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Mr&MrsValentine

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About Mr&MrsValentine

  • Rank
    Contributor
  • Birthday 05/30/1957

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Central Florida
  • Swinging Experience
    Just starting out
  • Anniversary
    xx/xx/xxxx

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    MrandMrsValentine
  1. I'm glad y'all never stopped lending advice. There are still those of us that intentionally commit the horrible internet sin of lurking, but only because we are still learning. One day we'll contribute more, but for now it would be like people without kids giving parental advice. Was also thinking how nice it was for Angelkin for updating so we had a complete story. Didn't know there was a contest.
  2. That's just it... to me there is a difference in the connotations of the terms "pet name" and "nickname". A pet name has an emotional component to the connotation that a nickname does not have. Okay, so maybe my geeky, wanna-be writer is showing, but to me they are two different things. And while I use a lot of nicknames for folks, pet names are reserved for Mr. V. We have talked a lot about things like this over the past several weeks (again, I LOVE the communication these forums have engendered). And this particular discussion has been a bit difficult for me at times because to me, there is an emotional and intimate component to these kinds of things. However, to Mr. V, there is not. And I trust him enough to know that component isn't there for him just because it is for me. In other words, it's almost like we live in alternate realities in regards to exactly what these things mean (too much of my sci fi youth is showing now). And while I cannot understand what it is like in his reality, I know it to be real enough that I want to try to explore it. I may end up finding that I just can't go there because that reality is just too different from mine (i.e., I will always feel an emotional component). So if that happens I would end up not doing it any more. But I wouldn't have a problem with him kissing/cuddling/etc. because in his reality, there is no emotional component to those. Weird? Maybe. But it appears to be working for us. Guess we'll figure out if we're right when we work up to our first experience.
  3. I appreciate it, y'all. We also didn't know there is a difference in the letters. If the difference is what I'm thinking it is (the bi-ness of the guy?) then we're definitely looking for an MFM as there is none of that in Mr. V. :-)
  4. Mr. V and I are getting really close to where we want to stop talking about getting into this LS and want to actually do it! :-) And we've pretty much decided we want our first experience to be MMF. But now there's the question of exactly how to get there from here. As we see it there are several potential scenarios: Pick up a single guy at a vanilla bar and take him back to a hotel room we've rented Go to an on-premise club Find an off-premise spot or a meet & greet type thing and take someone back to a hotel room Find a single guy on SLS. If he's local we'd still have to get the room (going back to his place or ours is a deal breaker) but since we live in a high-tourism area there's a pretty good chance he'd already have a room rented. Some other option that we haven't even thought of Just wanted to get advice from those that have been in the LS longer than us. Any pros/cons you feel would be advantageous to us as we try to decide how to get from Point A to Point B?
  5. Just wanted to pop in and thank everyone again for your responses. We're still in the talking/thinking about it phase of things, but I (Mrs) am feeling more comfortable the more I think about it. Mr. V was wonderfully sweet the other night (as he always is) and reminded me that even if we do get pregnant, nothing says we have to raise the child. There are so many people out there that want babies that we could be a hero to someone. Now don't get me wrong... I'm not looking to be someone's hero! LOL But it does feel good to have thought through the possibility and for him to have come up with this answer. As for STDs I have been gathering as much info as I can and am feeling more comfortable since knowledge is power. :-) Thanks again, y'all!
  6. Thanks everyone for your replies. Mr. V tends to agree that it's a common-sense and risk-management thing. I still worry but then again, I worry about everything so that's not all that unusual. But having the specifics in your replies has helped with discussion points between us. Thanks again for the great information and your patience with newbies. :-)
  7. Hi all, I'm sure y'all have all been asked these questions more times than you'd care to count, but here goes another one. As you may have seen from my recent intro on this board, Mr. V. and I have recently been exploring the idea of, well, exploring this lifestyle. We're both quite intrigued by the idea, but I'm having a hard time getting past the possibilities of STDs and unwanted pregnancy. Neither one of us has been active with anyone else since the mid 80s and I wasn't all that active back then. Well, at least not as active as I'm considering being now. And, of course, at that time STDs were something you could live with between outbreaks or get cleared up with a shot. Neither of us were in the high risk portions of society that were dealing with AIDS. So back then, STDs were a bit of a concern, but not very likely. Nowadays.... well, let's just say the world seems very different today. And as for pregnancy, I'm a smoker and in my mid-40s so the pill isn't an option. And a pregnancy would be just so unwanted that I cannot even begin to find words to describe it. I've read through many of the posts about both subjects and find myself almost more confused than when I started. So I figured I'd get on here and start with some specific questions and see if I can get some more info that might calm my nerves. Here they are: 1) How many people do you know of that have had some form of STD or another? And, kind of as a part of this question, if you could please state about how long you've been involved in this. I don't mean to be rude but the experience someone that's been doing this for 10 years and has known X number of people with an STD will, of course, carry more weight than that of someone that's been at this for 1 year and known the same number of people with an STD. 2) How can you tell if someone is infected? I'm sure you can't all the time, of course. But I also am pretty sure there are people out there in the swinger population (just as in all populations) that aren't exactly the most honest and reliable people in the world. So, beyond how trustworthy they seem and so forth, are there particular things that you look for? 3) Where can I go for solid information (and pics if there's something I should look for) about STDs and being safe? 4) Beyond condoms (which I will insist upon) what are other good methods to prevent unwanted pregnancy when the pill is not an option? 5) Okay, truly newbie time here... not sure if I'll stick with vaginal penetration or be adventurous and try either oral or anal. But since that's a decision I may find myself with one day, I might as well ask for info now. Are condoms effective at STD prevention with anal intercourse? And what about oral? I mean, would you use a condom for oral or something else? Or can you even catch an STD through oral intercourse? See... total newb here! 6) Are there other questions/considerations a newbie with these concerns should be asking? Like I said, I'm sure everyone can hear just how green I am, but y'all seem like a wonderful group of people to which I can express these concerns and get some experienced advice. And I know there's no magic bullet, but maybe knowledge is power and all that. Thank you in advance for your time and advice.
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