janaandjames
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female half of couple
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kansas
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professional
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3 years
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janaandjames started following How do polys deal with limerance/new relationship energy?, Turned on by the thought of having sex with another man's wife, Submission and swinging and and 7 others
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We like a lot of mfm... and we like the man with us to take over. That is part of the thrill. We have our limits, but in general, when playing, we are submissive to our guest
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Turned on by the thought of having sex with another man's wife
janaandjames replied to Numex's topic in Swingers Talk
Just my theory...I think it's personality, maybe even a dom and submissive thing to an extent. My husband loves watching me, he does not even care that much if he has another man's wife...he loves handing me over, so to speak. There are men who really enjoy, and prefer, being on the other side of the equation... it's kinda good that there are both. -
Is your spouse the best lover you've ever had?
janaandjames replied to bonesray's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
I dont ever think about "best" .. I don't even know how you would know .. as long as it's good, it's good- 68 replies
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TMI on significant other's playdates?
janaandjames replied to swvacouplelookn's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
I don't do it often, but he loves staying at home imagining what I am doing. When I get home he is sooooo turned on and wants some detail. He tells me which details he wants. I generally get a really nice second helping of sex then He has never expressed a desire to play alone. I think other than whether he had a good time would be all I would want to know.- 30 replies
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MFM threesome that became a twosome: advice required
janaandjames replied to Moondance's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
We have been doing MFM for a few years now. We go over any possibility we can think of with the extra male. We talk about exactly what they can and cannot do. It does take away some of the spontaneous aspect, but it also helps avoid surprises that we might not like. We have even put off some men by doing this... but it has worked out pretty well. Husband and I know what we want and we communicate that to the third person. Its up to him to decide if he wants to play or not then. one thing we like is for the men to "take turns" which avoids anyone feeling pushed around at all. -
Are you "One Night Stand" swingers?
janaandjames replied to CLITFRIEND's topic in Polls & Never-Ending Threads
Some friendships have developed. But, in general we prefer one-nighters. Part of the excitement of swinging for me, is meeting a new person to ... get to know But then, there is also a lot to be said for the idea that you are better able to please someone you know a little bit too... -
Are you Poly?
janaandjames replied to JustAskJulie's topic in Some Swingers Do - Poly, BDSM, & Nudism
I think I am poly. It just happened. We have been swinging about five years. ALong the way we met a man who joined us for threesomes. Gradually, he became a regular visitor. Every wednesday evening he participated in a threesome with myself and my husband. Sometimes my husband did not participate and I was free to have sex with our friend on those Wednesdays. Now i see my friend once or twice a week. We even go on outings together. My husband is fine with this. Ill have to say I love them both, in different ways. It would be very difficult if my husband made me give up my lover. It would be hard to lose either of them. -
My hubby felt jealous once when we were having a threesome. After we finished, i was laying in bed with the other gentleman, and we were just kissing. We kissed for a long time. Later my husband told me he felt something there, something like jealousy, or discomfort that i was kissing someone for so long. We talked about it and set up a new boundary, a limit on how much kissing we do with others, and it was fine. But he didnt realize he would feel like that until it happened. Something about intimacy of kissing. Thats about all for us.
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Married white female with black boyfriend.
janaandjames replied to mfmswing's topic in Swinging Solo
The key point here would be, there exist some degree of humilliation for your hubby in this arrangement (this may not be explicit but something you guess)? This is a great thread. I had no idea so many people were into this sort of thing. It sounds just like us. There is some humiliation involved for us. Hubby loves for me to tell him how much better my boyfriend is ... whether he really is better is not even relevant, i dont even know which is better. but thats the idea, to create the fantasy for hubby that i am enjoying something with someone else more than i would with him. the mfm has so many levels. and to some point it is just sex. but you do get attached to a regular partner. ive no idea if i would stop if my hubby asked me to, he hasnt asked so .. im not going to ask. ours is black too. Im not sure why but it does seem to be that the third is often a black guy for many couples ... maybe they are just more available ? In our case, my boyfriend is married, his wife is not too into sex and doesnt mind him getting satisfaction on the side. so its a win win for all of us. its also fun to talk about jana- 31 replies
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Yes I've exaggerated a lot. It is kind of like acting. When hubby is watching me with another man, he likes to see me having a good time. So I get carried away with that sometimes. Especially if we are with someone we don't know, I might get a little theatrical for his pleasure.
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'Wife watching' seems to be a normal desire/fetish/whatever and seems pretty common in the MFM crowd, most women (and I used most because I'm sure some do) do not seem to get off on watching their husbands have sex to the same degree. been away from the board for awhile i liked this question. i think men are just more visually stimulated, so watching is more fun for them. the dynamics are a bit strange at first. but we love finding someone and inviting them to have sex with us (me). thats the hottest things for us. my husband just loves to watch me in action. he very rarely shows interest in having another female partner himself. jana
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We are experimenting in this area, but in our case, I now have two men Hubby is the primary, but I also have another, that has come to mean a lot to me. For a long time he was a regular threesome partner ... but since then I've started seeing him one on one - with hubby's permission of course. He even sleeps over at times Hubby is primary because he is my legal husband, but my lover is almost equal in terms of how the relationship really works. I really love them both. jana
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Only attracted to 1/2 of the couple
janaandjames replied to kinkyfun's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
We have both "been willing" to take one for the team, but have not done so ... one time hubby was very turned on by a lady we met, and i didnt care for her husband at all, but i was willing ... hubby was very pleased with my offer, but declined ... we were both so turned on by each other;s kindness that we went home and fucked each other silly -
Polyamory is very interesting to us as well. We have gradually come to prefer MFM threesomes, and have found a regular we like a lot, so we wonder why bother with looking for new playmate when this one works just fine I don't play alone with him real often, maybe once a month, with hubby's approval of course... but sometimes he comes over and we have time alone in the bedroom without hubby ... works for us
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