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HanAndLeia

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About HanAndLeia

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  • Birthday 06/30/1975

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    Southern California
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  1. ^ This The cuc disappeared. After a night of begging me to come over he vanished off the face of the earth. Our inability to get laid after a year of trying and our bad luck with SLS people flaking has led to a change of strategy. We're changing our position from we need to fuck, to, lets just make some sexy local friends. And realistically thats all we want anyway. Oddly enough, after updating our mission statement and uploading some face pics to Kasidie we attracted a lot of admirers that are willing to come to our house. At first we'd want coffee though at a cafe nearby. So now we've got lots of people wanting to meet us. When it rains it pours. No more SLS, its too anonymous there. There's no sense of community and no proof the people are real. SureThing. On Kasidie.
  2. Thank you for the kind words. Leia takes care of me really well. Swinging isn't something we need. It's something we got a taste of once and really liked, so we've been looking to recreate that moment. But I think you're right, we can wait. We have the rest of our lives to swing. Plus, I don't know how to have casual sex. I only know how to make love to a woman I'm very interested in. Our first and only close experience was with friends we knew for 10 years, and it felt so natural and easy and hot. So I think you're right, a few hours may not be enough time for me to start to really want to make love to a woman. We have absolutely no friends (as a couple). I've got all my guys friends and she has all her girl friends and we party separately because one of us always has to be with our sick daughter. BUT what we're really needing in our lives now are common married friends that we can have over and hangout with as couples. A man and a woman near our age that we can develop a friendship with. The problem is that we're very open about our love and we just haven't been able to find friends that are of the same mind as us. I want to be able to squeeze my wife's breasts and lick her neck at dinner and not worry about it offending the people across the table. Desperately need some sexy like minded open minded friends that we can hang out with as a couple. It's ok if we never have sex with them. There just aren't any websites out there for adults to look for friends and check the checkbox, "must be sexy and enjoy video games and porn". My god there's not a single couple on our entire street that is cool enough to do that with us. I thought the swinger sites might be a good place to meet sexy couples who are into the same things as us. Video games, porn, board games, wine, fine liquor. So my ultimate fantasy, we meet people and build an amazing friendship and they come over all the time and as the cherry on top we start having sex with them someday.
  3. We have respite care. They send a nurse once a month for 4 hours. Except this month they cancelled.
  4. I showed Leia the chat transcript and it didn't raise any red flags for her. Maybe I just get sensitive when strangers start prying into my wife's whereabouts and schedule.
  5. We've considered clubs but our youngest has some medical needs which prevent us from getting a sitter for more than about 3 hours. The club that we would want to go to is far enough away that we'd have about 10 minutes there before we'd have to head home. So it's been a year of using SLS and Kasidie to try and find couples near us. It's quite discouraging. The couples we have had an Initial meet with, never make it to the second step (an actual play date), because we tell them , "ok in June we'll have 3 hours on either this day or that day", and it seems to be a deal breaker. No other couples want to work with us on scheduling. Once they find out we have to plan it months in advance they get disinterested. I feel like the harder we try the farther away we get from ever swinging. We aren't swingers yet, no matter how many people we contact it just never works out. So now we're kind of at the point where if a person says, "come over now for a fuck", we're seriously contemplating changing our rules to not require the face to face meet first. It just adds another step to a process that seems to only have time for one step. Someone please come fuck us!! LOL. Or someone please be ok with our circumstances and let us plan it out as we need.
  6. I have a hall pass, but I just can't see myself using it. She gave it to me mainly because we've been trying to swing for awhile now and she's always the person out of 4 that isn't into the other male. No problem, I don't bug her about it. But I think she realizes we've passed on a lot of opportunities because she's pretty particular. So she gave me one and said, the next time you find one you like, I don't mind just staying at home and you can go alone. But I can't imagine using it.
  7. Thanks for the feedback everyone. I tried to put myself in his shoes, and I think the reason he wanted to know when my wife would be home was because she would be the deciding factor, and he probably wanted to know if he should stay up and wait or go to bed? I know sometimes I can't sleep if I'm waiting for someone to give me a decision. Does that sound weird? As much ad I don't want our first experiment to be odd, we've been looking for another couple to shag for almost a year now with no luck. And since Leia is more interested in FMF and would prefer another woman, this almost works out. The number of pros outweighs the number of cons, but the cons are bigger LOL.
  8. Man I'd love to jump on this one. But yeah my sixth sense is telling me to pass. His email address gives away his full name, and I correlated his name plus his pics with his online Linked in profile. So I know who he is, and he's a well known respected church affiliated guy. What are the odds of someone that well known in the community being an axe murderer?
  9. A couple very close to us has contacted us via SLS. They probably live within 4 miles of us. The man describes himself as a Cuckold and he wants me or me+Leia to come fuck his wife while he watches. Is this safe? A few things come to mind 1. What if I can't perform with some perv staring at me while I'm working. 2. What if he's a weirdo and tries to axe-murder us. #2 only exists because he's being very pushy. Here's a sample chat Him: when can you come over, wife needs to fuck tonight Me: we would want to meet for coffee first and see if we even click, then maybe setup a playdate. Why don't you send some face pics so we can see you? Him: /sent pics Me: /sent pics Me: wow your wife is quite beautiful, I'll make sure to show to my wife when she gets home tonight, and if she's interested we'll email you for a good time to have a meet over coffee Him: Where is your wife tonight? Me: Why do you want to know where my wife is? Him: When will she get home? Me: (internally I'm kind of not liking his pushiness now and why he's prying so much into our personal lives) Me: She'll get home when she gets home, why do you want to know? Him: I just want to know if she agrees and likes my wife so she'll let you out Me: Look, we won't be able to swing anytime soon, we need to meet in person first and see if we even like each other Him: So what time will your wife be getting home? So I'm honored and excited he wants me or me+leia to fuck his wife, but god damn why is he so impatient and pushy? So that's why I have fear #2, he seems a little insane. Thoughts? Should Leia and I feed this guy? sounds like an easy lay, and his wife is gorgeous, (in pics at least). Should I fear for our lives? We're complete strangers to each other, and he's acting a bit odd. Thanks.
  10. I used to be straight until Leia broke me. Now I bend to the left midway. The bend is not as severe when I'm fully erect. /Han
  11. He presented us the reasons, the club drama. I provided the solution for avoiding club drama. /Han
  12. I've been lucky that all the women I've had sex with I also really like. Anyone of them I'd invite to a romantic getaway with me and Leia. I guess this is why I could never do orgies or house parties or clubs. I tend to really like the people I sleep with. Maybe I'm lucky? Maybe someday ill get deep enough into swinging that ill have "casual" sex. But I hope not. I couldn't ever replace Leia. But I am a huge lover of women and have nothing but respect for them. I imagine, if I found out a woman was only using me for a piece of meat, I'd be a little bummed. Admittedly we've only done it a few times, so we're inexperienced. But each time it was with a couple we really liked and became friends with first. I imagine as we gain experience it will be less and less practical to form meaningful relationships with every couple we fuck. Regardless, women, I love all of you! Ladies, don't be surprised if I light candles and put on Barry White just for a BJ. And if it is a good one, don't be surprised if I ask you to marry me.
  13. The fact of the matter is, until you swing, you don't know if you're really "ok" with it. Many women think they'll be ok with it, and then when it happens they freak out. Soooo.. When it comes to the very first time trying the lifestyle, its always a roll of the dice. /Han
  14. As a man, I'm bummed to hear from the ladies here that blowjobs aren't intimate. For me, if a woman is willing to suck on my dick, (maybe I'm wrong), but I will believe that she really digs me. For me all sexual activities are intimate. Whether we're in the spa kissing, or on the couch fingering, or in bed sucking, all of those are sexual experiences that are meaningful and intimate. It's not just a piece of meat ladies, its a connection to our body that allows you to fill us with great joy. I guess I take sexual interactions more seriously than the average swinger. I like to think that with all the women I've been with they've appreciated me as much as I've appreciated them. Hell, even if I'm sucking her toes or tugging on her butt plug, that's intimate for me LOL
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