gollymsmolly

What would it take for you to love your body? I've had sex with a lot of women, including some who had model-perfect bodies, and while I'm very appreciative of the various ways in which women's bodies are put together, what actually attracts me more than anything else is a woman who is comfortable enough in her own skin to never worry about how she looks while she is having sex, or dancing, or walking around naked. You can have that at any size or shape, with or without baby pooch, sagging breasts or a dimpled ass.

I don't want to kik, talk on the phone, video chat, or exchange photos beyond what is in my and their profile. None of those things will let me know if there is an attraction, but 5 minutes over coffee will. So, I move quickly to an invitation to meet me for coffee. I'm not sure if I'm just lucky or if experience helps here, but only once have I had a meeting where I decided to decline the invitation to do more private things (and their profile was on the edge).

No, it isn't any different. Straight people are straight and it's still sex even if there isn't a dick involved. Unless you, a straight man, are willing to let a man suck your cock, because, hey, it's just a blow job and if your eyes are closed do you really care, then taking the position that "women swingers play with other women" is not goingA to go well for you. I've never taken a comprehensive survey, but after 15 plus years I'd say there are slightly more bi women in swinging than in any equivalently sized random group. The remainder of "bi" women are what Kinsey referred to as incidentally homosexual, just with lots more opportunities for that incidental homosexual behavior. As the restrictions and social opprobrium regarding male/male play have eased, more men are identifying as bi or bi-curious and I'm guessing many of them are likewise only incidentally same sex inclined, but with a lot of opportunities. And, yes, there is a difference between bi as a sexual identity and "bi" as an accurate description of how you like to play. I can't think of any reason I'd turn down playing with a couple with a straight woman, although I'd be pretty insistent on knowing her boundaries (if we brush against each other, is that going to be problem?) and that's in a threesome. In a swap, it would be even easier.

Maybe. The first is to be analytical about profiles and only message those you really do think would be a good fit. The second is to send an introductory email saying what you like about their profile without asking for or giving access to photos. If someone's first approach to me includes anything but a soft ask, I say we wouldn't be a good fit. In other words, I instantly reject anyone who, in the first email, asks for photos, gives me their kik or email address, etc., because it feels like pressure and an insistence on doing it their way. I assume that will translate into sex, because people tend to be consistent, so I'm not going to even try.