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just1gurl

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About just1gurl

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  • Relationship Status
    single
  • Location
    washington dc area
  • Interests
    satiating curiosity.
  • Occupation
    workin hard for the money, so hard for it honey
  • Swinging Experience
    new - checking out lifestyle (with a dark past)

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    Mickey Mouse
  1. Most of the people I've spoken to on this board are exceptions. It was one of those moments for me again that I've found disturbing. I've tended bar at one point in my life, for marines mind you (animals) and I've tended church. And sometimes I thought to myself, good grief, I've met better people in bars. I had that moment here. Good grief, I've met better people on a swinger board than in church. Not all of them or all of you. But I guess what's disturbing to me is the idea of preying on others. Do what you want to / with yourself. But to utilize the foolishness of the young to get your rocks off, bleech. Did your avatar used to have white busoms in a blue-ish cast to them? If so, it was one of your posts that helped me to reach a conclusion for myself. That person spoke of "working hard to bury those feelings" ack. I spent a couple of years married to a man with drug/alcoholism and hid it from everyone. Why? hell if I know. It was hard, but then one day, you drop a can of vegetables in the grocery store and all hell breaks loose. And people think its the vegetables. Buried emotions come out of hell. It just doesn't work, for me, and I doubt for most people. It would be to me, to live a lie. There are a lot of different reasons people are in the lifestyle, and they are not all healthy. There are as many posts here about working out emotional issues as there are insights into doing a particular act "correctly". There are women who post here who've made themselves comfortable with this, there are men who post that say they won't, its not necessarily gender specific. But there are obviously also a bunch who are accomodating spouses who won't stop f--king what moves, and that's pretty obvious as well. I doubt swinging particularly solves that either, because the thrill is doing whats wrong, not just the F-ing. But these are just a bunch of random thoughts concerning an issue that effects people - some? most? deeply. I found it grotesque when old men would hit on me when I was young. It just comes across so predatorial. It still does. I cannot fathom any 23 year old wanting some gross old man. When you get older gross gets more relative! For someone to speak of such an obvious emotional need and to expose their insecurities, and for others to suggest this atmosphere is a resolution for those issues and not something that will contribute further to a loss of self esteem, hum. Bad. but I think that category would probably make up ? 1/2 the unicorns? I'm just trying to make sense of what i've read here....
  2. No, its not about virginity - never understood that anyway.... its simply about respecting yourself. To the young lady who posted: If you are starting out with a low-self esteem its like meat to maggots. It will attract the worst sort of people to you who will use your weakness against you and will make it worse. If you start getting nice compliments and awe come on, its because they want in your pants. Not because they want to know you as a person. There are numerous posts here where the people who participate in the lifestyle will explain that this life is all about THEM. That's cool, we all make choices everyday, they have that right. But do you really want to throw away your most exquisite gift to people who don't give a flying shit about you? Because they don't. As I mentioned before, I'm not even bringing up the perverts, and the dangerous. There are some really nice people here, I don't mean to flame the older folks, that isn't the reason I respond to this post. Humpty Dumpty here to say -some things about my life, others broke, and some I break myself. You are of infinite worth in and of yourself, I don't mean pride or arrogance, I just mean YOU are important. You deserve respect and to be treated kindly -patiently and with love. There is a lot of dancing around the disease issue, but help me here, "its so erotic seeing your wife with another man". Translation: I don't mind exposing her to STD's and potentially cancer to get my rocks off! You can find someone who will not do this to you. We live in a sexually saturated culture and it SEEMS like it would be a ton of fun, but as some have apparently quoted others, its a "pandoras box". You can keep reading the posts and get a pretty good idea up front of the emotional cost this is to a lot of people, not just to girls either. Someone here shared with me a couple of days ago, that, in big ways and small he had lost self respect. This from a guy. To the folks of the board, I have appreciated your sharing your lives and answering my endless questions, it was invaluable to me. I really want to thank you! Someone asked if I was "with the press", so no, I did ask a lot of questions, but just got an inquiring mind. And if you really do enjoy your lifestyle don't be be angry if i disagree about issues like this. "No holier than thou" attitude here at all, I could easily divorce my emotions and participate, way easy, but I'm finding after reading that I think its what I'd have to do. I've spent a great portion of my life with a cold hard attitude, but I found I didn't like myself. To put it another way, I'd love to dance, but I cannot afford the orchestra. I hope all the "open-minded" here... (in reality its more often we like to talk to people who think just like us.) I do not denigrate your choice to live the life you desire. But to portray it without the truth, well....? I couldn't understand that stupid stanley kubrick film title until now. What the heck does that mean? it became obvious. I expect to be banned maybe, I don't know. So, thank you, I love you all, really! just1gurl aka Humpty Dumpty aka vanilla with just a touch of habenero!
  3. Thanks for your honesty! Take his word for it sweety. DON'T START HERE!!! RUN LIKE A SON-of-A-Bitch. Right now your private message box is filling up because you've revealed your young, slim, need sex and what you don't see is what is sending you those messages.... What they want to do is spray semen on you and go. Charming, no? If your stilll curious, READ A LOT MORE!!! Find some good experiences in your life. Your early sexual experiences will define you the rest of your life. Make some good choices and don't be beat down by low self-esteem. While this thing is growing in popularity amongst young people in a big way there are still guys YOUR AGE out there, that will give you their heart and the time of day. This is where tired, disenchanted, bored, abused-now or formally, discouraged, broken, old folks like myself and pauncy old men that need viagra go.... there are exceptions - but probably very few.... (you don't even want to think about the pervs that log on here and never post, but you'll get their emails) Best advice from JnCC -- RUN!!!
  4. Hi Lawyer1 I can tell ya most guys here won't like it from what they've expressed previously! But, let's see their responses. Interesting topic. Also, we've another Latin American gentleman who posts and prefers intimate attachments too. I wonder if it's - what's the word I want here - cultural expectations?
  5. Its not often you find me speechless, but this did it. dictionary.com = INCEST: 2. The statutory crime of sexual relations with such a near relative. Possibly, it is on the books. The first definition had to do with marriage and wasn't the issue here. someone was just telling me the other day, "be careful what you let in your head".
  6. It is not three adults - it's a parent and a child. The power dynamic of that relationship is not equal. Just wondering, if you see it as ok for a parent and child to get into a sex act together with another individual, why should they not play with each other? If this is a truthful post of events (entirely unconvinced), talk all you want, it won't change that mom has a screw loose and you are not just wanting to screw her kid, you are going to assist in screwing her up.
  7. glurck. Excuse me! I lost my lunch. Here to tell you that you don't want to know what I think. It appears pushing boundaries poses as many issues in life as does abiding by the societal "norm". hum. My bad, I thought you said 19, she's 29. Hum. Still sounds fucked up to me, dude. But hey! You asked for input. I think you should consider the kids well being because the mother isn't. Keep your dick to yourself and your girl friend. well. go ahead. hiss and boo me.
  8. Well, SugarBritches, You'd be right, getting her liquored up to do what YOU want to do, might not be a good idea. I have a tendency to understand men better than women, although I'm one (girl), but from what I can tell, if YOU weren't getting satisfied, YOU'd be here getting the info on this, but if SHE wasn't satisfied, maybe she'd go shopping? When you're thing wears out, hon, use your tongue.
  9. ooooo-weee. I DO understand what the poster meant, exhibitionist behavior. But, despite SweetCandy saying that it should be applied across the board its not. Its applied ->> to women. just a thought, not getting down on anybody at all, but can you have the attitude that - well, gee we really would like to snag us a unicorn... and then get out a rating scale and say - uh-huh, tooo slutty!
  10. what about the sense of humor? The site makes me think: I mean it must be terribly attractive, who gets more attention around here than a certain humorous purple monkey? I myself find a certain odd animal attraction. my women friend of mine used to remark that my type was: "young, dumb and full of _____" you probably are familiar with the saying. The male species. I like males. Tall ones, medium, short, hard, regular, dark hair, the occasional blond, toooo many red heads, blue eyes, the tops of heads cause I can't see their eyes cause their talking to my breasts, brown eyes, funny guys, musical guys, guys who climb on rocks, I don't really care for sissy guys, but they can help pick out really nice dresses that look WOW on me, too old to remember guys with chicken pox, horny guys, shy guys, cool guys, some nerdy guys, smart guys are great! guys in tight jeans, guys with hard abs, guys at the gym, and guys at the grocery store, guys at home depot, flirting guys in the next car, guys who live across the country....yes, exactly, I'm attracted to males! Now I'm old, after a hiatus of dating and "other" activities, I'm finding a certain attractiveness to pauncy middle aged guys. - I'm not terribly certain I'm tellng the truth here. :rollseyes I love sexy forearms!
  11. SweetMelissa, I think your screen name fits you! Best of luck working through it!
  12. Yeah, that's what my doctor kept telling me, but I'm still quite certain he was just getting his. dudes, if your thinking of your women like machines with buttons, you are so missing the point. No wonder there are no answers.... a terrible waste and shame
  13. no, not likely, YOUR ass, perhaps, but then i'm into forearms... A well muscled tanned hairy man chest with a cute pair of jeans and ... attractive hands, or ... facelick now ya got me goin.... OK, SOCCER Man, do you call it football there? Please provide information as to your possible resemblence to Andy Garcia or Antonio Banderas, I shall expedite my passport application!
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