ROBAVAL: Hello. I'm visiting HBR with my wife in 2 weeks for my 50th Birthday. I wouldn't say we are swingers but we have had a couple of soft experiences (meaning I watched her blow another guy on Haulover Beach, she's watched me finger another woman at Grand Lido Braco when it was open, and we've had sex in front of others who were doing the same thing at Grand Lido Braco). I originally wanted to go to Desire Pearl but ended up settling on HBR because I thought Desire would be too overwhelming for her and it would ruin our trip. I've enjoyed reading your posts about HBR and I'm very hopeful we run in to people like you've described in your posts. It seems from reading your posts, I'll find the best opportunities for play in the hot tub in the afternoons? The idea of my wife spontaneously being fingered or stroking another guy's cock in the hot tub is one of my all time fantasies. Do you have any advice on how to identify a couple or guy who might be receptive to that sort of thing? My wife has agreed to wear some non-piercing clit jewelry I found online while we're there. Do you think that this might help identify us as a couple receptive to the idea of playing with others? How do we avoid getting into a situation where one of us touches someone who doesn't want to be touched? To be more specific, in one of your posts, you described a situation where Rob was sitting at the moonlight lounge and you reached over to grab his cock only to find that someone else already had her hand on it. How did that lady know it was okay to grab Rob's cock? Any assistance you could offer would be greatly appreciated.