Bluediamond

I have only seen him 3 times. We both work extremely long hours. And weekends. I went to his house once, then the other 2 times were the parties. I'll update after he and I talk, when if he contacts me. He cannot use the excuse tho that he was more face to face, passionate, sensual, sexual with the other 2 women because he and I were above board from the beginning about not starting up a relationship. Those women were total strangers, I am almost a stranger... hell we met 2 and 1/2 months ago.

I made a decision last nite. After reading different blogs including this site, I will no longer attend parties. A while back I posted that I have herpes. This man that I have been talking about, when we met, I told him that. He was ok with it, he wears a condom. When he took me to the first party he said not to disclose that because I'm taking valtrax daily, am xtremely fit and healthy and don't get outbreaks. Also... if 1 in 3 have it, there's probably someone in the club that has it and not saying anything. This has been haunting me and I no longer can justify, feel good about my behavior. I met s couple online whom I was supposed to meet for coffee this Friday. I emailed them and told them that I was going to tell them at our meeting...which I was...but why waste their time waiting, so I disclosed. I'm sure I will hear back from them. I feel relieved about my decision. I will not go this Saturday. To the club or get my own membership. I have a wonderful life and I believe if I do the right things...the right things will show up in my experiences There is a herpes swinger website that I made a profile for, but nobody comes up in my area. Oh well...if that's all I have to bitch about I'm doing quite well I'd say!! Lol. I have not heard from my "friend"... when I do I'll tell him the same I want to keep in touch with you guys and hopefully meet up someday I live in the Everett, Seattle area. Thank you all! I will reply to Luvin eye full, and thank you Gold Co Couple for your above sentiment!!

Thank you so much for your response! After all the support from here, listening to my gut that something wasn't right, the dust settling etc... I'm over it! Definitely a learning experience that I have gained valuable knowledge in. I know that I am a vibrant, sexy, thoughtful, kind, passionate unicorn! Where in Washington? Club Sapphires is in Seattle area.

Wow!?What a wonderful thing to say:)) I want to move to San Diego... I visit there every 4 months. Where are you guys?

One more thing... I want to move to calif. So why fall in love here ? I'm a very sexual women... my shit is going to waste, and I ain't getting any younger. Lol. I would like some passion and caring intimacy... not just bang bang bang from behind.

What you guys said is so helpful to me!! Thank U! I really wanna pay it forward here someday. I am a loving, sensitive, kind, open book about myself. I care about people and their feelings. I can honestly say these things... I'm very humble, tend to look at life they rose colored glasses.. give some the benefit of the doubt.. when they really do not deserve it. I will end this whole thing in s kind manner. I'm sure I'll see him at the one club out here at some point. I have the ability to care about people, create friendships ... sex or not. I am a very fit attractive 55 yr. old woman w out an ego. My feelings get hurt easily but I like myself so I bounce back. I'll let u guys know what happens:) Thanx for the comment on my " please help thread as well"

I am on another thread here that I created called "please Help". Everyone has been so helpful, supportive. I came to this thread because the man that I have been sexual with, 3 times since mid may, the last 2 times were at swingers parties. We have no plans to start an emotional relationship. I think swinging is more common w committed couples, than what we are. We show up and leave as a couple. I am going to get my own membership as a unicorn due to the fact that the last 2 parties we were at, he ended up with 2 very sexy women whom had not so sexy partners, I went along with it but I'm here to tell you it won't happen again. It was obvious he forgot all about me, in my opinion.. I should have spoken up. He's always been kind, asked me the last time if I was satisfied, I was not... anyway my point is. It really is s grey area because we have no love between us, he knows many nice people at the 2 places, is well liked, I will tell him that maybe it's better if I go stag.. that way I can chose if I'm attracted to the whole couple or not. I'm thinking that what he and I are doing... is not too common among swinging couples.

I truly appreciate all the support from you guys... so last nite I texted him Hi. I of course was at work. He texted back "Hey sexy" with a kiss, and some pics of his daughters and dogs out on his boat yesterday afternoon. Lovin eye full above said as well to tell him what I want. Here is the text I sent: Ya kno... I so much love when you share stuff like this w me. You are such a wonderful father to your girls and pets... makes you overwhelmingly, even more attractive, and sexy than you already are physically, speaking of which I have had a visual that I cannot stop thinking about... your masculine, fit, sexy, tan body on top of that hot young gal, Hilary... watching you ride her, her legs behind her ears, or bent upwards so you could penetrate as deeply as possible, seeing that ass of yours tighten up as you pumped your stiff cock into her wet pussy... I loved the sound you both made. I saw you quiver when you came in her ))). I could hardly keep my mind on her boyfriend. Needless to say I've been making myself cum every nite since then. Do me me a favor woulja? Fuck ME like that sometime.. pretty please. I know I'm not as young, but I'm strong and I can take it too. I still need to have my way with a Marine damn it! He answered back: Okay now I'm super hard after waking up 20 minutes ago you write the most sexual stories I love it and watching your body with him was amazing too, that's the part of watching people having sex, it's erotic. I really don't think he even knew I was alive when he was in the midst of doing her... but that part is ok. I told him today that there's a party I am going to next weekend that has a military theme. I mentioned I was going to get my own membership there, I can go stag or take him as my guest. He said he hopes he can make it. We WILL be having s conversation beforehand. The last 2 parties I ended up with the gal he was fucking partner and I wasn't really into them. I think this can be a sticky situation... I may just go stag because I'm mad at the fact that I put his needs over mine. How do you not hurt feelings. I shoulda said go with her... he asked if they swapped, they said yes. It's hard because each scenario is different and unplanned. This will never happen again! It may be that in time I'll find that we really are not compatible in this arena. There's such a grey area cause we are not a couple. I hope I can help someone else on this forum at some point:) thank U

Oh gosh!!! Thank you all for the lengthy replies!!�� I wish I could hug you!! Part of the awkwardness I think is that we're not a couple. He introduces me as his friend Chris. He also had made it clear that he is not ready for a committed relationship. The fact too that we've been to 2 parties, and fucked at his place once, so really only 3 encounters since we met in May. His style of missionary however...I could see him deeply kissing and talking and stroking their hair... laying on her, just feeling himself inside her... I need to let it go until he contacts me again. Thank you all! I'll be back

I am a single female who met a man on Tinder. I'll try to keep this brief. We both work 55-65 hrs a week. We both are very fit and sexual. There was quite the amount of open dialogue. Due to our busy schedules, hard time connecting, neither one of us looking for a serious relationship... he's raising 2 kids, I'm firm on not getting involved due to wanting to relocate to another state in near future. He mentioned the topic of being in the lifestyle, I knew what he meant. I was a single female member at a club for about 6 months in 2005. I was on board, we went to a club together, had great sex with a couple next to us. The 2nd couple the women was a petite late 50s, smelled great, her husband a nice man but I wasn't attracted to him. My partner was interested in her, I was too. Here's the problem. I did not mind engaging with her husband...it was so so, he was warm and kind. I noticed though when my partner was with his wife, he did her missionary style, was kissing her face and looking at her while he was fucking her, kissing her passionately, talking with her face to face buried inside her, her legs wrapped around him. He pushed her legs behind her ears the whole time facing and talking to her. I felt like he was so much more sensual, intimate, sexual to her. It wasn't a jealously thing. I like myself and trust me, I was approached by several men and women. I appreciated all the compliments people gave me. I'm loving and very sensitive, a caring about others type personality. I don't have an ego. I just be myself...am thankful and grateful that I am seen as attractive and sexy. I wanted what HE was giving her. We had sex one time at his place when we first met. It was quick, enjoyable, I spent the night, felt comfortable with him, the quicky was great in the morning. The second party he invited me to we ended up in a playroom. He likes to fuck me from behind doggy style, spank me, and I like that. I ended up bracing myself on the bed where another couple was. She was in her early 20's and thin, sexy, pretty. Her boyfriend was late 20s early 30s maybe...so so...I felt more towards her than I did him. I started caressing them both.... anyway my friend asked if they swapped, they did. Again he mounted her, totally forgot that I was there, I mechanically fucked her boyfriend. I watched my partner's body twitch as he came inside this gal, after he'd been facing her, kissing her. This man was a gentleman to me both times in introducing me to people he knew at both parties, opening car doors, making sure I had water. I felt both times like we were a married couple that had been together 10 years and we're looking for something to spice up our sex lives. He went down on both women by the way but not with me. I wanted the passion and intimacy that he shared with them...total strangers. We are both in our mid 50. I did not have an orgasm this second party. I knew he had spent everything he had on this gal. I'm sure he will contact me again.. btw he is very well liked in the community, he's not a creep or a leach. He is even allowed to go to these things as a single male. I want to be a part of this... I'm 55, enjoy sex, had nothing for 2 years, I'm not getting any younger. I plan on telling him how I feel in a calm manner when my emotions have died down. My feelings are hurt. HE of course did not hurt my feelings, I am in full charge of those. I am disappointed that he doesn't feel that same intimacy with me as he did them. Next time he invites me I will pass, tell him I'm going stag from now on, that way I don't feel obligated to be with the other woman's unattractive partner. I sound like a bitch don't I! lol I'm sure the 2 other men are very nice, they had gorgeous sexy wives, girlfriends... The fact that he does not feel that way towards me sexually is not bad, or wrong...it is how he feels. However it does not work for me In other words, we are not compatible sexually. I will not give up. I will go as a single female and have no problem doing that. I will speak with him in a non accusing manner. I'm just disappointed he doesn't want me the way I want him. This whole thing may be strange because we are not a couple. I know he does not attend these things all the time because people would ask him Hey, where ya been?! I deserve more than what I got. The fact is that my intuition is eating at me. Am I being too sensitive? Has anyone encountered this? I want to tell him that I still feel he is a great father, animal lover, I find him very sexy, gorgeous... if we bump into each other at a party I do not want it to be awkward, I want to hug each other and say Hey!!! How ya doing?

WOW!! Thanx for the website re. swingers w herpes! I appreciate all the wonderful feedback from everyone:))

I feel like I should disclose if we happen to meet people who want to play with us at the club... just like I disclosed to my man friend who swings. He has accepted the risk and I gave him a PDF from Herpes Opportunity... a support group and forum. I take acyclovir daily which is supposed to be 80% effective at keeping the virus asleep. I have not had sex in over 2 yrs. The man I was with before that, when we split, I got tested for HIV twice in 6 months just to start with a clean slate... prior to that no sex for 5 yrs. so... I could give head to a guy that has hpv and get it or I could go down on a women... same thing. I haven't had anyone go down on me in 20 yrs. I guess it could be worse. I fell I have a responsibility to disclose.

Ok.. what would you suggest for someone like me? Maybe I don't have the right to participate. Do I try to find couples who have hsv2? What if they have something in addition to that. So I guess everyone interested in one another should head to the doctor to get tested.. then just stay monogamous in that group...

This is perfect!! This thread is what got me to join I me a man who swings.. I'm open to it. I have hsv2. I got it w out knowing it. There are so many who have stuff and don't know it! Condoms are not 100 percent protection. I suppose eating pussy and sucking cock are not safe either. I take acyclovir daily, I don't ever have outbreaks, the virus can be spread with no known symptoms. The prophet I may be disclosing to... how do I know they don't have something, also, they may have and not know it! Any thoughts? Btw I love the people on here!!❤️

I have herpes 2. I am asymtomatic. I do not have outbreaks, gave it to my daughters father and didn't know I had it. You cannot trust what someone says... if they have something or not, because they can have it and not know it.