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SrKnight

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About SrKnight

  • Rank
    Contributor
  • Birthday 06/04/1962

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Kitchener, Ont.
  • Occupation
    Factory worker and Website Designer
  • Swinging Experience
    12 years

Swinger Info

  • Favorite Club(s)
    soon to be Club Jade
  1. I'm sorry to haer you've come upon this problem. My initial answer to you would be the same as to a male who's gf didn't want to swing anymore. For the moment, stop. In any swinging relationsgip two of the most important guidelines to follow are: 1. progress at the comfort level of the least comfortable person only. 2. communicate, communicate, communicate. As his comfort level has apparently lowered and you don't understand why or what has caused the change, I would venture that the communication between the two of you is lacking. Sit down and discuss the situation, what it is that has changed for him. Talk about it until you fully realize and understand the "why's" of the whole situation. Once the two of you understand fully what is happening to cause this change in your relationship, you will be able to make informed decisions to best suit you both. In the past when things have bothered Princess Dawn with aspects of the lifestyle, we always found communication helped us solve all. Best advise here? Talk. Good luck.
  2. I am absolutely, definitively, without a doubt..... A mix of many of the above:)) Lets see, Cowboy (I even wear the hat and oilskin coat, for function not fashion), Teddy Bear (Oh yes, I'm the cuddly type, darlin'), Metrosexual, although I'd never seen the term before, definately Ubersexual (diapers, feedings and everything else...) as well as the intellectual artistic boy-next-door type. Hmmm, after re-reading this I think I have to check "other" cause I think I fit best into the term "interestingly complex". Stay Sexy and have a Great Knight
  3. One other route you can take is one that my wife and I use regularly just for fun. When we are feeling amorous and have cuddled up in bed together, I ask her to "spin me a fantasy". I let her know this doesn't need to be something she actually would do in real life, just a fantasy. She will close her eyes and begin describing the setting, what she is wearing, who else is there etc... As she imagines the scene in her mind I quietly encourage her to continue with what happens next. I also attempt to do things for her that helps bring it to life a bit, such as when she describes someone fondling or licking her breast, i do that to her. The feelings of it actually helps heighten her arousal and create more in the fantasy. The first time we did this, I had to ask her some leading questions to help her picture the scenario in her mind like what are you wearing under the miniskirt? The act of describing the details in her fantasy was extremely arousing for her. We now do this on a regular basis. Sometimes it is her describing a fantasy to me, sometimes the other way around and our sex at these times is always fantastic. I guess the point I am trying to make is that perhaps you should work first at the two of you becoming comfortable with the idea that you both have fantasies in the first place and that it is not a bad thing. Work up from very simple and non-threatening fantasies like maybe having sex with your husband at night in a public park or something. Remember they can be things you wouldn't actually do in reality. See what kind of fantasies he spins for you. Picture them in your mind as he describes them to you. Once you become comfortable with this process you may find the fantasies that you would like to really have happen become something arousing in the real world for both of you. Hope this other point of view was helpful:) Stay Sexy and have a Great Knight:)
  4. I may be way off track here, and forgive me if I am. Pakidesires, it seems to me that what you are saying, paraphrased, is that she does seem to enjoy most of the soft swing type play leading up to actual sex but very little of what follows. My advise to you would be to remember that enjoying the swinging lifestyle as a couple means ALWAYS socialize (play etc...) up to but not beyond the comfort level of the LEAST comfortable of the two of you. If she enjoys foreplay, cuddling, kissing, flirting with others then that is as far as she should go at that time. The single over-riding rule that my wife and I have followed throughout our 12 years in the lifestyle has always been; If anyone involved would be hurt, emotionally, physically, mentally (and that includes enjoying what they are experiencing) then it is not allowed. For the first 3 years we were participating in the lifestyle she was uncomfortable with the idea of me playing with another woman. Therefore, I didn't. If you take your time, be patient and always operate up to but not beyond her comfort level the lifestyle can be a remarkable experience for both of you. Have patience and allow her to find out at her own speed what pleasure is all about. I sincerely hope I'm not off track here and I certainly wish you both good luck.
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