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stoutgatte

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About stoutgatte

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  • Birthday April 12

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    South-Africa

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  1. That's just unfair... Tsk tsk... Can't you send her over to "find" us please?
  2. Positively, we're much closer on a relationship level than ever before. And of course the variety of partners is always a plus...
  3. Interesting... Almost 55% of us play solo in their own way. And even more if you would add the sorta's like the Spoomonkeys (a real oversight on my part, damn). Always interesting how many definitions there are for the same thing around here...
  4. Riiite... OK... LM... Thanks for that one.... Thought I had it covered... Guess not... Though you do fall mostly under: "We've considered it but we're too scared of the possible consequences " FOR NOW... Spoo... I know u guys don't do solo... So I'm not shocked... Promise The idea is to get an idea of how the general population (of the board) feels about it. As I said, we do play solo from time to time and we love it. I know others do too, but I've got the idea that many people out there think of solo play as a bad thing... Thanks for your input so far...
  5. Hmmm... Everytime I see Mr. TwoLoves' name pop up I revisit this thread... Did you make it? I saw you posting about "WE" in another thread... Hope to hear from you soon, Mr. TwoLoves...
  6. So a recent thread got me thinking... How many of us play solo??? We recently started to, and we're enjoying the extra sexual freedom immensely, but still have some rules in place to protect our relationship. I just wanna know... Do you, don't you, or sorta??? Note that you can check more than one option...
  7. There are a lot of things that would scare me off a couple, but none of them are listed... Does that mean I'm one of them
  8. Didn't read through others replies, but what come to mind for me is: You whatever you are comfortable with... There is no norm outside of your relationship that counts... We converse then swop...
  9. We've discussed this a bit too, our biggest concern is that the partner who doesn't get the "bonus" treatment feels cheated since the other one did. As a result we'll try to avoid such situations.
  10. The thrill is often in the chase... But it is also nice to play with people you know and trust... Variety
  11. It's very simple, without condom use and picking your sexual partners sensibly the HIV pandemic would have been as big in all countries as it is in Africa. We use it for disease control first, birth control second...
  12. Hmmm, LM, no need to get technical here I'm pretty sure he means when fully erect...
  13. I'll be more than happy to be the first one to say we swing to spice things up and for the variety. We are both efficiency driven people, ie I found the easiest way to get her to orgasm and use slight varieties of it more often than not... She enjoys sex most in that way and we're both enjoying ourselves, not to mention that less effort == better after a hard day at the office... That said, it does get a little bit boring to do things in a similar way everytime, but how do you get out of such a rut? Change something, ie say no oral for a month, no sex in the bedroom, etc, etc... That didn't quite appeal to us, since we were happy with our sexlife in general, but do want that excitement as well. Something easiest to attain when first dating, we just decided to date other couples. So we started swinging to spice things up and for the variety. I agree with most that is said in the above posts to some extent, yes it shouldn't be like that, yes you could feel threatened by it, etc, etc. The fact remains that people get bored. Not everyone has an exciting sexlife that has a life of its own, some people (sadly) have to work at keeping it interesting... Now, if you are really unhappy with your sexlife and want to use swinging to change it, that would leave me bothered...
  14. I have not posted in this thread before, but why do you guys think HIV in Africa is so rife? Because all the guys are engaging in anal sex the whole time? NOT. The issue is that condom use is condemned by many traditions, and many people don't really know about HIV so they don't use condoms. The test for HIV is only accurate 6 months after you have had unprotected sex. So you can get a false negative for the 1st six months, but you can still pass on the disease... So, do you really want to risk it?
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