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Regardless of what takes place with others or what the situation is, MFM, FMF, MFMFM, etc.....we have a rule that it ALWAYS ends with us. Her and I together at the end of the night reconnecting, sexually, passionately, emotionally, and on every level possible for us to reconnect. We have found this to be a very powerful and necessary feeling we both experience and very much need with each other. The reconnection is something we have come to look very much forward to. When we do play with others we never sperate and we always try to be a part of each others experience either by being involved or watching or both. We do enjoy talking over much of the events either while we are reconnecting, at a later time or both. For us, its all about being together, sharing in our experiences together and making sure that the end of every situation it ends with just the two of us. We know everyone has their own way or choice of how that reconnect happens, this is just the way we have chosen for ourselves.

When my husband and I first started dating we both made the decision not to hold back on telling each other anything. If you can't tell your mate whats on your mind and hold back open out of concern that what you might say about another woman or man will not go over well with them. We looked at it this way, we fell in love and got married we did not suddenly go blind. Obviously there will be attractive women that catch his eye as well as attractive men that catch mine. It does not make our love for each other any less, it only normal as human beings. As a result we both speak freely and we both even point out good looking people to each other. There is nothing wrong with doing that, at lease for us. Plus, there is never a need to try and hide what your doing when looking at someone else. The couples that can't do this are not being honest with themselves or each other. My husband is my best friend, the one I can freely talk to about anything without the fear of anger or judgement. This makes for great communication between us in our relationship across the board even when it comes to very difficult issues. We can tell each other anything.

Would love to be given some assistance on finding this on google, I’m not the best when it comes to computers and the internet...LOL. I have other talents I am told.

My husband and I agree that starting out with a threesome would be more personable allowing all three individuals to be involved together. We love watching each other for a bit but always join in and make sure everyone is involved. Although everyone has their own preference of how a foursome should take place, we feel it should involve all four individuals as well. The main factor my husband and I look for is the enjoyment of being able to be involved with each other, watch what each other is doing with other individuals and not be separated and simply focusing our attention on the other couples spouse. We would not get near the same enjoyment or pleasure out of it or what we’re looking for if it were just a simple spouse swap. Swinging to us is all about seeing each other give and get pleasure from others and to others. When we play with other couples we always make sure to have some involvement with each other while enjoying seeing each other playing with the opposing spouse. basically, everyone involved with each other with only one exception and that is no m/m play as my husband is straight. If my husband chooses to step back and watch me with another couple before he joins back in, then that is done by his choice and not because he feels he is being pushed out. I’m playing with another couple and Three separate on the other couples spouse couples spouse, it doesn’t allow us to share the enjoyment each other with each other of what is taking place. Swinging to us is all about watching each other enjoying each other and being a part of whatever experience one of us is having.

As much as it pains us not to be able to explore our sexual fantasies at the moment we totally agree with lovtosuc. If either one of us got sick or even worse as a result of throwing caution to the wind simply for some play time with others, we would always regret that mistake. To us, the risk is just not worth it just for a little play time or to be able to get some "strange". Our LS activity has been at a complete stop and we have not interacted with anyone else since February 2020. Like everything else, this too shall pass and we can venture out again but for now, we are perfectly content with having just each other. Besides, that is how we started out, only with each other.

Oh my god how funny your story was. But let me explain, not funny with respect to how you felt, very funny based on us having experienced similar situations. My wife and I read the entire story and we just wanted to say great ending to it. I guess no question was needed. Your story made it pretty clear she was not in any way shape or form interested in anything that was going on. Obviously the interest and desire and efforts were all coming from him. We unfortunately have experience situations such as that. We couldn’t help but laugh especially at the part where you received an email the next day saying how great it was to meet you and how much “they” would love to see you both again. incredibly comical. So tell us, when’s your next planned date with them?. Just kidding, just couldn’t resist asking that. LMAO

First we would suggest that you work on the jealousy issue. There is no room for jealousy in the lifestyle. It will only end in drama for everyone involved. This is just our humble opinion on it, we do it for the enjoyment of sharing the experience with each other. Watching each other having sex with others getting pleased and pleasing them we found to be a huge turn on. Keep in mind one important factor, when you’re with your significant other you’re making love however when you’re with others it’s just enjoying sex. There is a distinctive difference between love and making love and just having sex. I never make love to anyone except my wife anyone I play with it’s just sex and my wife never makes love to any man it’s just sex and it’s time for the purpose of the enjoyment of it as well as the enjoyment of watching each other and being a part of it with each other. If you reversed the scenario slightly then should your husband be concerned that you might leave him for another man who possibly has a larger cock than he does or goes down on you better than he does? If you were both in a loving committed relationship then there shouldn’t be any interest in either of you leaving the other one for something as silly as that. For someone to leave their significant other over a body part is a clear indication their relationship did not have a strong base to begin with and they probably were not truly in love. If you think of it along the lines of this, the majority of us all at some point in time in our life has had sex with another individual for the sole purpose of having sex and having sexual release without any emotions or love involved in it. In a swing situation having sex with someone other than your partner would be exactly the same thing, enjoying the sex simply for the purpose of enjoying sex and having nothing to do with emotions or love. For my wife and I we get a great deal enjoyment out of sharing something like that with each other and watching each other. For us it’s that simple. Again this is just our humble opinion. Good luck

Wow, then I guess we are all doomed. Only guarantee in life is that sooner or later, some day, you will die. FACT LOL

Wow, well next thing you know they will make it illegal for a brother and sister to engage in sexual activity........ (Please don't flame me, I'm just kidding)

Well I can tell you that her being insecure with how she looks is not uncommon, in fact its sadly very common. I myself experienced the same concerns regardless of how much or how often my husband tells me I look good, sexy, hot, etc. Remember, most people are their own worst enemy when it comes to body image and society makes it even worse. First, I would ask if she would really start and try swinging if she felt better about herself or is that a convenient way to keep from having to do something she might not want to do. I am not saying thats the case, just offering one possibility. As a woman we are always judged on how we look, how our ass or tits look, do we have nice eyes, is our hair long enough, do we have a cute tiny waist line, and the list goes on and on. If she is working on improving her figure the I applaud her and would suggest you help her out by encouraging her as much as you can. However, you may find that there will never come a time where she finds herself satisfied with her body/figure. As a woman, we always seem to find something wrong with how we look. Whats more important is what some of the others have said in their replies, the most important part is whats between the ears. Most people are looking for a connection with others they meet. Now, regardless of how many times you tell her that it will still be difficult for her to understand and more importantly accept that as fact and I say that from my own personal experience. Just try to understand where she is coming from, continue to encourage her and most important ensure she knows how much you love her regardless of how critical she may be about her own body.

In my humble opinion I would suggest you simply forget about it, get over it and let it go if she is not ok with it. You mentioned several things that you really enjoy but there are 2 more things you want. Is what you have between the two of you not enough that you have to force her to or talk her into doing something she is not comfortable with just because you want it? I guess you have to ask yourself if what you have is simply not enough to please you. My husband has made it very clear to me, he would never want me to do anything that I was not comfortable with just because he would like it. If I am to do anything its because I also enjoy and/or like doing it and we both get something from it. If she does something she does not like just to make you happy I would tell you to ask yourself if its ok that she is unhappy doing something simply because you wanted her to. Let say for example she wanted to see you give another guy oral but you had no desire to have any sexual interaction with other men, would you do it anyway, just to please her. I would guess not. I would also guess that she would not get pleasure from watching you do something you did not want to just because its what she wanted. We all have to understand and respect each others feelings. If you are successful in "talking her into it" even though she does not want to then what does that say about your respect for her and her feelings? I wish you both the very best and hope you are able to work it out in a manner that you both can be happy with.

Ok so we know that everyone of us is different in what we like sexually or dislike sexually, what really turn us on and what does not, what we would like our play partner do to please us and so on. When you meet someone in the LS for the first time and you also happen to play at that time, each of us involved do not know what our new play partner of the night likes, wants or what pleases them, especially if its not verbalized. Husband and I are at a very nice, fairly small LS house party. There we meet another couple for the first time. Eventually we all end up in a back bedroom swapping partners and playing. So I am with the other husband and we are having sex for a while, various positions, oral sex, intercourse, etc. This continues for a fair amount of time and I have had two orgasms however the guy I am with has not had any yet. It was now to the point that I was getting tired as well as very sore and needed to stop or at least take a break. So I politely ask the guy if we can do just that, stop which he is fine with and we return to the party with the other guests. Now, at this point its late, my husband and his wife are done at this point as well and rejoin us and I want to go home at that point. When we said our goodbyes to the other couple the other husband became obviously upset. He said that he had not reached his orgasm as I did and It would only be right if I returned to the room with him to continue having sex with him until he reaches an orgasm. Both my husband and I were taken back by his anger and attitude as well as his insistence that it would only be right that I do what he asks. Why is it my responsibility to ensure he reaches an orgasm? Don't get me wrong, when we were having sex I absolutely was trying to please him and bring him to an orgasm but, he simply did not. He did not make me aware of any specific act that would almost certainly make him cum yet he now expected me to do exactally that. I am not a selfish lover and during sex with the man I really was trying to please him and wanted to please him but I guess he happens to be one that is hard to bring to an orgasm. Now he expected me not to leave until, his words, I did my part. Can others please share your opinions about the situation please. I did not feel it was my responsibility to ensure the man reached an orgasm regardless of what It took. He did not give me any indication in the begining of what action would have help get him there and honestly we spent a good amount of time having sex so It was not a quick I got mine now I am done sort of thing. I don't feel in this situation it was my responsibility to ensure his orgasm given the situation and circumstances. Was I wrong to think that? What to others think please. Thank you for your advice/tips/opinions.

We realize this post is an older one however; it caught our attention. We both agree with the other responses you have received. First, a NO from either of you should be a NO for both. No one should ever “take one for the team”. Also, we agree that your husband should put a prompt stop to it by politely telling the other woman to stop contacting him. Finally, one of the first boundaries my husband and I established right from the start is only my husband communicates directly with any and all guys and I only communicate directly with any and all females. Now, understand this is in no way a reflection on the trust my husband and I have with each other. What it does is it keeps any misunderstandings that could cause a potential problem. Why take that sort of chance? That boundary, if you two decided to try it yourself, would have prevented this issue from ever happening. The final suggestion we have is communicat, communicate, then communicat more between the two of you as much as possible. Trust and communication we feel are paramount to have with each other in the LS. Just our humble opinions....thank you for reading our response.

My wife and I are trying to plan a fun, sexy, adventurous trip for our anniversary next year. We both were thinking about going to Hedonism in Jamaica. We wanted to go somewhere we can enjoy a sexy free type of atmosphere and have the option of doing things only with each other or letting loose and getting wild enough to include others if the opportunity should present itself. We have heard conflicting stories about Hedo so we are hoping to get advice from others that may have recently visited Hedo themselves. First, we hear there is a Hedo 1 and a Hedo 2. We have heard stories of one of them being a bit run down (mainly Hedo1) and the other being an absolute blast. We have heard the time of year you plan to go can have a huge impact on your time there as well depending on what events or groups will be there at that time. We want to be able to openly and sexually interact with each other wherever and whenever the urge strikes, plus have the potential to watch others as well as be watched by others and of course the opportunity to involve others with us or maybe get invited to join others that are also there. Basically we are looking for a place that is a Lifestyle type of resort where we can be as mild or as wild as we want. So, please, any and all advice from those of you that have been and can speak about your experience while there would greatly appreciated. Or, if anyone knows of another place suitable to what we are looking for, please don’t hesitate to mention it and what your experience was like while visiting there yourself. :?::?: Thanks so much everyone……...

I will take me some Shemar Moore and hubby loves him some Nicole Scherzinger, from the "Pussy Cat Dolls". Go figure....LOL