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Additude last won the day on December 19 2009

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  1. MFM does not mean DP to any extent greater than sucking cock means you have to deep throat. DP is not that common in my real life experiences.
  2. It's time to check out, stay away, avoid, disengage, depart, backoff and stand clear. Your best approach is to let the chips fall where they may for your friends and their dispute. Make it a personal policy not to discuss these concerns with those friends that are involved because you risk becomming involved and contributing to the issue. Tell your friends that is your policy and that you prefer not to get involved with the dispute. If your "friends" want to draw you into the fight, then leave those friends. Those are not your friends, they are your potential enemies.
  3. Wouldn't it be ironic if it was discovered that bigbear's wife and the other husband are having the same issue and are also trying to figure out what to do about it.... hummmmm... So what is up bigbear? How is this working out for you now?
  4. We are all different and we all have different approaches to situations and what works for one may not be suitable for another. To me it sounds like you have already done your due diligence and are comfortable with what you are doing. You seem to have a plan and are aware of your surroundings. Your approach is reminiscent of experienced swingers, so all the advice I will offer you is approach with caution. Be prepared for any contingencies and consequences. Keep us informed, I'd like to know how things progress.
  5. Pick and choose your fights. What do you want out of your relationship with this woman? Why are you here now and taking your time to post about her tribulation? Why do you feel that you should get so emotionally involved in this womans struggle with her marriage? She is a big girl, she can make decisions and choices. Contrary to what you may think, she is not being forced to swing. If her husband did indeed threaten her with divorice, she still made the choice. She had other choices. She chose to stay with this "fu*ktard that couldn't get laid on his own if he had a 12" dick and a billion dollars". So, if you want to stay involved with her and you know all these issues, then you figure out why you are there and then you can make a decision for yourself. But don't complain about the decision you make, otherwise you'll just be looking for sympathy.
  6. You are guessing and assuming. Ask him. Send him an email that says "Are you OK?, I haven't heard from you. I miss seeing you". Remember only 10% of things are as they seem, the other 90% is a mere guess without the facts.
  7. I am additude....does that qualify for a "mind blowing amazing blow job" ? Sorry, I couldn't resist... Unicorn101, whatever happened, happened for whatever reason it happened for. Let it go hun. Feeling bad about stuff like this is not good for you. Obviously you are a sweet young lady that has more to offer. It was nice of you to want to return the compliment...that speaks of who you are, not that you felt rejected.
  8. John, Seriously, "Not man enough" if you ask/tell your wife to quit fucking another guy? That's twisted buddy. Maybe your wife doesn't need a break, but you sure seem to need one. You need to back off of this for awhile, i.e 6 months or more, regroup and decide if you want to try it again sometime in the future. This is a cancer that will eat you up if you keep going with it and you don't have a handle on it. Your best to take a break from it.
  9. John, apparently you’re OK with what is going on. Just be fine with it the way it is for yourself and because you want it that way, not because your wife wants it that way and you are just following along. There is a difference. If you have alarm bells going off then it is for good reason. You are vulnerable in this situation and are exposed to potential abuse. Your mind is telling you to beware for good reason. You also have past history to base your fear on. You need to be diligent and monitor this situation very closely. Especially for your own personal serenity and comfort. It's best to keep your wife informed of your concerns and feelings. This will generate conversation and the more she talks about it the more you will be able to read her from what she says and you'll be able to catch clues that things are going against your grain. But be honest with yourself. I ask, Don't you want to take part in this? Maybe have your own fun with another woman? Participate with your wife in an MFM? If you do want to participate, then you need to tell your wife you want this and then you need to make it happen. Your wife has to be as understanding to your needs and desires as you are to hers. It is not healthy for you to be at a stalemate when your spouse is playing a gambit. Take care of yourself.
  10. Blury, Truely you may not like what I am going to say, maybe because you will think I am a short sighted jerk, but but maybe because what I have to say may be a difficult reality that you don't want to face. Someone said that you are not to blame for this, but I must differ. I think you are to blame, however not for everything, but absolutely for every part you are playing in it. You are 100% responsible for every choice and every decision you make. No one makes you do anything, you're the one who decides whether you want to do it or not. So now you have to decide if you want to live the rest of your life with hubby like this or not? You must decide! If you decide that you don't want to keep going down this road, then the next step is for you load a plate full of this crap that you don't like about this situation and your involvement in it and hand it to your husband with a fork and spoon, then you tell hubby that he has to make a decision, you and your feelings or him and his feelings. Don't put up with any more of this "guilty feeling decision making" that your husband lays on you. STOP THAT NOW!! Hun, you decide and then tell him it's the way it is going to be for you. Then tell him that if he can't deal with it that way, then he needs to move on and deal with it his own way. Give your husband a dose of reality and quit playing this game you have got yourself into. Your not trapped.
  11. As it should be with a little foresight, forethought and planning. Having a plan more than likely equals success. Not having a plan usually equals failure. It's cool to hear things are working out for you all.
  12. No. I do not think that you should be offended. I also do not think that you were offended. You said you wanted to do a 3-sum with him, but then you decided not to, and based that on uncertainty over his wife. You could have simply offered to call his wife to confirm his statement. By doing so you would have discovered the truth.
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