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True but if you are with a trustworthy couple and hall pass only within that couple then it seems to work. Still it's whatever works best for everyone I think is important.

Not at all ^_^

Hall pass means we can do one on ones on different days and that kind of thing vs everyone being there at the same time.

Ok so after finally getting started in swinging proper we found or they found us I should say an amazing couple. We are both 27 but he is 52 and she is 48 though it was fantastic all the same. We met at a bar which we have never been to a bar so that was great. We sat next to eatch other and was rubbing thighs which was like damn. They had so many swinging stories it was amazing and they were pretty cool people. After that we met back at their place and chilled in their hot tub. (We have never been in a hot tub before either) After some chatting they started making out and at first I was like this guy is kissing my wife but then I gave my parter my undivided attention. We did separate rooms and I'll let you fill in the rest. We are on a fwb hall pass with them now and am loving it.

From what I have been able to find c4p seems to be really happening for the midwest.

Any swingers from the midwest know a good site for our area? Right now we are looking at sls and Springfield social club but we seem to be a dead zone!!

Aww thanks guys thanks for the feed back. Ok so just chill and have fun got it.

So my wife and I was able to join a swingers club. However, from what we are told the swingers club mostly consists of people from 30 to 40 and there are no other good clubs or bars near us. My wife and I are both 27 so we are a little short on the life end. There is nothing wrong with people in their 30's and 40's but I was wondering if anyone had any thoughts or tips? From the mans perspective how would the older experienced woman and the younger inexperienced man situation work? Also anyone experience this from either side? So as to not end up at the kiddie table so to speak. Please and thank you.

Yeah of course. Protection protection protection birth control as well as condoms plus I'm getting the snip, we check in with each other beforehand, no inviting friends to the party, set up hard nos/sex rules beforehand, and no sex the first date.

When we first decided to open our marriage up we decided that we wanted to explore a fun, exiting, and nurturing lifestyle as a couple as well as individuals. She is allowed to have her adventures on her own and I'm allowed mine. If that helps.

My wife and I have decided that we wanted to pursue an open marriage and felt that swinging would be a good start. After a bad first experience (she backed out at the last moment and he didn't want to use protection even though it was a rule we setup when we started) we are ready to get back out there. I was wondering if any seasoned open relationship folks would have any tips or information for a couple just starting out?