It all has to do with what yo were thinking when you made the rule of "soft swinging." Did you think that both of you felt exactly equally about it? You are two different people and will always be two different people. The feelings you have concerning something is always different than your mate, no matter how close you think you are. It's not her fault and it certainly isn't yours. She's just different. It sounds like she was overwhelmed by the intensity of the moment. That means she let herself really feel it! That's a good thing. Lots of people get to a point and cut themselves off, like shutting off a spigot. Whether it was the booze or whatever, she didn't. She is a treasure! Trust her leadership to help you release your inner passion, the same passion she was feeling on that occasion. You have much to learn from her. Don't try to "manage" her. Trust her. Let her lead you, share with you HER passion, and together you can reach heights you never dreamed of!
Petethefuzzy