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MrDSnKW

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About MrDSnKW

  • Rank
    Contributor
  • Birthday 03/20/1980

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Married male
  • Location
    Phoenix
  • Anniversary
    xx/xx/xxxx

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    DSandKW
  1. My "mental state" is certainly improved. I guess I just needed to talk things out, which I did here as well as with my wife. I also found out she felt similar to me. So, were just going to branch out. We signed up for SLS and attended a M&G over the weekend, though it was small and pretty much everyone was outside our age range. Which leads me to another question that I'll probably post another topic for..
  2. Would it be beneficial to list the length of our relationship? We've been together for 11 years (married 3, but whatever :-) ).
  3. I do have pictures up, but the only recent full body pic of me (Mr -- I've lost about 100 pounds since Feb) is with my son on my shoulders. I cropped him out but his legs and part of his torso was still viewable so I think they rejected the pic due to the "no minors" rule. There is a face pic of me and the wife as our default pic but I'll have to get a new one...again due to the weight loss. I'll see about amending our profile like you suggested.
  4. The "hide me" settings for new members, couples and singles are set to no. One thing, my SB username is MrDSnKW but SLS is DSandKW so there's a difference between the website usernames.
  5. I just not the notification that our profile was approved. Maybe you didn't see it cause it wasn't approved yet? Can you try again?
  6. So we're new and just created an SLS profile, DSandKW. Anyone mind looking and giving me some pointers? I'm not really sure what to put in the profile.
  7. I talked it over with the wife and realized it's similar to when I was a teen having a crush on someone and they didn't show interest back. I know it's not the same situation because there's no romantic involvement, but I still don't quite like the feeling. I will say, though, talking about it with my wife made me feel a lot better. I've realized from our talk and from further reading here that not everyone will find me desirable but most importantly if my playmates didn't originally fine me desirable then we wouldn't have played in the first place. I just need to focus on that and find others that are willing to play!
  8. That's the plan. We've gone to a few local clubs a few times (and that's where one MFM took place) but haven't met another couple yet. We also went to a M&G but it was at a strip club and was too loud to do much socializing and we got frustrated and left early. Trying to find some time to get together with the wife to join SLS.
  9. Yeah, I'm sure part if it is envy since I want more play experiences. But is this normal? Have others experienced this as well?
  10. This is a different form of jealousy, and I'd like other people's perspective. First some background into our LS experience. My wife and I first started with swinging a few years ago but our first full swap didn't end well and we decided to call it quits. A few years later (a few months ago) the subject came up again and we decided to give it another try. I'm happy to say that our re-entry with our first couple went really well. So, although we have some experience (including both MFF and MFM) I wouldn't consider ourselves seasoned swingers. Now for my situation. We have soft swapped with a previously vanilla friend couple (their first time, we only did oral but wives didn't reciprocate) as well as a FMF with one of my wife's friends. Meaning both instances were with friends. I now find myself feeling little pangs of jealousy, not regarding my wife, but regarding these friends. The couple has since branched out a bit and started playing with some of their other friends and my wife's female friend is trying to rekindle a relationship with someone from her past. This is causing a small jealousy issue in me even though I know it shouldn't since they are not my partner(s) and we don't have a romantic relationship. I know where these feelings are coming from, I just don't know how to get rid of them. My inner psychoanalyst says it's because of my desire to feel wanted and desired. I'm a little insecure about not being desirable to others, so when I find someone interested in me I take their interest in someone else as a rejection of me, that they no longer desire me which hurts a little bit. So I'm seeking advice in this, something to help change my mindset because I'm about ready to tell my wife I shouldn't be swinging.
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