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About Shemurmurs

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  • Birthday 10/30/1975

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    Married bi couple
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    Washington state
  • Occupation
    Tech professional
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    07/03/2004

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    Eros-events.org

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  1. I think people need to remember that there are just as many varieties of emotions attached to kissing as there are types of love. Before I married I loved others but it was never the same love. It felt different for each person, which is why chemistry is so important to swingers. I love my kids and my pets in a maternal way but still very different. With kissing it's the same, I'm going to kiss my swing partners with passion, lust, and even some love but none of that compares to the amazing love I have for my husband. The little love I have for swing partners is more in line with respect, compassion and a gratitude that would share themselves with me in such an intimate way. Remember folks, it isn't the physical act that gets you in trouble it's the emotion you attach to it.
  2. I never wear club clothing and will wear something that I've worn the office. Not only do I feel confident in something that fits more traditionally but when I wear it to the office I've got memories to smile out. Any club that turns you down for wearing clothing that makes you feel sexy in is probably not a place you want to be.
  3. This post is not so much a question but a word of encouragement for others. Hubby and I went to the club last night and ran into one of my coworkers with their partner. At first I was mortified. "OMG, that's xxx they can't see me here!" and then I took a minute to remember they came there for the same reasons I did. My brain immediately went to all of my other coworkers and thoughts of them being there and it became less scary and (sorry coworkers)more funny. They had not seen me yet (thank goodness not in club wear) so I went over and broke the ice with them. "It's always the quiet ones you have to wonder about isn't it?" yeah, they had a jaw drop moment but I smiled, waved and walked away letting them process. We met again shortly after and I offered to make things more comfortable by staying to a specific area. They were very cool about it and said that we should both go about the evening just enjoying ourselves as normal. Occassionally we'd bump into each other, smile move on. I can't say what will happen Monday morning but it was a much easier thing to circumnavigate than I ever expected. Have others had similar easy going experiences with coworkers showing up in a play space?
  4. Alright ladies, when you've had a great night with a full dance card and your share of vigorous activity how do you care for your body the next day? Do you have problems with swelling, probably bruising and general soreness? What do you recommend? Ice packs, Tylenol, elevation, a cream of some kind? Yes, it was a wild night with three gentlemen (or pleasingly not so gentle) and while I have a very big smile on my face my nether regions are rather sore. Kisses, She Murmurs
  5. Clarification on a phrase above - regarding longevity and comfort. The assumption is that you wouldn't be kissing your life partner or spouse. If you're playing with a swapped partner there is probably not that history or comfort there. So what blows off your doors when you get kissed by one of them?
  6. I'm one of the "yes, kissing is absolutely fine with other partners" type of swinger. With that in mind, what makes someone go from a good kisser to a great one? Is it the hands and where they are moving? It isn't your longevity as a couple and comfort level if it is a play partner. Tongue technique? Mashable lip factor? Wetness or lack thereof? What do you think? Kisses, She Murmurs
  7. I don't require a warning. I generally try in tune with my partners and am reading their reactions to what I am doing. I've had a play partner give me a warning and found it slightly distracting but not bad. I love the power of bringing someone to orgasm regardless of method so a warning for me feels a little too planned.
  8. I had a hysterectomy 2 years ago. Healing was tough and it took a while, PLEASE be patient with her and give her time to adjust. Aside from normal surgery recovery there was also a fear of injury for me. Hubby would insert fingers (a big turn on for me before) and I would be afraid of him hitting a sore spot. It also seemed more sensitive in that he keeps his nails neatly trimmed but I could swear I had felt them scratching and that made me nervous which is a passion killer. It took quite a while for me to get back on my feet fully without reservations. About 6 months I'd say. I also had problems with being shallower than I had been before but don't worry, us ladies can stretch with gentle practice. There was also mental healing I had to do around my femininity. What makes me a woman, it left scars - will those bother him, will I feel different to him, etc. Love and support from hubby helped me through it. Today I'm active, healthy and able to enjoy sex and swinging with the same vigor and abilities as before the surgery. I hope healing for your wife is going well and she's on a road to quick recovery.
  9. Women, anyone really, can overlook a disability. Find what it is about you that is cute, funny, charming, sexy, raunchy, insert other adjectives here...and play on it. Be the guy with the killer smile and wicked flirting that makes a girl blush. It will catch the attention of multiple partners and then the choices abound. Unilateral parylization is not a deal breaker for me. Adjustments on favorite positions may have to happen but everyone should end up with a smile on their faces. The reserved nature you have, is it more shyness or general dislike of displays of emotion? I am horribly shy and have found that little victories along the way have helped me overcome that. A club scene is good for this since this is something of a numbers game and there are more opportunities. If it is distasteful in your mind to emote more, show displays of affection, this may be a bigger issue. The lifestyle requires us to move outside of our comfort zone and grow. If your reservation is from a very conservative nature this might be difficult and compound the physical issues.
  10. Thank you everyone for your input, this has been good feedback. To clarify, yes, single male who set a specific time for me to return. Sorry, trying to keep a high level of anonymity for those involved. As for wrapping up, the parties knew of my obligation. Hope that helps.
  11. Thank you for that. I wasn't sure if this was common in the clubs and I should lower my expectations of behavior or if that person just needs more emotional intelligence.
  12. YES YES YES! Age play is my big fetish. There are bad things in my past that I can get a 'do over' with where I am in control. With the school girl fantasy I see it able to go three ways - loss of innocense, school sl-t or bad girl being punished. I am always happy to play any of the them.
  13. I have psoriasis as well, since I was 12. It has always been a point of self consciousness for me so I heavily empathize with your hubby and being a size 20 BBW I totally understand your plight too. I would love to say my mind is liberated and I don't care but I am still very shy about my body. I avoid stress and psoriasis triggering foods a few days before going to the club and wear outfits I feel flatter me and make me feel confident. Confidence is the best but most difficult to acquire trait you can have that will make you sexy to others. If you and your partner build each other up before hand with compliments and great solo sex the confidence will come more naturally.
  14. Hubby and I are new to the club and I sought out a person for a specific fetish/fantasy that I knew they were also interested in. It put me in a very vulnerable spot emotionally. I was told yes, they were interested in playing and to come back at a specific time as they had other obligations. I stopped play with someone else (we were winding down and they had another partner) and explained that I had a planned event. When I found the fetish player they said they were sorry but they couldn't pass up playing with a couple saying we could play another time. In my mind this is very bad form. But because I am not an assertive person I didn't push it. If I accept play with someone, make an onsite date I expect to keep it even if a super model is begging to go down on me. Make a date for later. Or am I being too rigid because of the vulnerable mindset I was in?
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