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SASS

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About SASS

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  • Birthday 08/16/1979

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  • Relationship Status
    M. FEMALE
  • Location
    Va
  • Interests
    taking walks and talking about anything but bills and household responsibilities. imagining that we were free to explore hobbies more. reading anything from the forum post here to good scifi books
  • Occupation
    WIFE
  • Swinging Experience
    SOME GREAT EXPERIENCES
  • Anniversary
    6/19/2004

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  • SLS Name
    Nick_Cass2018
  • Favorite Club(s)
    NONE YET

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  1. I hope things do get better for you. It's good to hear that he is willing to get help. I ache for you. I also have a question for you or for anyone else reading that may know....what is a pineapple? by the context here I think maybe that is describing a man that plays with couples...like the male version of a unicorn? I just had to ask. though I have been playing for years, we have never been to parties of any kind and i've never run across that term in anything I read before, so please help me understand.
  2. I am sure My curiosity is shared. Would love to know how your weekend went. of course, I'm writing this on saturday afternoon when you could very well still be enjoying yourself... I am looking forward to hearing whether you had a good time.
  3. we allow cross contact but we have only ever been with singles besides the one couple that were already our best vanilla friends. one thing we started doing is using kik and starting group chat. that way everyone knows what is going on and has no question what was said to who. we like that much better. And it helps weed out the shady single men because they will have an issue with him being on the chat too and then we know not to continue talking to them. I am not sure that I even want to hook up with a couple because of all the drama. the one time we did, it was a lot of drama and everything I read on here just supports my theory that couple=drama
  4. So I I been thinking about the responses I been getting on aff a lot lately. mostly the single guys. I wish they would use their brains and realize that if you wouldn't whip out your cock in person to a pretty lady, why would you do that online? If I want to see it, I can ask. also, most the time they already have these same pics available on their profile! Crazed sends this message back "congratulations, you have a cock, I got one too" It's so annoying. now, Im a country music fan and I think I need to reply with a music clip, if there is a way to do that, Shania Twain's "That don't impress me much" lmao. I think this would be a genius response to the unprovoked dick pic. especially those used as openers to a first contact.
  5. Feeling much better. Thanks!!
  6. I have NEVER been to the clubs, but I am going to jump in anyway. you were both new. I can see where you could misunderstand her statement and believe she was just uncomfortable with your guy. In the future, I think it would be ok to clarify a statement like that. This is one reason however, that I do not find any interest in going to the clubs. regardless, I have had some pretty crazy experiences anyway. I have been on the trouble causing side a few times too and have figured out, it's better to learn something from each experience and move forward with the new knowledge. In this case, to clarify unclear intentions. should you try again?? well, were you enjoying the experience before this uptight couple ruined it? if you went to the bar and an obnoxious person hit on you repeatedly,then a woman came along and told you to back off her man, would you go back to that bar? most likely you would think "what a crazy pair" and you would not hold it against the bar, but would just move on wondering what was wrong with them... you should look at this the same way. they were also new and she miss communicated with you. you should absolutely try again. Don't let one bad apple spoil it for you. If it had been me, I would have probably started crying and ruined everything good that could come of the night, but I would still want to go back another night.
  7. I agree that you should address this and work it out before you play, you might also consider he just doesn't enjoy it that much? In which case he should still be willing to do it for you each time because you enjoy it. maybe you could use some flavored lotions to make it more appealing for him? Maybe you should make it a rule that he not do that to another woman during play, as you don't feel comfortable with him doing that when he wont do it for you more often. hope it works out for you.
  8. so I have been sick for a month now struggling to get well. I posted on here about three weeks aga about the sti, from that point of taking the medication for it, I have been sick. I had a cold and also an oral yeast and after the medication, my cold just go worse. i just finished a round of antibiotics and now am afraid that they are making me sick from over use, but I also don't feel Like I am equipped to fight without them. anywho, I feel like that is related to my dream I had last night that went as follows: I was one of the leaders of a team of people who rescued mermaids. the current dilemma they were facing was addiction to a substance that would make them ill and eventually kill them... mermaids and people actually got along and there was known meeting place for the two groups. it was a little alcove between the mountains with beautiful beaches and cliffs on all sides but one. the cliffs were covered with bright green and blue foliage and the sand was also bright blue and magical looking. I don't remember what the mermaids themselves looked like but I was talking to a mermaid about why I couldn't help her friend. I said that she had to come to me for help on her own or the transfer to my ship would be too stressful and she would refuse help and die. then she asked why my sister who has addiction affliction was part of my crew and I told her because she could relate to the mermaids well since she had been through what they had. my ship was a pirate style like the queen Elizabeth . as I continued floating in the water as I talked to her, she sped off against the shore line angry with me for not agreeing to help her friend. As she swam, her tail made rainbow patterns in the water froth behind her. meanwhile her friend comes up behind me to ask my help and ends up nearly making me drown as she starts to drown from her illness. My teammate saves us both but is struggling to keep hold of us both. I tell him I can tread water, take her on board. He lets go of me and while swimming toward the ship, asks, why do you do this if you can't even swim and how have you kept that a secret? I wake up just then.
  9. I'll never... drink too much before a play date... swing with vanilla friends...
  10. I thought I was done too!! And I thought he was never going to be done. I lost count of how many times I came and it was really hot looking over and seeing that my husband was ready to go again! yup, we are definitely looking forward to playing with this guy again.
  11. so we finally decided to meet someone new from AFF. we met at local bar and bonded over the crappy karaoke singing going on that night. we talked for several hours and never once was it about sex. it was really refreshing. a couple times when I brought up drama, he told me to imagine a box, put that stuff inside, and kick it across the room....it isn't welcome here tonight....I like this analogy a lot. I told him not to kick it across the room just yet, because we might need to put more stuff in it, and I did. the box got a lot of use the next two nights. I didn't just put my drama in the box, I put my fear in it later and we had a great second date with him in which he romanced my clothes right off and we all thoroughly enjoyed each other. we have found exactly what we sought....friend with benefits. we have been in touch all week through texts and we will meet up again this weekend. we have some cool new games I have been wanting to play and I can't wait!!
  12. I'd ask her to just take away his impulsivity!! He's a good guy just like I'm sure you always were. (And still am, Maybe better for realizing your mistake(s))
  13. I will have to point out that I said I personally had only one regret which was the alcohol. I don't even usually drink. Crazed was the one feeling regretful. He felt that he pushed when I wasn't ready. I don't feel this way. I enjoyed the night, even the drink even though I wish it hadn't been so strong. The empty spaces I want filled in referred to what it is that I don't remember. going over things with crazed, it is only little things like when did he move from on top of me and his friend take his place? I do remember the largest part of the night and I don't regret it. As for crazed motives, I can't really speak, however I don't feel he is intentionally taking advantage, I just think he is impulsive.
  14. Yes, it was working through quite a bit. I would love to hear what you have to say, though no advice is asked, I expected to hear some. It can be difficult to read a post like this and not have something to say, I know.
  15. Just need to get these gripes outta my system....crazed can't stay faithful when there is distance between us. He does not keep his rendezvous from me for long and usually tells me everything. He is weak. I am considering making this much easier by giving him an ongoing hall pass providing he follow some very simple rules I will make to help keep my security needs. I don't see his pattern being like others that I have read about. when I read about serial cheaters...he doesn't fit in except in one way. the distance keeps him from feeling connected and he goes looking for connection...we may have figured out that I just need to be available via phone for long talks when he is off work while out of town...but what about the days when I just can't be on the phone with him? I find myself getting aroused while asking about details of his affair...and I think a hall pass might eliminate the awful ache in my heart while listening to his story and make it a shared experience with hot reclamation sex instead of betrayal. I feel this way because I wasn't as upset this time since part of me was expecting his affair. I had given him an unspoken pass....neither of us were aware of it. so this made me dig a little deeper and believe we will change our dating profile to include women and playing separately. This last time he cheated, he brought me and a swing partner an sti. I made him go get checked and I also was checked. I was so happy it was curable and not one that sticks with you. that would have been terrible. we called our last swing partner and the affair partner and the swing guy said, "I'll get tested and treated, I want to be with you again" The girl acted shocked and He pissed me off sooo bad. He told this girl that we were swingers and Im reading the messages over his shoulder and Im not fast enough to prevent him from sending it. I am pissed. He made it seem to this girl like we were the ones who made her sick. since I had made him get tested each time he has been unfaithful and I hadn't been with anyone else but him since I was last tested negative, it had to be her that gave it to me! I feel she needs to know that. I believe he meant to word things differently and meant to invite her, after treatment, to play with us, something that I am also not sure I was ready to commit to. But it came out very wrong. I have been torn all night. I want to message this girl my self and set the record straight. I want so badly to have her understand that my husband did not place her at risk, but the other way around. But I know this would just be a futile fight with no real closure. typing it up as given me some closure though and I feel better. Did I promise drama? haha. on to the fun!! when I went to pick up my husband from his out of town job after it ended and he needed a ride home, He had been talking to a coworker about swinging and showing off some of my risque pictures. He asked me what I thought about letting him participate with us and I said I probably wouldn't mind. The idea was in fact, a huge turn on. He just wanted to watch at first. The coworker was actually not at his room when I got there and missed the first round of sex. we capped that off at the bar where He wanted me to meet his new friend and owner of the little hole in the wall bar he frequented. I didn't get to meet him, but I did meet the bar tender who poured me a special drink we made up on the spot. We named it purple fuck and I don't know what all was in it. whatever the combination, it was potent and I was extremely buzzed. I didn't black out thankfully. we walked back to his room and I was still so horny!! noticing that his friend had just returned from the store, crazed took me over to meet him. he asked me again beforehand if I would want to hook up with him. we ended up naked by the end of the night and we broke all my rules. it was very hot and I have memory lapses where I can't recall how we got from position a to position c but I don't care because what I remember was hot . btw that was the first rule I broke....no alcohol during play. I don't regret it however, because I know the same would have happened even if I was sober. I was looking forward to it when sober. crazed regretted the alcohol as well because he felt like he pushed me into something I wasn't ready for. I feel that it was going to happen without it anyway, the chemistry was there and the desire was there. tonight the coworker starts messaging me right before we got our diagnosis and asking if we can hook up again. we tell him about it, and he agrees that he'll get treated and wants to meet again. I am not against meeting him again. He is willing to travel to our town and get a hotel we can play in. I am thrilled with the idea. Crazed is beside himself with amusement and excitement. He loves joking about me having a boyfriend. since he wants to play with us both....I guess WE have a boyfriend. lol. The last message I received from him said that the sex was amazing and he wants more. I would like to know what was so amazing because though I didn't completely black out, the details of the night are a bit foggy. I remember enough to know it was hot but there are some things I just can't remember. hoping that he can fill in the empty spaces and we can repeat it very soon. I don't want to repeat the alcohol part though. then again, maybe it wouldn't be too much....would be fun to start the night meeting him in a bar and pretending we didn't know him, dance a little and then head to his room.... omg I need to try and go back to bed.... good night guys Thanks for reading if you got this far....
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