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  1. Other than one that I or someone I trust very well I am about as likely to to even get into a hot tub as I am to swim in their toilet. That includes hotels and clubs. I have made the exception in hotels when the chlorine made my eyes water.
  2. ACCEPT. I strongly suspect. those who knew you and might imagine a chance to participate.
  3. I take it the diabetes is well controlled? My experience with the daily tadalafil was similar to yours. Maybe talk to your doctor about upping the dosage or perhaps just doubling up an hour or so before you plan to play. Like I said do this in concert with your doctor.
  4. I can recognize your dilemma. May I ask how old you are and what kind of shape you are in? I am 73 and depending on the time of year physically I am in shape or not so much. I work outdoors in construction, so winter is not my high exercise time. By summers end all systems are working better. Age is not helping. The head thing also comes into play, as not performing up to my own standard gets into my head, as does tension from jobs sometimes. Exercise a healthy diet and some intentional relaxing activity might just get you past much of this. There are also so many ways to participate and excel that do not require an erection. When we start with a couple it is always soft swing. So far most all have been excited about coming back for more. I thinks many husbands are lacking in these skills for some reason. Post me privately if you wish.
  5. Numex , I was referencing this "now there are kids", as far as sleepovers being more difficult.
  6. Vanillas "go dancing" or whatever all the time. Sleepovers are a bit harder. 40 and 37? You are just ancient.
  7. Hunter, it depends what point the baking is at. If your yeast sponge is perking away you are committed as you are while the bread is rising.
  8. You describe him as forgetful and seemingly unable to shift gears quickly as things change. I am curious. Are these personality flaws or symptoms of some sort of neurological/psychological problem. I sometimes forget when a topic is of no interest to me, even when others find it important.. (This is a flaw) I am increasingly forgetful of things that I wish to recall due to my brain aging and not being as agile as it once was. (Which is not a personality flaw just an imperfection) I am also getting more crochety about things being sprung on me. (This is probably a bit of both) Various PTSD type of things can elicit the things you describe, as can some portions of the autism spectrum. I once had something hit me in a LS situation . It made NO sense to me or my wife. A few nights later, while drifting off to sleep..EUREKA... . Something from very early sexual awareness which was minor ,and long filed away. It was something that was not minor then and beyond my ability to deal with at the time. Suddenly in the midst of an otherwise pleasant LS evening a portion of my mind was suddenly 13-14 years old emotionally distraught. Once I understood it was good for a laugh. Figuring out why his reaction was as it was would be a first place to go. The LS is potentially a complex path. We ALL have histories that may at one point or another blindside us for good or ill.
  9. The best child , in this context, is the one who survives.
  10. I guess you can say that I am prejudiced. That is in accordance to the meaning of the word, from pre judicare, to judge beforehand. I have an onboard suspicion regarding the will, wisdom and intent of one race. I am willing to recognize those to be trusted , but only after vetting. The race? The human one.
  11. Am I to assume from this statement that if you disapproved she would proceed anyway? OR That, in the particular, she makes the choice because she is already assured that you are okay with what she chooses? My wife has an permanent and plenary Green Light from me. She still checks if something, or someone new enters the picture. She is considerate that way, but it is unnecessary and she knows it.
  12. The penis has only two ways to get or transmit an infection, that are unique to intercourse, through its only natural opening and dermally. Why then is so much attention and credit given to condoms. It is being treated like a talisman. Properly executed oral exposes far more opportunities for mucosal infection , both giving and receiving, eyes, nose, mouth. and a much larger surface area of large open pores. This totally ignores things like minor facial blemishes and razor irritation. If a minor razor cut while prepping for a supposedly sterile knee surgery can postpone the surgery, why not oral sex/ If the possibility of accidental exposure is sharp enough to demand routine eye protection for the surgeon and even dental hygienist, why not goggles when having oral, where is almost a certainty of ending with a face or mouthful of another's fluids? Yes, I know ,HIV etc. I am not saying that there is no upside to condom usage. What I am asking is the reason for almost totally ignoring the other ways of exposure. I suspicion that , at least for us older folks, the memory of abstinence and condoms being the only effective means of birth control plays a large part. Please DO NOT see the above as in any way demeaning anyone's choices as far as safer sex is concerned. I would just feel better with a less magical approach.
  13. Couplers, Where your family falls in the structure that I outlined earlier would fall into the monogamous realm. The "playing around the edges " thread would fall into swinging. I think of polyamorous permanent relationships the equivalent of committed monogamy. Polyamory I think has a similar definition problem to that of committed ENM couplies. There are many who call themselves "polyamorous" when I would just say "sleeping around". Where the similarity comes in is that what can be clearly definitive terms, ENM and Polyamory, get blurred with just normal promiscuous free sex living.
  14. RANT warning: It really amazes me that mature adults, especially LS mature adults seem to see sexual freedom as somehow opposed to monogamy. Monogamy literally means to be married to one. Mono(one) + Gameo ( I marry). The concept that this group , especially , sees marriage in gonadal terms gives me a headache. That fact that the partnership of marriage is far more than just genital contact gets lost. When I read posts here , as individuals, most of the poster have a handle on the reality. As soon as the discussion turns to general terms there seems to be a reversion to how things were perceived in high school. As individuals many of us see ourselves and express that we see ourselves as faithfully and passionately married to our partners. This partnership for us includes giving each other the gift of sexual variety. Am I truly missing something? There is only one adult for whom I would willingly give my life, the one who I have entrusted my life to , when there was a medical situation in which I would not be able to make my own decisions. That is the partner with whom my fate is married. Those I have had sex with have all been good people. Some of them have been more intimately involved on a deeper level. One of whom I loved in a way not possible without my wife's approval. With all of that , my reality is still very much monogamous. Perhaps my problem stems from my belief that there is a substantial difference between a sexual freedom lifestyle and its subset which is swinging, in that swinging involves couples. The couple dynamic is unique in the game. Of course there is overlap. One of our favorite playmates is a single male. In my mind though,we are swinging , he is just one very lucky single guy that my wife likes, who happens to play very well in an MFM scenario. The way things are sometime discussed marriage is some how less, or limiting. I do not believe that to be the case.
  15. You are right about that. The thing that caused me to post it here is that, my wife sent it to me in the context of our own marriage. It was meant in a "See we are doing pretty good, my dear" sort of way. The quality of play with others often reflects the state of our own play between just us. This varies from absolutely brilliant to "Maintenance" sex. ( I don't care what is on the schedule. It has been a week. Shut off the computer, TV ,phones, and come to bed.)Getting distracted is an easy pattern to fall into. As we age the inexorable decline in all body functions can be a bit depressing. I was just in such a situation and she used the article as a pick-me-up.
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