I urge PamVas to rethink her deception...why not go to a sperm bank first?At the very least, you need to inform any potential partners of your intent.And, another thing...if you really are into swinging as much as it sounds...4 children are going to put some restraint on that if you intend to be an involved parent. I have 4 children and they come first...try to remember that when the time comes.{Hopefully,swinging will definitely go to the back burner when you have children,especially when they're small.!!} :)That's not to say you can't do it, but you will need a seriously reliable babysitter,be prepared!!