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    MFM Threesomes, Gangbangs, Gloryholes.
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  1. Thankfully my wife is actively seeking help. This is a part of why I also refuse to give up on her, as she isn't choosing to do nothing. You are correct though. This does have a toll. And if not careful can easily spread the depression. If in the end, my wife decides she will find her happiness without me, I will bow out in full support of that. But thus far, she has stressed that she cherishes my being in her life. Depression is definitely a curse, and like a cancer can spread or weigh on even the most resilient.
  2. Unfortunately that wouldn't fly. Not because I wouldn't be willing, but actually because she isn't interested in playing solo. She has voiced this, and has also voiced that if it's not something we do as a couple, then it's not something she would be interested in. In terms of playing with others, the only thing she is open to, at best: my sitting back while she plays with someone else for a time. And if she voiced she wanted it today, I would set it up asap. But the issue is that in her state, whilst still interested in swinging, even saying she wants to continue, she is reluctant to actually go forward with anything. At the moment, in support, I have accepted taking a break ith any sort of swinging until she is ready. That also includes sex with myself. So there isn't a pressure to please me, in fact, if I am honest, at this point, I don't even remember the last time we had sex.
  3. As the title states, my partner has struggled with depression on and off most of her life due to a extremely abusive up bringing. Followed by a failed marriage to a guy who had no interest in fulfilling any of her needs, both in being a partner, friend as well as intimately. When we met, things changed for the good, she found adventure, love, partnership and intimacy with me. Her depression faded. We had sex often, it was to the point that she was insatiable, and I was with what I thought to have an inexhaustible libido, was occasionally feeling over sex'd. And I/We loved it! Things were so hot, that we easily shared fantasies, turn ons and desires. The swinging lifestyle was greatly desired and welcomed by both of us. We strongly shared desires and a love for MFM Threesomes, Gangbangs and many other things as well. Some time passed, and something changed. Her depression returned, and with a vengeance. Over a duration of time her drive and desires slowly and other times quickly dried up. At first she went back onto depression medication, and it helped a little, but it had adverse effects, so she got off of them, and reconnected with her Therapist. Whom established she does not need the medication anymore. Despite leaps and bounds of progress in some areas, she has gotten much worse in others. Her sex drive/desire is gone. She will say it isn't, but: I cannot massage, touch her without her retreating. Hugs and kisses are only accepted occasionally, but any sort of spontaneous affection is greeted with withdrawal and a body language of invasion of personal space. If I playfully make sex jokes, talk to her about any desires, or if there is any interest in doing anything, I am greeted with eye rolls, sighs and disinterested distance. When I ask if bringing any of that up is not OK, she tells me it is fine and not doing so is hurtful. That she just isn't in the mood at the time, and/or on the same page.........But in actuality within the last two maybe three years now, there isn't a day that is the right time, even when it seemed to be an appropriate moment. The reactions, and withdraw is always the same. When I ask what could help turn her on, she will close up saying she doesn't know. And with body language hints she wants me to drop the subject. I am at a point where I don't bring anything up anymore because I am concern it will make her more upset, and don't know how to tackle this, as admiting i have stopped would also would upset her. Believe me when I say I have been extremely patient. But it is definitely taking a toll. I have asked if there is anything I am doing wrong, or if there is anything I could be doing to help, but am told I am doing nothing wrong, but she doesn't know if I can do anything. I continue to give her support, and space anytime she needs it, but outside of cuddling up at night, intimacy between us seems to be getting further away... *I can confirm with 100% confidence that there is no cheating going on—incase that was a thought.* ***Seeking others without my partner is not an option, nor is quitting on her.*** Does anyone here have any advice? Have a partner in the same boat?
  4. Unfortunately, it is exactly what has happened. The sad part is in some parts, the vaccine isn't available to women. The nature of the monkeypox virus is that it can also spread to children as all it takes is someone infected leaving the virus on a pet, fabric or surface—which then at some point is contacted by child or woman.
  5. Covid has been a rough time to say the least. But lately monkeypox has been spreading like wildfire. How have you gone about swinging during these times? Have you just jumped in regardless of the risks? Taken a break from swinging/sex with others? I ask, mostly because my wife and I have been wanting to arrange a mfm threesome, And or to attend a local gloryhole, but aren't sure if it's worth risking due to Monkeypox etc. What are you guys personally doing?
  6. Hello SwingersBoard, This is a question for women whom have been with men 5" inches and also much bigger. Penis size wise, I'm 5" inches, and size proportionate in girth.. I've had a huge fantasy about watching my wife enjoy penises bigger than mine, and she is definitely interested in trying someone whom is bigger. The biggest she has had physically is a guy whom was 6", but just a little thinner in girth than myself. And dildo wise, 7.5" inches. Unfortunately she wasn't really fond of the dildo, and felt that she may enjoy/prefer the real thing.. ANYWAYS! My question for you sexy people here at the swingersboard is; After experiencing someone roughly 5" inches, and someone much bigger example 7" inches and or up. What were your pro's and con's about each size, did you like one more than the other? Which brought more pleasure for you? Etc.
  7. Actually to be honest.. Swinging actually brought us extremely closer! Ironically, when we took a break from it due to our schedules and whatnot, thats when we have started to drift apart! My wife has recently quit her job and has gone back to school to further her career, so that takes up most of her time, and i am working fulltime and spend my free time pursing my dreams, so swinging has since been put on hold for us.. The truth is, it kind of sucks! Because we rarely have sex with each other if at all these days.. When time permits, i think its safe to say we will both be looking forward to getting back into the swing! It definitely brought us closer and made not only our communcation open up more but it really opened up more intimatcy between us!
  8. So really the best option is to find the right guy, take it slow and keep trying. Definitely! I always check in with her before choosing a guy or bringing one home. (She is just a all around extremely shy person and so she prefers that I screen and bring home the guys.) Based on her dildo, she is afraid of a real one being similar, but still does want to try one (in hopes that she can enjoy it and have the option). I suppose if trying the real thing and ultimately practicing is the only option, we'll just go forward with one inch bigger each MFM and stick with what she loves the most!
  9. I should specify. I bought her a 7.5" dildo because she wants to have the option of doing bigger. I'm not actually pushing her, rather I've been encourage her in general to do what she would like to do, and to do only what she is comfortable with. Only when she starts letting her shyness take over, do I give her a friendly/supportive nudge, which she appreciates. I would never force her against her will/comfort level. She definitely does want to try out bigger cocks, as she has voiced this. It's just that since her 7.5" dildo causes pain/discomfort, she doesn't know how to take a real cock likewise in size. We have come to understand that some women don't enjoy bigger penises because of this same issue, but wonder if it's just a matter of continuous trying? Or if anyone has any advice to make things easier...?
  10. First off, my wife and I are new swingers. What I mean by "new" is that we haven't dipped our feet in all the swinging lifestyle has to offer as of yet. (Which will change with time.) Instead we've been taking things slow, and currently are only having MFM (Male-Female-Male) threesomes. I enjoy sharing her with other guys, and she enjoys being shared. Anyways, I'm 5.5" inches long, and about 5" thick. As I mentioned above, I enjoy sharing my wife with other guys, and with that said, the idea of guys with bigger penises filling her pussy drives me wild... Unfortunately she has brought up that she prefers smaller, because anything above 6" inches and within my girth is too much for her, and is painful. She admits she would like to try bigger but is hesitant due to the discomfort/pain. I bought her a 7.5" dildo but she doesn't like to use it because of the pain/discomfort. My question for everyone is: "How can we get her use to it so that she can enjoy cocks bigger than myself?" After all, it seems like the average size guys we come across whom seem to have the best potential in what we're looking for are often 7"-9" inches with thick girth. Because of her discomfort with anything bigger then 6" inches our potential playmates seem to be limited. (Not that there is anything wrong with anyone smaller then 6" inches, but overcoming this would leave a bigger window of opportunities!) Thanks.
  11. Drinks seems to be a common favorite! lol Thanks for your input! you may be very right, she may be just like your wife and is just a shy person all together. Thank you for your advice/input also! I've definitely read about those "swinger taboo's" in terms of insecurities should be cleared up prior to getting into the lifestyle. Fortunately, I feel we have a pretty solid foundation or set up to void out those often negatives.. Example: She isn't the most confident person in the world, often over thinking what others may think of her, but as seen in our first MFM Threesome, once things start rolling, and the mood sets in, she although still pretty submissive, does eventually let loose and enjoys it. (Nothing wrong with being submissive though!) As for her not entirely being ready to share me with another woman unless it's in the couple swapping sense. I have made this very clear to her, and will time to time give her a comforting reminder that if she never comes around to the idea of being comfortable with having a FMF Threesome, and or if we try swapping/a foursome with another couple and she isn't feeling it, that we can drop those completely! That we won't pursue it or anything unless she is honestly 100% with it. I have even told her that, if things come to that, that we can just stick to having MFM Threesomes! (After all, as sexy as having another girl or couple join us, I not only am madly in love with my wife, but to me seeing her being pleasured and shared with another guy is such a turn on! The more turned on she is, the more she moans or even the more wild she becomes, only adds to mine! So to say the least, if this is all she wants there is no complaints with me! haha) From our current experience, and my constantly confirming that we're on the same page about the swinging lifestyle, I'd say things are going good and fortunately those potential swinger taboo's aren't bringing us down as they would some others.. As long as she desires to be involved in the lifestyle, I will definitely do what I can to be there for her. Ironic enough, that seems identically similar to us! She also prefers that I take the lead, handling our swinger profiles, and new potential partners.. I also do what I can to keep her involved as much as possible, she will also give her input and will look for red flags too. I have also told her that if ever we meet someone and she becomes shy, that I will always be there to fill the void and do what I can to give her openings to spark more conversations. haha Funny enough, when her shyness often kicks in, she has admittedly said she is more comfortable with jumping right into the sex, and letting me take care of the talking.. (I have a feeling if you guys were local to us, we could be good friends, and we would likely feel comfortable going to you guys, as we share similarities!) "It might help if she starts kissing and touching you and perhaps the other man can start caressing her from behind. Or she can start stroking him while kissing you, so that her attention is mainly on you while she is "warming up"" Actually this really did help! During our MFM Threesome, we came into the room with her blindfolded so she wasn't pressured by seeing our guest in the room. For a little while, I would run my hands up and down her body slowly peeling away her lingerie, kissing her touching her.. Giving our guest a show! haha From there I walked her over to the bed, and sat her between our guy and myself, and continued kissing and caressing her, after a few moment's I signaled our guy to join in, and he did the same from behind her, we let her go with the flow, whether it was stroking the other guy or touching me, this seemed to help her get into it.. haha Well.. Just thinking about this and our mfm has got me craving it again! Definitely! Thanks to our being interested in the lifestyle for most of our relationship, we have spent a lot of time reading and researching into things.. So being supportive and reminding her how beautiful she is daily, is definitely my big focus. I understand your advice though! I'm aware that inside of myself somewhere, a part of me would love for her to become very confident, without hesitation and able to jump right into it with a sort of wild dominance.. lol But I also understand that pushing her boundaries if she's not ready could leave room for regret. I don't want this to be a bad experience, and being frustrated is never a sexy feeling.. From my current understanding it seems the best thing I can do is to continue moving forward in the way that we have been, and to let experience play it's part. On the positive note, she at least has been making progress in terms of being able to talk to me about what she's been raised to feel is taboo to talk about. Which is great! But knowing that there is a couple out there similar to us in this sense, whom really does enjoy swinging really is a inspiration! Again thank you for your input!
  12. Hey SwingSetHusband, How does your wife overcome her shyness? Does she just jump in and let the flow of things take its course? Or does she use any specific methods to relax?
  13. I do believe that she does feel safe with me, and knows that I am always there for her, watching out for her. From what I understand, she does trust in me, and tries to talk to me as openly as possible regarding her sexuality/fantasies and or desires. In fact, from the first time we met, until this current moment, she has made progress, but she is still a very very shy person. Her shyness and nervousness apparently stems from her overall nature in general. Example: Her parents (namely her mother) is extremely strict/religious.. She grew up going to a private school and was pretty much taught to be/behave in a certain way. Sex was a forbidden/taboo subject, etc etc.. I personally believe, and based on my understanding of her, that she doesn't have a strong self-confidence level. (Again, i think this is reflective of her upbringing.) I am constantly trying to boost her confidence, and I was/am hoping swinging can help her realize how beautiful and sexy she really is! Unfortunately this lacking in confidence, which often is the case for shyness and nervousness, causes her to worry more about what our potential new playmates may think of her, rather then just letting go of her inhibitions and focusing more on the fun she should be having.. I think that with time, if I continue to boost her confidence, that she will eventually find it easier to calm her nervousness.. She very much wants to get more into the swinging lifestyle, and very much wants to experience many more MFM Threesomes! So, based on our shared desires, I was curious to know, what methods other swingers use to calm those nerves.. It seems to me that it's as "Chicup" says; "Experience is the best teacher. Some things you can't accept based on logic alone you have to actually do them."
  14. Fortunately that's not the case. To be honest, in the beginning of our relationship, I was actually quite jealous of the attention she would get from guys.. If you were to tell me back then that today I would be willing to share her and even encouraging her to embrace her fantasies, such as having MFM Threesomes, I would have never believed it! In fact, in the beginning of our relationship, my biggest fantasy was typically like most guys, and that was to have FMF Threesomes.. Understanding that communication is key, we talked quite a lot about this sort of thing, and eventually we sat back one day and let the fantasies/desires come out with the sky being just the beginning.. Of course around this point all sorts of things came up, including her fantasy of being shared with two guys. (Myself and another of course!) She also admit that, this was something she always has wanted to try, even before we were together, but never admitted it because of her shy nature. From this point, we ultimately started having these sorts of conversations on a weekly basis, than on a nightly basis.. After a few of our talks, it came out that after much thought, she wasn't actually ready to have a FMF Threesome. Respecting her feelings, and not being interested in pushing our relationship down a bad path, I reassured her that we don't have to have a FMF if she doesn't feel it. Time went by, and our chats further delved into our fantasies.. The more we talked about it, the more the idea of a MFM Threesome started to sound good. In simple; I love watching her moan, and love pleasing her, so it wasn't long before the thought of her being pleased by myself and another guy became my fantasy as well.. (Keyword is: "Fantasy". I loved the thought of it, but wasn't sure about it ever coming true..) We bought books on the subject, and she even started to read MFM stories in her free time, in fact between those stories and visualizing MFM's during sex, things in the bedroom became extra steamy! Seeing how much it got her going, and really becoming aroused by the MFM Fantasy, I pop the question; "What if we set up a MFM Threesome for real?" I'm sure at first she thought I was messing with her, but after reassuring her I wasn't, she nervously said she wanted it! (And believe me! I asked her if she was sure.. I even said "Make sure you really do want this, and you aren't just doing it because of me or something..", she nodded and acknowledged she understood and again said she wants it.) From this point on, we not only talked about it, we visualized it during sex, and I even bought her a dildo for realism, all the while we searched for the right guy to bring this fantasy to reality.. Being new to this sort of thing, we really didn't know where to start.. The club and bar scene wasn't for us, so we went with the internet approach.. To say the least we spent a lot of time interviewing, meeting and going through many guys.. Eventually we found this one guy that we both were feeling, and we set a date for the MFM Threesome.. She was SUPER excited! In fact, we went to a few adult shops and lingerie stores because she wanted to find something sexy to wear.. When that guy flaked out, she seemed so disappointed.. It actually wasn't just until last year, after interviewing a bunch of guys, that we found our guy! This time around, things moved forward and we experienced our first MFM Threesome. The very next morning, she mounted me and asked: "Can we do it again!!" I would also like to add that I always ask her if she still wants this, and that if she ever doesn't, never to hesitate saying otherwise.. She always says she does. I also reminder her time to time, that regardless of what we do, whether it is a MFM, a FMF or Swapping with another couple, to be sure that it's what she wants, and never to just agree with it just to do it for me.. So I believe that it is clearly established that this is also what she wants. And she knows that if she ever decides that she is not interested in the swinging lifestyle anymore, she will have my full support. I hope this clarifies the way you've read my post.
  15. Hey everyone! As I've mentioned before, my wife and I have been interested in swinging for a LONG time! In short, we both love sex (who doesn't!) and we definitely share a unconditional love for one another, which is ultimately the reason why we wanted to take our relationship to the next level, a level which most vanilla couples often never see. (As I'm sure any swinger is already is aware of.) Anyways. When it comes to sex, and or anything sexual, it just so happens that I'm completely at home so to speak! For example: During our first MFM Threesome, to my surprise, I had no hang up's about getting naked in front of another man, nor did it bother me in the least that I was sharing my wife with him! I felt completely comfortable without any nervousness/weirdness from the moment we left our home to head to the hotel, all the way down to the next morning. In fact it was almost as if, our mfm threesome was in slow motion, and in a good way I was savoring every second of it feeding off of the energy as if I had done this millions of times before. Overall in general, the act of sex, whether openly talking about it, having it or part-taking in a group play is very much natural feeling to me.. Between the two of us, we/I can clearly notice that I have a much higher sex drive them my wife, sometimes I like to joke saying that my sex drive is insatiable! (I would like to take this moment to say though; Going into swinging isn't just a excuse for me to have sex with other women, in fact while my wife is interested in girl/girl play, and even interested/more comfortable with swapping with another couple, her limit is that she isn't yet comfortable with seeing me with another girl in terms of a FMF threesome.. Which is completely fine! In fact I have also clearly communicated to her that if she by chance never finds comfort with us having a fmf threesome, and or if swapping with another couple isn't for her, we can always stick with having mfm threesomes!) Which brings me to my point/question. My wife is practically the complete opposite to myself in terms of where I am seemingly a natural born slut! haha She is extremely shy and nervous. To get a better idea of her; Although we have been together for just about 8 years now, she can be even shy to talk about certain sexual related topics with myself, so you can just imagine how shy she was going into our first mfm threesome. During the day of our first MFM Threesome, she was nervous heading to the hotel, and was even more nervous of the reality that her fantasy was coming true! To calm her nerves and to make things more sensual, we mutually decided to keep her blindfolded and because this first time really was meant to be all about her, I did my best to ease her into what turned out to be quite steamy.. To avoid getting too deep into the story, the point was; She was so nervous that you could literally see her trembling with nervousness and excitement all at the same time! (Which was such a turn on in my opinion!) Of course after the long foreplay and slowly introducing our guy than having even more foreplay, things heated up pretty smoothly and although she was submissive throughout, eventually the blindfold came off, and well the rest is history! Anyways, I had thought after that experience, she would feel more comfortable with it, but she definitely still retains nearly the same level of shyness/nervousness as prior to this experience. Which if I understand correctly, this is very common for some people when meeting/playing with new playmates. The big question is; What advice would/could you give to her, or What are some things you would do to calm your shyness/nervousness when meeting and or playing with new playmates for the first time? Thanks. =)
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