cowboynlady

Fastporty, I think your main question was "do I tell people beforehand?" I would say that if I was told up front it would not discourage me at all from getting together. If I wasn't told up front, or nothing was said when we met, then I think it would be uncomfortable just with not knowing how you feel about it or what to say etc.... I think be open about it and things will go just fine. If your not, you might come across some insensitive jerks that might end up hurting your feelings in the long run.

Hi, Lady here. My husband is an alcoholic and has been sober for 13 years, so I know some about this. (Not anything like if I were in his shoes.) The "Swingers Clubs" are no different then any club that has alcohol. If she has fears of being able to handle it, maybe wait until she feels strong. We go to clubs and stay totally sober. We find that we are ready to get things going early on, and others that are drinking have to wait until they get a buzz on to move things along. It sometimes makes us wonder if the alcohol gives helps them do it. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that is the case for everyone. I drink on rare occasions and like the different feeling I get and have to admit sometimes it makes me wilder. But you could probably find swingers to hook up with that don't drink around her so she feels more comfortable.