curcpl_2004

Hubby says "That's what the chainsaw in the garage is for !"

We would have to agree with Red Robin. It is definitely the people and not the age that is important to us.

Mrs. here, I would have to say that ours has increased significantly since we started swinging. from maybe 10 times a month to daily & about an hour and a half each time.

Mrs. here, I could only pick one range... so I chose the first. but up to about 7 in. is good for me, anything larger and it hurts with every stroke. I also enjoy a thick one.. more contact on the sides. If a man knows how to please his partners, then that is the ticket... I am not afraid to tell anyone what feels good and what don't. If they don't know, how can they guess? Men are not mind readers.. and may need some insight sometimes.

Tarnished, From a female that has just started swinging with hubby. Here is my 2 cents worth on a part of what you wrote. The part about the negative reflection, I thought that at first also. But as we talked and discussed us starting to swing I realized, and he didn't say in as many words, that it was not me he was unhappy with but a desire to make me feel as wonderful as possible! It was also a way for us to "act out" our, ok mostly my, fantasies. These haven't always included other people but a lot of the time they do. As for the comparing to other people... well that was something hubby was worried about that I would compare him with some one else. This is my 3rd (count them 3 ) marriage. I have have other relationships before I met him, I have not compared him to anyone else that I have been with before him. This next question assumes that you two were not high school sweethearts Does your hubby compare you with other women he has been with before he met you? My guess is that he does not do this. The key to swinging for us is communication, I can't stress that enough. We discuss everything, from the kissing thing... my point after living in NV for 8 years and hearing all the men who went to the cat houses from the military base i was on telling everyone else that the girls there don't let you kiss them because that is the one thing they keep just for their hubby's or b/fs. The other thing we don't do is separate rooms. I guess what all this means is that you and hubby need to find out where both of your comfort zones are... these can only be set by the two of you... And Talk, don't argue, don't get mad, maybe he is only thinking of your pleasure and happiness...

This is Mrs. Curcpl here, our first time was really enjoyable for us! We met at their place once before for the get to know you meet during the week . Then we went over over to their house again on the weekend for our first sex meet. We started out in the kitchen just chatting about life things. Then after a couple of glasses of wine (I don't recommend this); we went into the living room for more intense chatting, it took awhile to actually do anything, and most of it was done by our spouses, but hearing and seeing the other couple enjoying themselves really turned us both on! We moved the party into the bedroom, with the 4 of us on the same bed things really got hot!! Unfortunately, like we have read on other posts here, the stage fright was a little over whelming for the men we are hoping that this was a first time swinging thing for us. We are planning a second get together for this weekend at our house. Stage fright left or sent somewhere else.