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SwingerGirl last won the day on March 8 2013

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  • Birthday 04/08/1984

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    Louisiana
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    Some experience
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    swingergirl985
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    Colette, Jasmine

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  1. sparkstar- Forgive me if I am wrong about this, but this is just the impression that I get from your posts. You are getting frustrated because you are looking for specific opinions about "pulling out" and you feel like you are not getting that. I think if you go back and reread, you will realize that a lot of us -are- giving our opinions about it, but we are also trying to give other advice that is related to this topic. We don't think it is a good idea. You are more than welcome to ignore that advice and do what you want- it's your life. However, to me (again just my opinion) this seems like one of those threads that I run across sometimes on forums where the OP posts thinking they will find people to back them up, then when people don't they take it as a judgment instead of just the advice that it is. I won't say no one is judging you, because clearly some are, but most of us are just giving advice. We don't know the extent of you sexual knowledge, if you know some of this stuff great! if not then it could be something for you to consider. We are simply trying to make sure that you are considering the "what if". Yes, you posted that you don't want to live your life by the "what if", but like it or not, you are attempting to bring someone else in this world that will be affected by your lack of the what if. In this case, the what if is very important. Best of Luck.
  2. Found on https://www.babymed.com/how-to-get-pregnant-getting-pregnant-faster-and-have-a-healthy-baby Ok with that being said..... IMHO you are playing with fire. As I stated previously (and as others have stated), if you are having sex with other men you need to prepare yourself for the *possibility* that you can conceive a baby by the other men. There is no 100% sure way that you will not unless you are not having sex with them. If y'all are ok with that possibility, then you are all consenting adults and you should do whatever you want.Just know that there will be drama if that happens and you will be putting your baby in the middle of it. Some other facts for you to consider though, is that when you are ovulating, studies show that is the second most likely time for women to be at their "horniest" (most people think it is the #1, but again studies show that is during menstruation not ovulation). Also, I don't remember you saying whether this would be your first child? I'm assuming it's not since you had Implanon, and usually you can only get that if you have a child already....? If it's not your first child, how long did it take you to conceive your first? If it is your first, know that it could take years for you to successfully conceive. After you get pregnant.... are you still planning to have unprotected sex with these men? What if one of them gets an STD and you don't know about it? Are you willing to risk exposing your baby to it? I know that you may think you can trust these men, but unless they are having sex with just you, they are exposed to STDs and they could pass it to you (and your baby) before they even know they have it.
  3. If you want to use the pull out method, you need to prepare yourself for the chance that you might conceive a baby by this man. You should only use that method if you are comfortable with the risk. There are two reasons I say this- 1. Because there is a chance no matter how careful you think you are being 2. If you decide to go bareback, are you comfortable living 9 months and maybe longer with the thought of "I don't know who fathered my baby". That might not be you, but I know that I would constantly be worrying about it until I knew for sure. Let's face it, this is not something that only affects you. Every man and woman in this LS that is still fertile has a -chance- of impregnating or being impregnated by someone they don't intend to. Condoms break, birth control fails, even tubal ligation is not 100% effective (yeah yeah I know 99% gives you a damn good shot, but shit still happens). You might want to consider some alternative birth controls that you can use with this partner. A diaphragm Spermicides The sponge Here is a chart that shows the effectiveness of different birth controls. You can use some of them together to increase effectiveness. https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control I'd just like to add... I'm no birth control expert. Talk to your doctor to get better facts.
  4. Colette puts out food (I dunno if that's the one you are talking about?) but I don't think they base it on the number of people signing up on an ad site. They usually put it out as the club opens, and it is usually gone by the time I get there....
  5. I have mixed feelings about this. In my area there are 2 clubs that are literally 10 steps from each other. I have considered signing up for both events to see what response I get. I don't really consider it a problem as far as clubs go. The clubs usually only have about 5-10 people sign up for an event, yet WAY more actually show up- they don't use swing sites as their sole source of headcount. They will be there anyway, you BYOB, so in other words, they are not gaining or losing anything by people signing up and not showing up. Parties and meet and greets are different. They count on a headcount. I would never dream of signing up for something that people are using their hard earned money to organize if I didn't know for sure that I was going.
  6. ^This. When I was first thinking about swinging I had the same misconception that people who were involved in such an "alt lifestyle" would be non-judgmental in all aspects of life. However, this is not the case. Some swingers are racist, some are homophobic, some hate on singles, some hate on people that are more or less of a swinger than they are.... swinger are just normal people. There is nothing different about us than anyone else. For example, I will shame myself a bit. Compared to some people have a very "weird" sex life, yet when I see documentaries on TV about "weird sex" I am just as judgmental as anyone else. Seeing someone dress like a baby to get their rocks off? Yeah, I think -freak-. I'm not proud of this, and I try every day to learn and accept more and more the things I don't understand.
  7. I barely think about my tattoos to the point I have to REALLY think about how many I have, and when I'm counting them in my head I usually leave one out I have 2 on my back- one I really hate and one I don't feel one way or another about, but I'm thinking of getting them both covered up just to cover up the one I don't like. That would probably mean a full back tat for me I'm excited about it because I've always wanted more ink. I don't really think about how potential sex partners are going to feel about them. If they don't like them, they are probably not for me and I'm fine with that.
  8. I agree that it depends. I usually don't like it in my mouth, but don't mind sometimes. If it's someone you know well enough to tell them this- tell them to eat pineapple beforehand
  9. I'll be another odd one out. I don't find it sexy at all. I -love- to watch a girl, but penises are not as cute lol.
  10. This is more or less the answer that I expected to get. I commend you on being able to be so open and honest about your feelings for both Angie and Becca. I also agree that a lot of the attraction to Becca is the newness, the butterflies, and the fact that you might not have felt these butterflies for a long time. You seem to be on the right track as far as this situation goes. Talk to Rob, sooner rather than later. That is the only way you will be able to determine where this is going to go.
  11. Once you start analyzing all of it, all swinger lingo is a bit confusing, and I wish everyone would just come out and write a few more words and explain what they mean. I have not run into a situation yet where it has meant male bisexuality, but it wouldn't surprise me. I just found out a couple days ago that apparently if you use "MMF" instead of "MFM" that you mean you want the guys to have bi-time. HUH? So if I accidentally write MMF, does that mean it's ok for the guys to have bi-time without discussing it further first? I dunno..... again, it's all too confusing for words. Want to know what my idea of open-minded is? A society where we don't need codes to describe male bisexuality. Or a swinging community that doesn't feel the need to put on their ads "no guys better touch my ass" or something equally ridiculous.
  12. Dear Sir. I am sorry that you feel this way. I do not believe it was the intention of anyone here to look down their noses at you. Whether you are a swinger or a cheater, you are a person in a tough position and you are a person that has put your wife in a tough position. Those are her words, not ours. Again- that is what she put in her original post. That is the information we have to go off of when she asks us for advice. Our assessment of those phrases leads us to believe that you may attempt to fulfill your fantasy with no regard of for how she feels. We did not brand you, we simple attempt to make sense of the information given. I commend you for being honest with your wife. However, we get the idea from her post that just because you were honest, and she told you she didn't like the idea, that you would do it anyway. If we are incorrect about this, then I'm sure we can all agree that we are sorry for the miscommunication and ask for further details so that we can give better quality advice- should you choose to still seek it. Now, on to your assessment of us What makes what we do so much better is based again on the assessment that we made, based on what your wife told us, that you are in fact not being honest or respectful. Putting the fact that you were honest with your wife aside, if the situation would of played out the way you liked, you still were not being honest with the other woman involved. I'm sorry, but I believe that she would have a right to know upfront what she was getting herself into. What if she got pregnant? What if she feel in love with you? What if she was shamed by the community if they found out she was sleeping with a married man? What if she was embarrassed to see your wife? You are attempting to put her in a situation, without her full knowledge, that could affect every aspect of her life. That is not fair to her. She could be put into a situation where she could have to pull her child out of practice for the reasons that I mentioned before. Her children could be ridiculed at school if the other kids started talking about what was going on. She could have Borderline Personality Disorder and wreak havoc on you and your family. These would all be things caused by YOU for not being honest. Swingers, for the most part, value honesty and communication between all parties involved above anything else. Does that make us better? You bet your socks it does. No, it is not because couples on here "do it together". There are many swingers that practice more of an open relationship type situation than the "same room sex" or even separate room. However, as I stated above, it is because all parties involved know what is going on and can freely consent or not based on full knowledge of the situation. Also, there are many women that bring up the idea of swinging to their male partners. It is not a one way street. I'm not sure I need to say it again, but I will- It is different. You are so hung up on the sex that you are not seeing that the honesty and communication are simply not there in your situation. Sorry for the extra long post. Good luck to you and yours. Hopefully you can use some of the advice in this post to realize that we are not coming down on you just to have someone to fuss about. I personally would like to hear more from you and your wife should you see that we are here to help you, not hurt you.
  13. I personally don't think there is anything "wrong" with being in love with two people at the same time. Although, I'm not sure if that is the case. I don't want to be disrespectful by asking this, but how is your love for your wife? I know you mentioned that you won't leave her, but that doesn't always amount to love. Again, no disrespect, I just want to make sure I understand My advice would be to stop all one on one communication with Becca until everyone is on the same page. Rob has a right to know exactly how deep this goes. Without that, there will just be more drama than anyone wants to deal with. I can't tell you what you guys should do after that. That is up to how everyone feels about the situation. Speaking to the topic and not your specific situation, I would have to say that this is something that every person- swinger or not- could potentially encounter. I personally do not believe that anyone should ever consider themselves or their partner "safe" from falling in love with someone else. One true love for every person? No, I don't believe it. No, I'm not polyamorous (yet?), I am just simply trying to convey that I do not think this a "swinger issue". I don't think being a swinger puts you at any more "risk" of falling in love with multiple people than being vanilla does.
  14. Erm..... yeah me too My doctor never mentioned any "treatment". I just go back every 6 months for a pap until my cells are normal. She also didn't suggest I don't have sex. She did say that I could catch other strains by having more sex, but I would be exposed to that whether or not I already had it.... I do have another question about this though. I was reading on the CDC website about the test for HPV. It says if you are a woman, you don't get the test until you are 30. I was under the impression that the only "test" you get is similar to the situation I went through. I went to the doctor and my cells were abnormal. She said it was "likely" caused by HPV. Now after reading that, I am confused. Can someone explain this test to me?
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