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  1. I think of the term friends first as an indicator that one or both in the couple are not comfortable with casual sex with strangers. They have to feel comfortable or a sense of companionship. That's not love nor a committed relationship so I don't think of it as poly. The Rose
  2. Two of the guys who introduced thoughts and feelings of sexual chemistry with someone other than my husband. Dagger says that with one,the sparks that fly between us are still obviously seen. Having that work out is obviously a fantasy.
  3. Do I find him appealing? Mutual attraction makes the difference.
  4. I am a very responsive person to other people's emotions and actions. If they are nervous, I will be, if they are comfortable and upbeat then I will be relaxed rather than tense. Our first swinging experience was a soft swap with tense, not very experienced people who had a lot of rules. I was very tense and terrified of screwing up. My next time at the club, I managed to dance and flirt with experience d men who were confident and easy to respond to. One especially so and it was just so easy to follow him in play. The Rose
  5. In chat I have suggested remembering that fantasies don't change our lives, they are perfectly executed, just the way we want them to happen. Reality can be intimidating, overwhelming and frightening to put together and experience. The Rose
  6. Which one of them was really SUPER against it? The Rose
  7. We have been on SLS about Six months now. We haven't gotten any meetings arranged with those we have communicated with there. We have invited a few people to meet with us and responded positively to four who indicated they wanted to meet. They have all dropped communication on the let's meet part. From reading posts on this here and in SLS, it sounds common for most communications that are initiated online to go stale. One swinger's manual I read included an accounting of experiences with couples who agreed to meet then never showed up. And there is the husband of the couple trying to make solo appearances too. All these things are posted about as fairly common. I suppose you need a thick skin and patience for this.
  8. Talking to each other is fantastic advice. It's one way I can express that my husband is different to me. We talk about how we feel, we hold hands, touch in non intimate moments, I position myself in ways that suggest the unity we have, I talk to him before, during and after sex. By talking I don't mean about dinner; I am more vocal and suggestive with him than partners. The Rose
  9. Making sure he sees the emotional differences is one of the ways I ensure he needn't wonder about what's important to me.
  10. For us, the experience being equal is important or we couldn't do it. We are each having fun with a partner and we stick to same room play so that it's an experience we share. I don't have the same emotions towards being with my husband that I do with other men. Love is not in how I have sex with someone or how I flirt. It's in how we share a life together. It's in every little mundane detail of life, taking care of each other, being there for each other. We get to feel free to be who we are, explore sexuality and sensuality. Accept that in each other and share a journey of exploration and experiences.
  11. Since this thread is a couple of years old, I'd like to ask...do you think acceptance has increased as quickly as you thought in 2010 if you felt a few years ago it was evolving to acceptance.
  12. It gets frustrating. I gave up on SLS a couple of weeks after we decided to really swing. We took our explorations to a club. My husband took over the profile reading and mailing. He quickly came to the conclusion that it's a lot to wade through. He has moved to doing the same as I when I do mail, be laid back and invite them to say hello if they see us at the club or a meet and greet. It's no commitment, no pressure and perfectly OK if they never answer or show. The Rose
  13. She will need a measure of self esteem. Everyone has moments of insecurity but if hers is so low that she can not handle it every time someone isn't interesting, it could become very damaging and make things worse for her. If she can come away from that, realise that rejections or no replies will be common and be able to handle it then she may be able to explore more too. The Rose
  14. With what is spent on porn, I guess $1,000 overall isn't quite so much when viewed that way.
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