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Thanks. I am not pushing her. I just gets frustrating sometimes if somebody has irrational reactions to reality. She is not religious. She knows that all of that is medieval superstitions. Its just plain fear of doing what you want in sex. Because of her family who were whore shaming anything and anybody. Shes really beautiful woman and her parent made sure she dont get pregnant in hi-school not by introducing condoms and explaining things, but by introducing ultimate fear and shame by religious and any other means. Worked real good. Almost no sexual experience and boyfriends till 18 years old. She understands that shes afraid of imaginary, fictional, outdated values. We are slowly going forward to get her free. I just was hoping that somebody has somehow similar background and how did you moved past that.

Hello! Male part of couple here. So... We both are interested in sexual adventures, I have experience in lifestyle in previous relationship. She really is turned on about it, we pretty closely got it clear what she wants and I am wiling to give her that in our first time. Because of her youth in half religious sexaphobic environment she is afraid of what "others" might think about her sexual behavior. Not just public in general but the people we intend to have sex with. So her long time fantasy is mmf and thats no problem for me. And shes so afraid that the other guy is going to say something, think something and that scares her more then her desire to try it out at least one time. We been talking this around and around. As I cant understand her deep fears maybe here somebody have some tips for us? Thank you!

To me this all sounds like you ppl are trying to somehow have fun without actually specifying what kind of fun you all want. Its pretty childish because you can see where your relationship goes. So, this couple have restrictions, this couple have doublestandarts. Are you ok with that? No? Quit them and dont look back. And between you two. Make a list, honest list of things you want to do, sexual fantasies, desires. Not together but each of you. Sex is egoistic but being honest about it to each other makes a relationship. And then you can peacefully make it right for you. Without manipulation, pushing and driving over each other with tarmac roller. "Fear of you taking it away from her" is clear and in your face blackmale. Sorry, but it is what it is. She sounds like a kid in toy store. Its not good for you to continue at this moment. Some here say concentrate on marriage, but at the point where you both are its not possible anymore to just quit sexual adventures and pretend that nothing happened. Before continue you should sort things out with what each of you want to do in group sex situations. Most of the time its just so hard to say out loud about desires because of prejudice (just example: wife wants a gangbang! OMG! Husband is turned on by fucking another woman while hes wife just watches. OMG! etc) that its not a bad idea to set up a game - watch some adult movies and just with humor point at situations what turn you on. Jokes make it easier. In any case if you or she feels that something is not going good, you ore she are not satisfied emotionally - quit! At least for a while and talk every little detail out. Ladies will trow things at me now but western culture women who are really suppressed by double standards (man - a lot of sex - good, women - a lot of sex - slut) when they get to it and can do what they want.. finally!... without getting judged... well, they loose their head and act like a alcoholic in liqueur store where everything is for free. And when a man points this out, she replays - you dont love me!!! Its not actually their fault, its culture, traditions and the way women are raised.

So many man who refuse to try out thing with argument "that's gay" are just plain afraid that they will become gay. Well... in most cases that's true. That fear (phobia) of becoming gay is not coming from nowhere. Deeply inside they know what they are and what might happen when they let themselves go. Swinging and group play for single guys is only legal way of having sex with or close to other guy without labeled "fag" in they own mind. Most of the straight guys who contact us (our profile states - we are both bisexual) focuses totally on guy play - questions of do/dont's are all related to male play. Its so funny and sad at the same time. Its like having sex with zombies. So we are not interested in most cases.

Hello everyone! That's our first post, nice to be here finally. This forum was big help in many ways for us. Judging by our experience and what we have learn from communicating with others, people are as much in it together as much honest they are about their sexual preferences. First and most important to themselves. Major factor is bisexuality and some kinky stuff which they are not brave to admit to themselves as a big turn-on. We had a lot of problems at the beginning because of this and when all is clear and every desire is accepted its soooo easy to set up something and have fun. When we started I (male here) used to do most of the logistics, but since we are completely open now of every little kink or fantasy she does the dating too. I am not stating that those couples where male is doing most of the work having issues. To us it turned out to be like that.