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  • Birthday 07/06/1977

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    Oregon
  • Swinging Experience
    Just started
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    08/16/2001

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  1. Anal play is part of, albeit limited, for us for some time now. Normally it is toys (e.g., plugs) in her and/or if she is in the mood she receives anal. We've done pegging a number time on me; when done right the orgasms are mind-blowing, presumably from the prostrate stimulation. There has been at least a couple times it was uncomfortable, but is the exception, not the rule.
  2. We're new to the scene, and our only sexual encounter with another couple wasn't great, but it has had some amazing benefits thus far: Our communication has gone from good to great. We have to be very open and very accurate. Discussing possibilities, communicating with others, meet'n'greets, and a recent encounter has resulted in super charged sex between us. Naughty talk during sex, at times, draws inspiration from our fantasies in this area. We've met some cool people in the process, even if we couldn't get together for whatever reason. Some of the wackier moments in the research, discussions, etc., have provided laughs. Thus far, shifting gears into this lifestyle has been a net positive, though our experiences with others is pretty limited now. Here's hoping our schedules are less crazy so we can explore more.
  3. We've been married for 17 years and have a very solid marriage. Through thick and thin, through some horrid times, and some awesome times too, we're united. Our sex life has generally been awesome, but there were periods were it became bad due time crunches, health issues, etc. We went through a spell like that and then had a breakthrough in the summer of 2017. We started fucking like rabbits again, discussing ideas, etc., and that's when the idea of including other people came up, and we started pursuing said. Our work lives have been nuts since then, so progress is slow, but still being made. So, it was kind of spontaneous for us and we were both thinking about it before talking.
  4. Thanks for the heads up. I just added it to my iPhone.
  5. We're active on SwingLifestyle and LoveVoodoo. The couple we played with yesterday was connected with on the former. Candidly, we're looking for other venues, so are open to suggestions.
  6. The times me and the wife were banging to conceive was very intensely erotic. We did so at least once everyday during her fertile window and had no problem reproducing. She had a tubal ligation after our last child, so no more of that though. As to playing with this in the context of swinging ... I can imagine some scenarios where this would work out for all involved, however it isn't difficult to see it also causing massive problems.
  7. Thanks all for the replies. I am grateful for the insights on this. This is new territory for us. @lovefest04, thank you for story. I'm glad you guys were safe and that it had a positive ending. Ours was not nearly as bad as that, but still a no-go. You are right about the silver lining: we talked on the whole way home and came to some conclusions: We were closer after the experience, even though it was pretty bad sexually. We appreciated even more how much we love each other and how great our sex life together is. The most common quickie between us, to quote my wife, is "1000 times better" than the MFMF we experienced. We're about 98% sure it was just this couple and not swinging that turned us off. So, we'll likely give it a go again, just not right away. It also made us realized that even though we were getting along well outside the bedroom, it was no guarantee in. Before playing with another couple, we're going to focus on find a fun single person to be with. We both came to the conclusion that another woman would be best as my better half is bisexual and I am not. But we are certainly open to playing with a single male too. Anyway, thanks again. As this is so new, it is good to hear from people that had been there done that. No pun intended.
  8. The female in our duo squirted quite a bit, until we had kids, and now it is rare. I have no idea why motherhood would have changed that, but here we are. So, I guess it is a non-issue in swinging adventures. I didn't mind it when it happened with our own play. Though face-sitting, eh-hem, was sometimes interesting.
  9. It was a factor in our discussions. My wife practices a form of Protestant Christian, while I am a Deist. We're fine with a very kinky sex life, and started swinging, though our first foray into said was pretty terrible. The way my wife, largely, rectified things is the Bible, the Old Testament specifically, is loaded with non-monogamous relationships, including one that, according to the text, was God's blessing (2 Samuel 12). For me it was a lot easier; the Light of Reason is what guides Deists, and there couldn't be anything more obvious than people like to get their freak on.
  10. Hello all. We're new to this site and swinging. Over the last year we've been talking with various couples about potential fun. We found a couple we "clicked" with outside the bedroom, at least in conversations, etc., and had our first sexual encounter with them today. It was pretty bad. The other wife was very into mine (both are bi). Mine wasn't much into her, though they played for a while. That part was interesting and I was happy for them both. His wife did nothing for me sexually, and playing with her was mechanical. The husband was very interested in my wife and, even though we said take it slow, didn't do so, and acted aggressively to the point she told him to stop. My wife was totally turned off by both him and his actions. We ended up briefly having sex with our spouses and wrapped it up quick because they had a thing later in evening to do. At best, totally "meh." Though they are cool people outside of the bedroom, neither of us can see playing with them again. So, I don't know, we are just really discouraged and not sure how actively, if at all, we look for other couples. Has anyone else had a bad first swinging encounter and, if so, how did you bounce back? Any tips? Thanks much.
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