish to hell that they would report ALL COMPLICATIONS upfront so one can make an informed decision! I feel that information was not disclosed.

Anxiety? No I was damn mad! I'm not an anxious person at all (present situation excepted). I have no performance related issues with my wife, never had, not in the lifestyle with others or otherwise. I was ready to go, enjoyed the experience however the ending....wtf! Pain doesn't concern me, I've lived with it on & off over 10 years as post surgical complications of a hernia repair. Actually pain might of been better, at least I would have felt something more intense. Sure time will tell....just don't like the "new me" so far.

So my vasectomy is done, a week later & life is back to normal.....but not really so. First, still some discomfort which I expected and I am sure with time that will pass. However, my first ejaculation post vas was anything but spectacular. I waited 7 nights before I attempted to ejaculate as per MD's instructions....I just didn't want to induce complications if that could be done from my impatience. I don't know about others, but my wife & I have a great sex life and despite 3 small children & full time jobs we still manage intimate moments averaging 2-3x per week. So for me waiting a week left me anticipating a huge release (in many ways). I was expecting either a painful or uncomfortable ejaculation due to the trauma/healing or as I said a huge release. What I experienced was blah, an event but non-event! Very little intensity, no buildup as in past, no knee buckling/toe curling absolute calmness with release. Instead I was aware I ejaculated and that's it, move on. In past, I'd need time to recover, but not with this. Instead I was confused & soon replaced that with concern. Anytime is past where I haven't been with my wife for 5 days or more the climaxes I would have were amazing as if I'd feel a release from my balls all the way through the end of my penis. Earth shattering. We were gentle, she was great and we induced no pain or discomfort with the blowjob I received. But yet the end result...... I have done a little internet searching on orgasms weaker post vas & found some information I just was not aware of prior. Individual testaments regarding profound differences post vas, differences that have lead to worse or poorer, less intense orgasms. While I have only tested the equipment once so far I am concerned because I have always had great orgasms, such release, feeling absolutely spent afterwards and this time.....I think I would have preferred a painful ejaculation to an orgasm of little intensity. Curious if others here have had similar issues because I know from my research before my vas, all the literature provided by the doctor & on other web sites talks about the procedure, do's & don'ts, how the procedure doesn't affect function (but does it?) and why don't they list a potential for weaker orgasms as a complication? Is it because the physicians think it's all in the minds of those who state there is a difference? If we review the anatomy of the male genitalia, you will find that the vas is innervated by the inferior hypogastric plexus. The ductus deferens is richly innervated by autonomic nerve fibers, thereby facilitating its rapid contraction for expulsion of sperm cells during ejaculation. Essentially our junk has a lot of nerve endings that provide the stimulus & feeling for the pleasure we derive. So if you cut through nerve fibers, will that have an effect? Some quotes from those who posted on a web page (Orgasms After Vasectomy - Vasectomy-Information.com) regarding their post vas orgasms... -“After the surgery, there is very little intensity. By that, I specifically mean there is no buildup, I just seem to have an orgasm and the feeling I had from my testicles is no longer present.” -"the knee buckling sensation has now gone...My ejaculation is the same and the length I last is the same, but the end result is just a complete wash out. I do not feel my balls tighten, I do not feel the ejaculation go through my shaft, I do not feel the ejaculation erupt from my penis, I do not feel my penis pulse until the orgasm has finished…... I DO NOT FEEL !!!" -"My husband had a vasectomy 6 weeks ago and he describes the same thing–he ejaculates but no orgasmic feeling" -"I anticipate and expect the “old orgasm” of the day prior to my procedure...but am always somewhat disappointed. No exhausted feeling, no rush, less enjoyable." -"My husband has experienced many of these same symptoms: not feeling the “rush” from his testicles, a “weird” or less intense orgasm" -"I am a medical professional and I attribute these poor orgasms to the surgeon damaging the sympathetic nerves along the vas. Yes you can orgasm but the whole experience has changed for the worse. Ejaculation is a sympathetic response, the sympathetic nerves that innervate the vas are no longer connected. The vas doesn’t contract. It is terrible." Anyone else experienced this? I know it was one orgasm but never in my life have I not experienced certain intensity of my orgasm.

Four days after, no ice Tylenol required. Walking as if I've been riding a saddle for too long is also diminishing. Still aware of things when I bend over or stretch out too fast but again not pain just a quick ache, dullness or pinch. I assume the pinch is from the suture inside. I am very aware of the fact that I'm not clear, considering how easy it was to conceive our children I will be extremely careful until I get the all clear (semen tested). Considering we have gone 3 years past the birth of our last child, making it this far without a pregnancy I am hopeful we will still be as careful. I look forward to cleaning out the tubes, keeping myself & wife busy over the next little while.

End of day 3, no Tylenol today, no ice but I did take it easy. When exerting/bending/moving too fast I can feel a heaviness & dull ache. Overall less & less each day. Site looks good, no bruising, the minor swelling all but gone. Now just want to defy the Doc & have sex now ...... or at the very least a nice bj.

The day after and what I experienced throughout the day was generally mild discomfort. If I move to fast I am more aware of a heaviness & dull ache, so I just took it slow, took Tylenol ES and used ice packs some more. I was expecting some bruising with the minor swelling I have at the site, but I have absolutely no bruising (yet), just minor swelling.

Just had a no needle, no scalpel open ended vasectomy Wednesday morning. The procedure took 10 minutes, the freezing spray/jet felt like a rubber band snap on the boys. Other than some minor tugging & the smell of cauterized flesh during the procedure, it was simple & uneventful. For me the hardest part has been the mental part of "sterilizing oneself". Recovery so far has been okay, some tightness, a little vague dull aches if I move too fast but that's it, no pain. I tried to look like it was horrible & painful to guilt my wife but came clean pretty fast. In all, so far smooth sailing & a restful day. Obviously erections are no problem as the procedure didn't involve the penis, just the balls (sac) so having my wife flash her tits got my (firm) attention. Still I think I'll give it a day or two before I test the plumbing that way. Let's see what tomorrow brings...

Her: 1. In pussy 2. In mouth 3. In ass 4. On any other part of body including face Him: 1. In mouth 2. In pussy 3. In ass 4. on face 5. on breasts 6. on ass 7. where she lets me (really this should be #1)

I can cum either way, oral because my wife gives amazing blowjobs. Or could cum inside her, problem is I have to be "fixed" and she's fertile as hell (or together we get pregnant easily). So I will not cum inside her despite our strong desire to. We do not want more kids. So I cum in her mouth and she swallows. Have tried cumming different ways & places but she prefers to have me cum in her mouth....easily dealt with she says. No arguement here!