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parabola last won the day on April 12 2018

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  • Birthday 10/31/1975

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  1. I think it can go either way depending on the perception of each couple. It gives good insight to meeting other prospective couples, not only verifying people are real, but that they are in the lifestyle to have a good time with no drama issues. If your that worried, you can just simply not post anymore certs, or edit the ones currently there...not sure what site enables what. Otherwise at the end of the day it is your marriage and if the lifestyle is great for you two, I wouldn't worry about what other people think. Would you want to meet a cpl if they were that judgmental anyways?
  2. It seems like on swingers forums, that I see the male half of a couple posting on how to get their so interested in swinging. If you read through the past posts you will see it has been discussed many times on this forum! To me, (female perspective), it feels like the male half of these couples comes from a very big place of frustration. My advice is to come to terms with the fact your wife may never be into the lifestyle and then decide what is most important to you in your overall happiness, which has been posted already. The other thing I'd like to add is taking away those things that are fueling the frustration, and keeping your focus on the lifestyle...or the lack thereof. Whether it be lifestyle sites, forums, or other things that keep your focus thinking about what is lacking in your relationship. If your attention is solely on your so, and building on a great relationship in and out of bed, what bad can come from that?
  3. A weekend seems unusual, but I have heard of a group of 3 cpls who attended a bike week event over a weekend but they knew each other well. As far as spending a weekend with cpls I haven't met before, or knew much about, I would probably pass or at least only commit to one evening. The parties we have been invited to mostly come from pm's from our swinger sites. Couples that host private parties typically don't advertise to EVERYONE, but select which cpls get an invite. I am sure that is to make sure they can limit the amount of people they can accommodate as well as focusing on those they have an attraction to. Most of the invites we consider are cpls we have at least met at a party or event...and know they are pretty easy going and fun to be around.
  4. Dinner to meet and get to know a cpl before a play date is set....plus you get time to discuss with your so prior. I personally wouldn't eat a full meal before but that's just me.
  5. On our site, there are a lot of couples with a wide variety of preferences. Some only play with females, some only do soft swap. Some only play with single males. Some list only girl on girl with the guys watching, some have only mmf where only the husband watches. It is very diverse, but it all comes down to each couples individual wants and desires. I am sure any husband out there would rather have some fun in the lifestyle rather than none at all. Why not both of you list what you both enjoy the most, and what you dislike the most about a variety of situations and then go from there. If you feel you just really want to get past certain situations in order to get comfortable with it, assuming that is what you really want, it may come to that in time. For me, I just simply don't do what doesn't feel comfortable for me, no matter what it is. I have had more positive experiences taking that route than forcing something that goes against what I feel is enjoyable.
  6. We have gotten invites via pm on Sdc, sls, and our couples facebook. There was a kik grp that had cpls in it that hosted regular house parties as well.
  7. I'm into more of anal play than actual fucking. Plugs, vibes, fingers, but that is about all I wish to do. I have done it a couple of times, and know I definitely prefer smaller things in that area lol.
  8. I think couples that are fairly new to the lifestyle naturally have feelings of jealousy in the beginning. It seems to me most of that passes with experience, for most couples. The good news is with swinging you can choose what you enjoy and are comfortable with, it usually is a good idea to keep the pace of the slower partner. Too often than not, some male partners are just into the LS for their own satisfaction, and it ends up putting pressure on their spouses to keep up. It's really important to ask yourself if what you are doing is what you really desire, and not just bc your spouse wants it. If it is too damaging for you it will end up hurting the relationship, and you may not want to continue in the LS.
  9. Couples may not have that option. Maybe they have tried to get their spouse into it. Is it inconceivable not everyone is on board with the lifestyle? Many married cpls don't even consider this type of lifestyle until they have undergone years of traditional monogamous relations, many of which I have met that weren't monogamous during those years...and have led them to the lifestyle. Why judge when a high majority of cpls weren't brought into it, being without issues?
  10. I don't think we would decline. We are both pretty open-minded, and discretion is of big importance to us. We have met a few singles that were attached, some were honest about it, others I personally have been contacted by the gf, or so. Our priorities are to answer to each other, there simply isn't enough free time to run background checks, and play P.I. Life's too short. If I am comfortable with couples, or singles, my so leaves it up to me. Generally speaking, as long as the drama doesn't come around to us, not our concern.
  11. My husband and I met while we were married to other people, although it isn't traditionally the way spouses meet, neither is the lifestyle so I have no judgment there. We considered playing while we were having our affair, but it just was too risky. That was 8 years ago and we are together now and married to each other. The issue I would say, is obviously someone recognizing you on whatever personal ads and it getting back to either his or your spouse. It is usually a small community, and depending on how much you reveal to prospective cpls or singles on lifestyle personal sites, they could recognize you on vanilla social media. Although, I realize that this is a taboo in the lifestyle community, I have personally seen cpls split and bring new partners into the swinging community. It isn't as uncommon as you thing. Good Luck!
  12. In a world with so much diversity with personal preferences, I get why married spouses stray. We have had our fair share of married guys within the lifestyle that were not honest about playing alone with other cpls to their significant other. The only thing we can do is be honest with each other and that is really all we can be responsible for. As far as this female goes, it sounds like she is asking for trouble. Being that vindictive and intentionally harmful to others usually always ends up in some sort of negative result.
  13. Accordingly swingers have a bible belt to attached singles. No idea why considering.....lol.
  14. It's a man's world. That is what the swinging world is about. One sided as hell. Basically the women are selling the couple. Give me a break, we have evoluted down to this? What's in it for the females? We can get any guy age 20 and over why engage in this lifestyle?
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