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I concur. Breaks should be on and unless you are ready to be a voyeur only as it sounds might happen. You need to back up and reroute your path until the communication, desire for you both to feel the erotic reward is thoroughly respected and the trust is renewed. My warning: DO NOT START THIS WITH A FRIEND AND ESPECIALLY SOMEONE SHE CHOSE who is a friend. The access to wonder under the initial excitement is too risky

I think too many mis understandings, lack of understanding or even self endulgences are going wrong. As a single guy who has help work this out with some really special couples it’s obvious one of the few “unprepared swinger” norms may be happening. A lot gets left out of the translation as viewed from both sides. You need to ask him exactly what he would like to try or what he really wants to explore. Then ask yourself if your into it too. Then do the exploring and experiencing together. ( It sounds like he didn’t intend for you to be the “HOT WIFE” while he sits back). I could be wrong as I hadn’t asked you both together. Maybe he wants to try soft swing? How about you? Maybe you went after her and the guys ( as you said you made out with a bunch of guys) and left him feeling like you abandoned the fantasy/relationship/him. ( to me this is what I’d guess and please don’t take it as judgment ). A lot of swinging couples enjoy knowing, being a part of and/or feeling their partners pleasures with others. Knowing they are even the empowering partner helping make the situation positive and rewarding. If you just take off into the moment it may come across as a “thank you but I’ll see you later after I get me fun on by myself” then a lot of bonds get broken. Damaged. Exploring together, knowing what everyone is excited for and respecting each other’s experience can lead to some of the most incredible and rewarding sexually mindgasmic times you’ve ever experienced This is an awesome bond that needs to be respected when playing from both sides. It takes growth, time, trust and a developed understanding. So please be sure not to sprint into the list but guide yourselves into it together if you choose. It’s much better that way

The world and media have taught us to label. Personal observations suggest that in small groups where people don’t feel judgmental labels seem to wash away. Being said, I have never thought of myself as bi sexual. Meaning I never look at men and think “wow I’d do him” or what a body or feel an attraction. Nor do I want an emotionally bonding paired relationship. Certainly not bi . I love a woman’s presence and the sense of excitement between men and women. That’s hot. Yes in this case I’m straight as can be. When in a very erotic moment or when there has been a severe depletion of a woman’s presence/desire towards me, the idea of stroking with a guy or a M/F couple is super erotic and exciting. Even sucking his cock with her or turning her on by having her watch us play or devouring both as they fuck each other ( super hot) . Be sure this is not out of creating jealousy but in sharing. As a result I find simply having a sexual environment with an open minded couple where we all strive to explore and play with each other, in a very comfortable manner, as the most rewarding. This seems to be more like tri-sexual rather than bi sexual as it is more the exploring of pleasure and enjoying the exploration rather than an emotional or attraction type bond. Maybe this is more sex positive. I just have to say some people may be poly sexual and have those deeper feelings linking more to no-sexuality and others ( like myself) simply list for the “ let’s try great sex and explore all avenues “. ( safe & sane of course) Yes I may be crazy. But at least I sex positive & comfortable with it. Hope to have some fun chats. S

Great reply to the original post. There are two if not more types of poly people. Some have that internal “self” strain that shows in these situations. The “self” the person fits the above reply. Then the other Selfless type person fits your feelings. The feelings that would not tread on breaking up a couple. I get it and know what you are feeling. The challenge of being the selfless type is that part of the couple you share may be a “self” type and fall in singular love with you resulting in emotional alienation of their original partner. The mess begins! Be careful and hope for the needle in the hay stack. We exist!