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Lostinmyownhead

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About Lostinmyownhead

  • Rank
    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 08/01/1974

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Texas
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    xx/xx/xxxx
  1. We are fairly new yo the LS, about 1 year in. I am the male half. I will say from my own experiences, this can both ways. I have and always will try everything in my power to please every woman I am with. If I don't, somehow I feel I have failed. Every woman is by far different. They all have different needs and desires. To be bold enough and say I can, could or will please every one of them on the first try is a complete unattainable reality. But to at least respect them enough to listen to their needs is in my opinion the most important thing you can do, secondly , giving it your all. I mean think about it guys. It's not a race to the finish line. What if, and they have been, what if the roles were reversed? I've seen plenty of women who just want to their rocks off and to hell with the guy. In my opinion, try to please her the way you hope she will please you. Things will work out much better in the end. And if there is erection issues, nervousness, dryness, etc. Laugh about it together, relax, apologize and try again. Not everyone can perform at the drop of a dime or on que.
  2. JandK, Thanks for your response. I had considered asking her to read it. I would really like to watch the expressions on her face as she reads it. See if it's more disgust or empathy. I hope that would help me decide how to proceed, depending on her response. On a lighter note. I grew up in Nampa, just a short drive from you. Spent most of my teen days at Bogus Basin on the slopes. Again, Thanks
  3. Hi, Mr. here. We have been swinging right at 1 year now. We have only been with 3 couples in that period. The first couple was great, we all hit it off with each other. We stayed locked in a cabin for an entire weekend. Although I had some male nervousness issues, we all enjoyed ourselves. We were planning our next meeting a few months later when that couple broke up. They were not married. Flash forward 2 months later. We found another couple with an awesome profile. My wife was intrigued with his looks and his part of the profile and the female half was not bad to look at either as well as a good write up. We ate lunch then we took my boat out for the afternoon. The girls played on the front deck, us men just watched. It was great. Both women made each orgasm. Perfect day. Then we planned a meet the following weekend in a 1 room motel. It went horribly wrong. She was only into me, she was very vocal and good at oral. She had me moaning loudly. In no time and I was able to make her orgasm (loudly) very quickly. Meanwhile my wife, who had actually started playing with him before I had started with the other wife was on a sofa bed, 5ft away behind a curtain. It Dawn's on me now that I never heard her moan in pleasure as she usually does. There was a light on that was shining directly on the sofa and it was cold on that side of the room. I got up to use the restroom, walked by here and tried to give her a quick kiss but she turned away from me. ( Not in a good way ) I called her into the bathroom with me and asked what was wrong. She said, she was very uncomfortable, not having a good time and hated to hear us having a great time on the other side of the curtain. Red flags flew, so we put our clothes on and left right then and there. Never talked to them again. Flash forward again a few months. We met a local couple for dinner a couple times. Really got to know them before we ever played. They are amazing people. So real and so much like us. We really liked them and discussed us swinging with them. My wife expressed concern because she can fall hard for a guy she really likes and can very emotionally attached very quickly. I told her that I would make sure it doesn't happen but if starts to we can end it at any time. My wife and I decided to give it one more shot with these folks but changed a few rules. I work out of town a lot, sometimes 2 weeks at a time, and she is home every day/night. We decided because they were friends and close that we could separately hang out with them or even play separately if and only if we informed the other of us first before meeting with them. One night in group text my wife explained that she was horny, so he invited her to meet him. I was out of town for work. As expected she texted me and asked if it was ok to go meet him. I like the guy and trust him. So I said yes. They met, she was nervous but they had a great time. He had some erection issues but was still able to finish and was able to make her cum 3 times and have an orgasm. My hat is off to him. Lol. When she got home she explained to me the details, right down to the fact she loved him filling her with cum and loved the feeling of it oozing out. I congratulated her on having a great time. We decided it was ok to text each other privately between us 4. But immediately I noticed I was getting no action from the female of the other couple. Days without responding to my texts, meanwhile my wife and the husband has really hit it off. They have clicked big time. They are both reserved, quiet and very observant. They are so much alike it's almost scary. So, I was already hesitant of their new relationship but was ok with some emotional and intimate behavior. My relationship with the wife however has not been that great. She will not flirt with me in texts, takes days to respond to my texts sometimes and almost never initiates a conversation. We have all been together as a foursome to play a total of 4 times. She has played separately with him 2 times now, me with her once. I have had some erection issues several times and when I get up to go gather myself, I come back in to find all 3 of them together. He has had some erection issues also, but when if he leaves to go gather himself, I don't get the same courtesy of enjoying both women. I have to ask my wife to join, she won't voluntarily. She knows my biggest fantasy has always been to be with 2 women. Yet it is like pulling teeth to make it happen. My wife has asked me to change the way I have kissed my whole life because that's the way he kisses and she loves it. He can almost always make her cum. It's s challenge for me sometimes. So now I'm stuck trying to find out what he's doing that I'm not so I can repeat at home. Going to cut this short and say. She is getting invited to movies at their house while I'm out if town. Invited to lunch. Invited to just hang out and invited to play. As soon as I get home, we don't get invited like she does when I'm gone. His wife always promises to me that we will meet or we will go fishing together, etc.... But plans always somehow fall through at last minute and I had got my hopes up for nothing. Presently I have started to disconnect from the wife because of it. Each day I find her less attractive and would consider declining and invitation if I was given one. On the other hand my wife and his relationship has gotten nothing but stronger. I have voiced my concerns and asked if we should stop playing with them for now and just be friends. To my wife this wasn't an option. She has attempted to come up with every possible solution that would allow her to keep playing with him. Even when I told my wife I was not happy and not having fun. I told her she was addicted to him and she agreed but said she really didn't want to stop. I even threatened to quit playing all together with them. But she still wanted to know that if I stop, will it be ok for her to keep playing. She says her head has not been so clear and uncluttered since we have met them and fears losing that. I know she will resent me if put the breaks on her play time with him. I'm lost. What can I do to ease my mind ? I know it's a lot of jealousy on my part, but I don't think I should feel this way, should I ? Should she not offer to stop playing when she sees me hurting ? We have always had a great marriage, and are very much in love. I just don't think I can compete with this guy. If you need more info, please let me know as I am sure I left something out. Thanks
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