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DeesireCpl

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  1. We find it really interesting to see people interpret things the wrong way...now nowhere did we say it was bad to bi...or to be a bi male...or to be discreet. But we did say it is unacceptable to lie. This couple is quite funny the female cuts up cross dressers and single males she totally attacks them and does not seem to be the open minded type. But she feels it ok to lie to her fellow swingers in the lifestyle that her hubby is straight all the while is bisexual. And to those who say it's not our business wanna make a bet oh yes it is especially when this couple plays with some people we do as well. We all worry about people who are not honest. As for being open minded to be open minded you must be honest and open not a bold faced liar as these two are. Yes you should disclose what your sexuality is , it's no different then disclosing your marital status. If the male being bisexual doesn't matter to you that's your choice , I know for us it doesn't matter at all... However the lying does matter to us. And the total dishonesty and total hypocrisy of this couple is just wrong. Being Discreet is one thing but lying to someone is another. The couple should disclose that the male is bi or at least curious and then it's up to the other couple to be discreet about the information that was given to them. And then act accordingly. Lying is not appropriate or acceptable in any forum. Discretion is a totally different story. How can anyone condone dishonesty?
  2. ... We know of a couple who recently married and claim they are in the lifestyle as a straight couple. However this couple have placed ads and attempted to meet with bisexual males while trying to hide the fact but most people have seen their pictures have realized that it is indeed the same so called straight couple in the bisexual male ad and want to know why they are hiding an important fact like male bisexuality. It is not a crime to be bisexual ....so why hide the fact , the lifestyle is about honesty and trust. Lying and saying your straight when in fact your not is wrong in Swinging. Especially males considering most males are straight in the lifestyle with a small percentage being curious or bisexual. Most couples have a real problem with bi males mainly because most males of lifestyle couples are straight. What this couple just does not understand is people talk and word gets around that they are not totally honest which makes others feel well what else could they be hiding or lying about? How do you all feel about this situation ....if a man is bisexual and his woman straight should they lie in an ad or profile? for fear of not being accepted ....or when meeting other swingers say they are totally straight ? because they are nervous that the couple will run for the nearest door if they disclose that he is bi. Is that acceptable or should they be honest and say he is bisexual ,she is straight and be proud of who they are...not hiding or lying about important facts like that in the lifestyle. Who cares if people can not handle what your sexuality is just move on ...but in the long run it beats lying and pretending to be something your not. Dishonesty is not swinging , it's like kinda like cheating really isn't it ...
  3. Stretch marks from childbirth are very special, it shows what a real woman you are. If you have lost weight be proud that you got those from losing all that weight. We seem to worry too much what people think. I have stretch marks of course I have had 3 children who were all over 10 Lbs each and I am not a big woman, I am 5'7 at 140 Lbs. But/Butt now I have the hips to show for it lol but I really don't care, I call it my woman's body. I do not desire a child's body or to be waif thin, I want to be able to fit into clothes with some curves and jiggle lol and man I seem to have that covered pretty good. But people should realize that just like it hurts to be made fun or talked about negatively if you are overweight, too skinny, or have stretch marks or scars, it is equally as insulting to be referred to as fake just because you have elected to enhance a body part such as your breasts. Is a woman fake if she loses weight? Just because she elected to go on a diet? :nono:
  4. For us, we have the ability to just give each other the "LOOK":eek: that lets each other know what direction to take, move forward or remember I left the iron on:lol:
  5. We do have an age group we prefer but depending on the couple or the single it all depends on maturity , looks and personality. We usually play with couples 25-45 and we are comfortable within those ages. Any younger or older for us is really not appealing but we have had the odd exception usually the younger side of it not the older. Mr Deesire & Deesire
  6. It's quite funny to hear people repond to this thread ... "No way we are not addicted at all" " we can quit anytime" ...... Ok so how often do you play? Do you have something to do with swinging everyday ...whether it be on-line chat rooms , posting boards , look at ads etc. Would that make you an addict if it was on a daily basis? Me myself I know I am addicted without a doubt !!!
  7. We have three parties lined up for Halloween, looking forward to them. The one main party is at our favorite club and should be a blast. Now for costumes I need some ideas...can anyone help me out? I would prefer sexy ideas !! lol
  8. Black is my most favorite sexy color to wear. Next would be Red I love nude the best !!!
  9. My partner and I have done many MMF , FFM and the group situation is all good ....I think the 3 sum fantasy has got to be the most popular fantasies next to 2 bisexual women making love. One of my fantasies that I can only dream about is about 2 young bi males and myself watching and hhmmm maybe participating here and there .....wow something I know will never happen but hey it's fun to dream. This lifestyle is all about fantasy and communication , respect and trust with all those in place you can have 1 hell of a time Even just telling your partner your fantasy is worth more than anything you can get in reality. A word of advice to the newbie's some fantasies are just that a fantasy and better left in the mind , safer that way and way more fun!!!
  10. I was speaking with a friend of mine who is in the lifestyle and she was saying how she and her hubby are getting out of swinging. I found myself saying oh really wow it's going to be tough don't you think? Now listening to myself and thinking back, I honestly feel that I would not be able to quit the lifestyle. I love the clubs , parties , the friendliness of lifestyle people. How open and free they are and not uptight. I almost feel addicted to the lifestyle or at least to the feeling the lifestyle gives me. My life would be missing a piece of my freedom if I was not in Swinging. Even if Mr Deesire and I were not together I would still lifestyle as I am sure he would too. Now unless for some family /health /or relationship issue I /we would definately have to put a hold on it but never quit it totally. My questions to the board are: Are you addicted to the lifestyle? Do you feel we as a community are sex addicts being in the lifestyle? Could you quit it totally never go back to it ever? Have you ever gone 1 day without thinking about swinging? Thanks Deesire & MrDeesire
  11. Yes hun please do and I am glad you appreciate my analogy!!
  12. When I first entered the Swinger's Lifestyle I was in a 17 year marriage. Hubby and I met in the music business. We needed some spice and the lifestyle provided that for the both of us however unfortunately our marriage just wasn't right for us to be happy so we separated. Now on the good side I started dating my best friend and confidant /boy toy !! and we have been together ever since we have been thinking about getting serious with each other for sometime now...we both seem to want to be in this relationship for the long haul. We have been dating for 3 1/2 years. So relationships can work in the lifestyle it's actually 100% harder for us ...because we have to learn how to be a normal dating couple without trying to pick up everyone on a date lmao!! It's kind of like starting at the end of a movie and working your way back to understand it. The sex is great, openness is there, trust is in place but...the normal dating takes work...the movies at the theatre, dinners at restaurants, and hand in hand in the park...takes practice not to through in a couple or hot bi lady !!! People ask me all the time would I re-marry and yes I would marriage is great...everyone needs a companion in life to grow old with...it's all good I wish all the married lifestyle couples long and happy marriages!! And to those who met in the lifestyle I know it takes work but hey it's worth it.
  13. We prefer to know the couples we play with and like to be more on an exclusive level with a group of people. When we first started out it was sex with strangers and never hear from them again but at that time that's what it was all about for us. Some don't want people to invade their lives except for 1 night of bliss. We dislike bed hoppers and 1 night stands not a nice feeling ever. We find as we get more experience under our belts (garter for me) that we become more pickier then we ever were. We want to know everyone before we just give it up!!!
  14. Hey Lorrie hun that Documentary is called " Porn Star" The legend of Ron Jeremy ....Really check it out it's well done. Enjoy !! Love Deesire:kissface:
  15. Thanks so much for that information will pass it along to others.
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