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luvin eye full last won the day on June 29 2018

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  1. Well actually ... maybe you should read reply's - yours included - I would think a real women is just that - why do you need to put a shape to them. But you go about your ways and i;ll say what i fuckin want too.
  2. Hi I don't think you will find the answer here - Don;t get me wrong we will all tell you you have more "worth " then you think you do - What your doing is for filling your own prophecy - you go to the club believing your unattractive and so you put that vibe out there and guys hardly do any thing with you. Then when you do get one - well lets just say he did not help lol. So here"s what i would get my wife to do if it were her in your shoes. I would stop swinging ( for now ) you don't need the stress of failing ( in your mind anyway ) I would be looking for couples bonding programs/ stays - things where you and your mate get back to basics after that / or at the same time - i would be looking at retraining your thinking about you. You need to understand that you are worth the effort and not just some thing to be rejected by others ( yes some will but we all get that ) Once on this path i think you need to then start exploring things that make you feel empowered ( and what that is only can say ) Honestly this is a long term thing - but you may want to start some type of swing while you do this but for now i would not take you to clubs if you were my wife - focus on smaller groups were you can get more comfortable with the people you meet. maybe soft swaps ( up to you ) So of course i'm just thinking out load with all this and i do hope you find some peace with it all. Good lick.
  3. !st off - good on you for still giving it ago! For myself i can find sexy in most girls, the only time i can not is when they are up them self's so much even their husbands are glad to swap just for some peace lol Honestly if the guys are saying your so sexy then to them you are. But i get you feel differently i think we all have some things we would change - Understand ( and try to except ) that you are more then what you see in your mind - you have worth in the bedroom and beyond it, so find some sexy stuff to ware and go for it if that's what you feel you need to do. On a side note - we have a few daughters and sons and i have spent a life time telling them not to fall for this crap about you must look like this or that, ( i'm not saying don't be healthy ) And lastly NO real women don't have to have curves at all - please stop body shaming the skinny girls they do have feelings too. They also don't need to have boob jobs or cut up the V's lips and so on. Nor should my sons have to have 12 packs and dicks they have to carry in a suit case.
  4. Hi Look some times it works great and other times it goes badly - if none of you are sure then at lest have a back word or something - good luck and let us know how it goes.
  5. Hi Some good advice in the above posts - BUT (lol here comes the talk ) We understand it is all very exciting and all but your wife's "reluctance" (for lack of a better word) to believe you or your gut feeling is in need of some more talk between the both of you. While it's fine to have a difference of opinion - I'm not sure that trying to prove you wrong is the way to go - it comes down to this - why are you / her willing to overlook concerns of the SO to the point of showing them just how wrong they are? No concerns of feelings a wrong if it's your partners telling you this - it has to be your number one priority to talk it out - without proving anything - Now don't get me wrong you both got there in the end and that's a lot better then some that have posted (in other posts ) - all I am saying is that overlooking your partners feelings/concerns is not going to end well.
  6. So really you do not care if he has banged them before, you just want him to respect your feelings with them now. We understand and see your point. The point here is that your newly weds and he is already going ( sneakily ) against your feelings and concerns - this is bad and a red flag for you. What else is he doing that he knows you are not comfortable with and still goes against ( or misrepresents ) your feelings on? Stop swinging Until he starts to respecting you and your feelings, and if you find out that he does it again after this then sadly you can not trust him. Best of luck (ps , It does not matter if your newly weds or 50 years in - my point is that your starting your marriage in what i see and lack of a better word Deceit - this is bad )
  7. Hi and sorry this concerns me no end "The rules being broken repeatedly and this incident have me feeling awful. I wanted to talk to him about it today but he refuses because there’s other things to deal with. A rule was broken last night and I’m seriously questioning things. At the very least, I think we need a break from the lifestyle. I can never get a break from the BFF and he doesn’t care how much it hurts me. Does anyone have any advice (but be kind please, I’m feeling really low.) Thank you in advance. " His refusal to talk it out When you need too and that last statement about the BFF tells me your in big problem land now. Because it says volumes about the man that you have feel in love with. Now before you get on my case about how good he is - just read again your post and pretend it was me posting it and your a on looker or just step back and have a good look at what he is doing in the name of his love for you. This is not swinging in my book - it's using your love against you to keep a ego - now you may be able to work it out and have a great life together - but not like this, stand your ground with him or you will be forever sorry, hurt and just treated badly ( i mean your feelings will always be hurt ) You as a human are worth far more then this. Best of luck
  8. Good advice GCC Tell your wife of ALL your concerns with this and then tell her to stop ( with this one anyway - ) if she can not stop or will not stop this - then you have a decision to make on what to do next. The thoughts behind my advice is this - This is not swinging - in swinging both have a right to say "hey i do not like the way this is going lets stop" or anything along these lines, put it this way you two wanted to try it out and for what ever reason it does not suit the both of you - so time to stop this path with this girl. Time to talk it out and do not let it go until you both know where you stand - swinging is a partnership not a dictatorship. Let us know how you go with it and best of luck
  9. Changing rules on the fly is a bad idea in my book - only because you have not talked with your partner and found out how they would feel about it. which is what your saying happened - now lets look at that - you say he did not push her head down and she says he did, there are a few things that can explain this, did he touch her hair or head at all and were you watching her head for the show? He may of touched her hair and she took it as a push, you may of glanced away at the time he did it, and so on - the real point is how did she feel about it? did she say something to you? did you jump on her straight away and say some thing? what i see from your post is that you need to ( with and upset/anger with each other ) sit down and go over how you both felt about it all - the whole time not just bits of it. also who wanted to try this and how long before you did it? From what you say about her dryness i would think she was not into it at all and you should off checked in with her ( and used lube if needed ) It's you and her then the rest of the world. make sure that comes over when talking and playing. lastly, about rules - if they are your rules (both of you ) and you both can play by them then who cares what others think.
  10. Hi I've seen this before with a few friends over the years, good friends left standing there scratching thier head saying WTF happened - and most of them did not have the same things going on as you did. As the others have said - the 3some was not the problem and you should not think it was. the problem is there was no talking when she was thinking of going let alone when she left. If you only take one thing from here then let it be that communication is the number one thing two partner need - whether your in the ls or not. i do not think the split was about sex with others ever - it was just one of the many things that surfaced because of a underling problem. Now go and find a great girl that will love you for you, that you can talk too and that you listen too as well (important that one ) enjoy eacth other and if down the road you find that you even want to include others in your sex life then have fun but all ways communicate. Good luck
  11. Sorry for giving you thing thing you wanted "perspective" i guess it does not match yours. but it is A"perspective" What i find in your post is that you want - that's ok we all want something in and out of this LS. my point is from your own post she has told you "It seems to be a somewhat of a sore subject for her every time we discuss it," Because she does not want to do it any more - you know this to be true - You say it's not help full to tell you to stop with this line of talk - but tell me this if your statement about your wife's reaction to talking about it is what you have posted - then why does NO not mean NO to you. I agree talking is important - but not to the point where you end up like what you have posted is her response. TX you are right that i do not know anything about you yet i can tell you from your post this - Your wife wanted to try out bi stuff - found she was not that into it and rather not do it but is happy for you to still do what you like. It comes down to this - do you respect your wife enough to except her not wanting to do bi stuff any more? Lastly - i am not trying to be mean even if it comes out to you that way -
  12. Lol 1st world problems hey!!!! Man you have a wife that is down for what you want ( screwing other chicks as well as guys if you want ) and your take on this is you wish she was bi? Your post nearly sounds like it all her fault that you carn't play bla bla.... Do you realize what you have got? Well off course you do - but you want more - or at lest that's what it sounds like. I think you should stop talking about it- and just respect her way just as she does yours,
  13. Hmm - this is a problem to be sure. So how long have you been in the LS and whats your experience in it. And did this start around ( with in the week ) of the two of you setting up this party? It seems to us that there is more then the stress of work here - we have had our ups and downs because of over work or stress at work - that can count for the lack of intermediacy - but the way in which your beaning used ( taken for granted ) we have not come across this just from work related issues. This sounds like there is something else at play and maybe on top of the work compounding the problem. Even if we are right of base what you have posted is still not good for the two of you. I think you need to pull him up on this asap and have it out with him - let him know you feel like a door mat - and that your also worried about him as well. Swinging will only mask this for a short time ( if it can even do that ) We think you should put the brakes on it for now. Please give a update when you can.
  14. As already said by many - i would try and talk her out of it - i also understand why she wants to do it, It seems to us that self image has gone wrong, instead of wanting honor , respect for self and others, understanding, love and everything else that is worth while having - we have sold our self's to the money makers that say we are not good enough and there for need to "fix" it all. bit like the wish you were here song of the great pink Floyd, How long will we ( as a society ) be blinded by this rubbish and continue to hurt others and our selves by cutting up our bodies - To my daughters ( if you ever see this post that is ) Your beauty comes from the things you hold dear not the bits you can cut off or modify - Do not let yourself ever be fooled - you are worth so much more then a doctors car payment, and the same goes for my sons,
  15. honestly whats not fair is that you are keeping it to your self. It's not fair on him - because he does not know you feel this way - so he has no understanding of what he can do to make this a better experience for his wife. If fact he probably thinks there is no problems. It's not fair on you - because your feelings are valid to you as well - and the more you keep them bottled up the worse for you and everyone around it will get - resentment will soon be able to find a crack into your marriage and it will snow ball. The only thing you need to do is talk to your husband and let him know - then the both of you can move forward to the place where you both can have fun - Your husband loves you - you love your husband - you both are willing to share each-other with other people - but you want to keep this to your self? ( if it was turned around and he thought of you, what you do of him, and then you found out latter - how would that make you feel? ) if your husband posted this same thing only he was keeping it from you i would give him the same advice ( yes and i would off given him some stick like i did you )
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