Mulder

I am surprised that no one would consider either keeping the child or putting it up for adoption (especially since there are private adoptions where your expenses can be paid up to 30K or so). Personally, for us abortion would not be an option even though we are in our mid thirties and have graduate school plans that definitely don't include another child (we believe it involves the taking of a life). I would worry about our jobs finding out, but as nurses we can get hired almost anywhere. As for my family and friends if they don't like it well they can.... IF we swing (to this point my wife has only given oral sex to one of my friends several years ago on two occasions) it will be something that we both are comfortable with and while I wouldn't quite use the word "proud", I certainly wouldn't use the word "ashamed either". As to how we would tell our current toddler, IF it was an issue I would be inclined to tell him the truth (my wife might vetoe me on this one). I truly believe that swinging can be a valid, healthy, life style decision.

As I posted above, I think my wife would really enjoy swinging. She was very sexual before we met, and I'm something of a sexual/social stick in the mud. I have shown her this site and am going to suggest that she consider swinging with her college classmates. However, I probably will not participate or watch. That doesn't mean that I won't benefit if her overall satification (not just sexual) with our relationship, and her life improves.