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mncurious

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About mncurious

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    Swinging solo wife
  • Birthday 09/23/1969

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  • Relationship Status
    couple
  • Location
    Minnesota
  • Interests
    Travel, microbrews, meeting new people
  • Swinging Experience
    First time November 2017
  • Anniversary
    xx/xx/xxxx

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  1. Hi all! We’re going on a cruise soon and would like to meet some other fun couples or possibly just a man. Unfortunately it’s not a lifestyle cruise and so there’s no obvious way to meet other fun couples. Do the hotwife or swinging anklets really work to find other couples into the lifestyle? If not, any other tips to find people in open marriages please? Thanks for the help and happy holidays ?.
  2. Hi everyone! We’re back and hope all of you have a great Thanksgiving holiday. We recovered from our first swinging experience and even had another one last summer. We did go to marriage counseling which helped greatly. It wasn’t great due to some communication issues but my wife did manage to have fun with an old boyfriend. The only issues which came from this second experience was around oral sex. My wife has always been ambivalent at best about receiving oral sex from me. She told me every time it was her and not me or my technique. I even used the suggestions from several of the great members here on SB.Not only did my wife stop me almost every time from going down on her but also told me she let her old boyfriend give her oral and liked it from him. She even partially waxed for him. My wife hasn’t asked or wanted me to go down on her since meeting her old boyfriend but does get excited when talking about him eating her pussy. What should we do to either get my wife into oral with me or just accept it may not be part of our sexual life for awhile? Thanks for the advice.
  3. Hi, Thank you for sharing this personal experience with us. It was brave of you to be this open and vulnerable. I imagine many of us hubbies probably had or will have many of these emotions when we see our wife penetrated for the first time. Have a great summer and continued happiness in your marriage.
  4. Howdy everyone! For those concerned about us, we are doing just fine! Thank you for the support. I’ve really liked many of the posts, threads, insight, pics, and most importantly positive support from the community. Thank you. My wife and I were talking about how we can both take the things her boyfriends show her during sex and how I can improve my own sexual skills. One area I LOVE is going down on my wife and love the taste and smell. Unfortunately, my wife is either indifferent at best or if not totally clean, actively against it. She prefers firm hard pressure and not just me licking and sucking between her legs. Given I love it, does the collective wisdom on here have any tips for me so she can enjoy it more, please? Thanks for the advice on the post or in a PM. We did think about maybe using a dildo inside of her at the same time but that’s it. Maybe a palm massager?
  5. Thank you. Actually, we are doing okay and communicating well. My wife does want to connect sexually once I return from my trip out of town. We plan to talk more about her experience in Africa. What we have discovered is that we are not considered swingers by most everyone here. After looking into it further, you all are right. We are more hotwife, open marriage, and we will see about any poly triads. It's why we will no longer be posting outside of the this forum and the swinging and open marriage forum. You and many others have great knowledge and advice on swinging and we will try to use some of the suggestions where they make sense. But they are just that, swinging advice, not hotwife or open marriage experiences so what works for swingers may not be applicable to us. Thank you for all of your support GoldCoCouple and others but we are no longer going to be looking at any other threads or even posting our first experience. They just don't apply to us and we don't want to be disrespectful to the serious committed swingers like yourselves on here with our non-swinger stories or requests for help. Have a great 2018 and don't worry about us, we'll be fine.
  6. Thanks for all of the advice and the Loki story suggestion especially. It sounds like we are more open marriage than swingers per many of you with intelligent replies. We will post our first experience later this week and then stick to the open marriage and poly forums where we belong. We are not typical swingers.
  7. We used condoms and prescription birth control. It's a good thing, too because one of the condoms did break/come off a few weeks ago when my wife was with her lover. She had no concerns at all about pregnancy. STDs but not being knocked up. When she goes off script birth control, we will then use condoms and spermicide/pull out and always have the morning after available from her ob/gyn. Have a great NYE and 2018!
  8. Hi Edman, Thank you for the post and this is a real event with plenty of proof from credit cards to emails. I will check out the link and see how much of it I can read. Good to have feedback from someone not in the lifestyle but why are you here? Just a voyeur or curious? Wishing you a Happy New Year, too.
  9. Hi all! Update part two Happy holidays for one of the last Times this years. The tests for STDs came back negative!!! Her lover is also getting tested again just to give my wife peace of mind. The bad news is we still haven't connected and will not be able to until mid January due to travel. My wife insists on using condoms until she's tested again in a few months but to be up front,she hasn't expressed any interest in sex since we returned from Christmas travel out of state. I'm starting to see why so many of you were worried about us. She is still keeping in touch with him about both STDs and their recent time together. He wants to see her again and she does too so long as the next test is negative again. I think at this point it might be at least a hot wife situation as many of you told me. She told another female mutual friend of ours what really happened last week. Sounds like she was really happy about her independence and encouraged her to keep exploring her new sexual relationship. Is there any way to nip this in the bud? Or is it probably too late?
  10. We really don't care what you think, if you can do it without pain, or believe our experience.
  11. AngelandTiger, Thank you so much for the advice and feedback. We hope you had a great Christmas holiday and enjoy the New Year's Eve weekend. You probably gave us the best advise so far and we appreciate your candor. To be up front, I do have the ability to swing as well but my wife doesn't want to know anything about it and so far, I haven't met anyone yet. Her test did come back negative for HIV and her boyfriend's being tested or has already been tested again. Also, she hasn't been going to any interracial dating websites. Just a weird coincidence. We did talk about this beforehand, weighed the pros and cons, and decided it would be okay since she knew this guy and he was being very upfront and honest. Plus, I felt it was a good situation to open up our marriage given what my wife told me happened when she was over there last summer. They did kiss and feel each other up but when she asked him to stop, he did without any hesitation. They did kiss a few more times but that was all. So, there was a physical connection and not just some random guy from a swinger's club or craigslist ad. It would have been a fantastic experience for both of us had the one condom not broke/come off and they fluid bonded. My wife seemed really upset about not wanting to have sex but didn't want to give me any STDs if she did have one. The test came back a day or two before we left for Christmas vacation and so we didn't have any time to connect sexually. She will be tested again in a few months per her ob/gyn and until then, we are going to wear condoms and no oral sex which is really sad for me. Since I still want to have hot sex with my wife, I don't think it's cuckold but we possibly have a hot wife situation if I don't decide to swing myself. The only person she wants to have sex with besides me is her new boyfriend. He was tested last summer and now will be tested again this month and share the results with my wife. If negative, I think it's safe to say they will meet again because my wife said it was one of the best weeks of sex in her life. He both showed and told my wife the same, even with condoms which might not be needed next time if both of them are negative and we all remain a closed group. Have a great weekend and thank you again.
  12. Hi everyone. We hope everyone had a great Christmas holiday and enjoy New Year's Eve celebrations tomorrow. For those who don't know, we had our first experience opening up our marriage several weeks ago. My wife traveled overseas to be with a guy she met on a previous trip and they spent a full week together having sex and traveling around the region of Africa where he lived. She had a great time and they have a very strong physical attraction to each other. Just for your information, it was the first interracial sexual experience for both of them. There are signs of NRE since her return and they still keep in touch. Since, then, we have dealt with concerns about STD's, re-connecting, and keeping the story straight with our families. Out of almost 20 condoms, one did come off/break and they didn't notice until his cum was already inside of her. She was on prescription birth control and so that's not really a concern for us. My wife wanted to wait to have sex until she was tested for any STDs. I bought condoms for us but she still wanted to wait. Unfortunately, that also bumped right into Christmas where we had to travel to visit family out of state. So now it's been a month and we haven't had sex and will not for at least another two weeks because of work related travel right after the new year. She told her new sexual partner about her negative test results and he's also getting tested again just to give her a sense of relief. As many others have told us, we should have reconnected immediately after she came back, even if it was just MM or toys. My wife just had zero desire to engage in any kind of sexual activity according to her because of concerns over STDs. Now she has tested negative for all STDs, we can connect but there's been no interest from her. Due to our work schedules and family commitments, we are not going to be able to connect sexually now until mid-January. For me, there's no real hurry now because it's been so long since she came back from being with her new lover. They didn't take any pictures or video so far as I know and any excitement from her first time having sex with another guy has settled down because we didn't re-connect right away as almost all of you told us needed to happen. Yes, we messed this one up pretty bad. So this is where we are at right now. Any advice on what we should do now? Other parts of our marriage are still pretty good and the kids have no idea what happened on mom's trip to travel solo. Even before this, she was planning to see him again in 2018 and now it's even more likely given the negative test result. My concern is having intimacy issues when we finally do have time to ourselves in a few weeks, especially since he was the last one to fluid bond with my wife, not me. She still wants to wear condoms until she is tested again in a few months per her ob/gyn. Thank you for the advice and we can take the honest brutal truth from you with more experience than we have right now. Happy New Year's to you and yours.
  13. We both went into this with our eyes open about what could happen from a terrible experience to pregnancy to STD to a toe curling experience to a strong emotional bond. If all of the condoms would have worked, we would already have reconnected and had fantastic sex. This is only an issue due to my wife's concern, now unfounded, about an STD. We plan to connect tonight or next week for sure. It will still be an open marriage (I don't have any desire to swing now) but only for her. She hasn't really given off any cuckold or bull vibes from what I can tell right now. Well, except we did talk about me going down on her after her boyfriend finished but that's it. She doesn't want to stop as of now except she wants to get in a little better shape for the next experience. Now her test came back negative, her first open marriage experience was all positive and as good as she hoped it would be per her words. I don't think she will want to stop now. I think she still has serious NRE with her new boyfriend and they are still talking at least by email and IM. Have a happy holiday season. If anything changes we will post again. Thanks for your concern.
  14. Thank you. We'll try it tonight. The results came back negative on the first test but the doctor said to come back in a few months for another test. Might still use condoms but I will let my wife do what feels comfortable to her. Happy Holidays.
  15. Update Thanks everyone for the posts, suggestions, concerns, and comments. We talked and she said all is fine and we will reconnect after her STD tests come back negative. He was also tested and is clean. She also said now she doesn’t want to hear anymore about the use, or not, of condoms. My wife also admitted having a strong physical attachment and almost perfect sexual compatibility with her new boyfriend. They are in sync with a shared sexual libido and his techniques to get her to climax. She told me I am still her primary partner and more fun out of the bedroom. We agreed she could go see him again so long as our sex life stays intact. Probably the same time or even a little longer. They can still communicate from IM to calling each other. So it looks like all is going well. Thanks again everyone and we look forward to more advice from the wisdom of the crowd here.
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