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  1. Ok that was then, this is now. The oldest is still 88 (the original thread is older) but now the greatest age difference is 38 years younger. She's 32 and I'm 70 now. In fact she's lying in bed with me now.,life is good.!!
  2. I see we've diverged into the greatest age difference now instead of just the oldest, so OK here we go... When I was 50 I had sex with an 18 year old so younger is 32 years and as I've already stated in an earlier post I'm sleeping with an 86 year old now occasionally and that's 20 years older. BUT she isn't the greatest age difference older either. After I started with Gail when I was 15 and she was 35 I also had a relationship with her friend who was 44 at the time so that's 29 years older. I also had a relationship with a woman who was 86 when I was 56 so that's 29 too (because of the relative birthdays). So 29 older and 32 younger so far, LOL. I'm getting old enough so that it'll NEVER be more than 29 older (66 plus 29= 95!). My present girlfriend is 47 so 19 years younger. Age doesn't mean a THING! It's about how we see the world and what's in it. Some people are old at 25 while others never age. I've had such age difference because I don't see "age" I see people. And that works both ways. Some peoples bodies work well right up to the end while others are ill for years. I don't look for older women or younger women I look for people I'm attracted to. I don't understand the fetish people have for absolute perfection these days. For me it's ALWAYS been about how the other person is as a person not how big their titties are or whether their faces have lines on them. And so far I've not had sex with someone just to have sex or because I can have sex with them (as a relationship taking away swinging). I LOVE older women. I LOVE younger women. I LOVE women my own age. I can satisfy an older woman because I still get hard at the drop of ...well a pair of panties will do it! I can teach younger woman about patience and grateful loving. And I can relate to women my own age because we're the same age. I'm open to everyone and from my point of view they are open to me. Sure sometimes I get the "but you're an old man" but then everyone gets put down for something sometimes.
  3. Sirramm: Actually no I'm not beating myself up at all about that subject. I think in 50 years it's only happened a couple of times. I'm just interested in why I want to with some woman and not with others. It seems odd to me that it's that way. If it's the actual act then it shouldn't matter but it does matter so it's something else. I'm really curious about that something else. It has nothing to do with the guy because I never think about that. The guy is faceless for the most part. He's a surrogate for me so I can see myself from a different point of view. I wonder why with some women and not with others that's all.
  4. Sirramm: Well yes in a way it explains it but in another it leaves me wondering. For me it's about attraction, physical attraction. The more I have the more I'm into sharing. I guess it's about my physical feelings. The more I'm into the other person the more sharing her turns me on. I've met, dated, lived with even married women I love but didn't care one way or the other about sharing unless I was really physically attracted to them. It's not all about looks either. So why is it only a few of the women I've been with? That's what I don't understand. I was reading a si-fi book today and it mentioned that there's three kinds of impotence, one of which is situational! In other words some men cannot get an erection with some women but can with others. It's so similar to what I'm saying even though it isn't exactly the same thing that it's got me wondering. Why would an impotent man be able to get an erection with one woman and not with another? I'm assuming it isn't that he's not attracted to the one he can't with because it doesn't mention that it's a test and he's just thrown in with a stranger but rather a person he's in some kind of relationship with. I'm 66 and so far I've never not been able to get an erection with a woman. Oh sure occasionally if I'm stressed or don't feel well but I'm talking about over time. Just curious.
  5. Sexual drive is about testosterone for both men and women. As we age levels go down. Sometimes therapy restores sex drive sometimes not. Also it's a use it or lose it proposition. Take long enough off and you lose capabilities just like running or weight lifting. Men transmit testosterone via saliva so I wonder if that's why M to F oral sex is more prevalent than F to M... No data just a thought.
  6. Sirramm: Hmmmm invisible switch? Yes that about says it! Thanks for the input. I'm surprised to find out others feel the same way, i.e. that sharing some women isn't the same as sharing others, at least that's what I think you said or meant. I always wondered about that (why sharing some women was so much a turn on while I'd have no thought of sharing others). Like myself you seem to have thought about this over the years. Why do you think that is?
  7. First of all it isn't illegal necessarily but who in their right minds would do such a thing? Who would want to take a woman who wasn't "there"? Just because Gail is 86 doesn't mean she's senile. Her father died at 99 and he had girlfriends right up to the end. She lives on her own, drives, does her own shopping, pays her own bills and runs a property that has a main house, guest house and several outbuildings. At 86 she is 5'10" tall (down from 5'11") and about 140 pounds. When we go out anyone who meets us assumes she is my wife and I am not an "old" 66 either. Not to mention I've known her for over 51 years and I didn't meet her in a nursing home she was my neighbor and a friend of my mother's, who is 91 and still dates herself by the way.
  8. Siramm: Well that was intense! I know for myself and, I assume every other guy writing here, that it might seem to an outsider that watching your wife have sex with another man has bi-sexual overtones but I know I am not attracted to men and even in your case where you really get down with it I don't hear it being about the guy, right? It's the experience of the penetration of a loved one by another man that drives the intensity not the man himself. Is that what you take away from it or am I missing it? I know that I don't care to do it with some of my girlfriends, only the ones I have an intense sexual attraction to. I seem to have three stages. Totally indifferent, can take or leave and intensely interested depending on how I feel about the woman sexually (not emotionally!). Right now I'm dating three women and coincidentally I have one of each of those "styles". One woman I don't really want to have another man with us. One I'm kind of interested and would do so with no prompting and the other one I'd LOVE it if she'd do it. What's the difference? My level of attraction and intimacy. The more intimacy the more I'd like it. Anyone else feel this way or am I a sick puppy ?? lol.
  9. I'm not judging your choice of words but I don't think "situationally orally bi comfortable" is a 'term" I think it's a statement, which is fine but we're talking here about one or two words that give someone a lead into what's expected. If you're comfortable with SOBC then sure that works. But so would "I will be oral with a guy if i feel like it and there's a woman there" so where do terms end and statement's begin? For me one or two words is a term, anything more is a statement. But you're certainly not "wrong". As far as "most bi men use the term straight", that part of your reply I'll have to disagree with if only for your choice of words. How could you, as an individual, know what "most" bi men do? You might know some bi men use the term straight but most? To prove that one to me you'd really have to get around A LOT!!! lol.
  10. That's why we are very careful and prefer 3-somes. Foursomes are difficult because of that. I HATE the feeling I'm second class. Of our little twosome I am the older uglier one.
  11. Question 1: I am from San Francisco and can say definitively that top and bottom as used in sexual terms started as a descriptive term with men, top being on top and bottom being …. yes Virginia bottom or as we like to say pokie versus poker. Lesbians co-opted the term sometime later and use it in the same context. Question 2: While the terms straight, gay and lesbian have a meaning to the general public we're talking about terms “swingers” use when advertising. A true Lesbian on a swingers site would most likely block single men AND couples so that's not an issue is it? Homosexual men would block women and couples so that's not an issue either so it's the middle ground that's in question. Bi-sexual means attracted equally, or some other percent other than 50, to either sex and works for male or female. But what about a woman who isn't attracted to women but has no problem being licked by another woman? How would you communicate that? Bi-sexual? No because she doesn't want to lick in return, hence bi-passive. If you're a guy and you're not attracted to men but you have no problem letting a guy suck you how do you communicate that? How about bi-passive? If you are a bi-sexual woman or man then bi-active covers that. Means you'll initiate sexual contact with the same sex. But you're right bi-closed is an unnecessary term as Straight covers that. Still I think bi-passive and bi-active covers all the middle ground with two terms and should be clear to anyone. Screw the term bi-open or closed, that was over thinking on my part. Question 3: Yes I see the problem for a guy who is “bi-oral” versus totally bi-sexual. I think bi-active covers it for the most part but I can see terms are a general thing and not intended to explain everything that can and does happen. On the other hand bi-oral is perfectly understandable no one would assume you'd be up for a flesh enema using that term.
  12. Gail and I started having sex when I was 15 years old. She was 35 years old. The last time we had sex was about two weeks ago and I am 66 now so she's 86. When we last had sex we did it twice and within the last two years we've had it as much as 5 times in a session. So the oldest is 86 and still counting. She is still sexy to me and we'll keep doing it until one of us is gone. I'm trying to talk her into a threesome with her 84 year old sister now, hahahahah....just kidding. She was married for the second time when we met and we never married. Her third husband, who was much older than she is, used to watch us have sex when he couldn't do it any longer. We had an ad on SLS years ago but she was too self-critical of her body to try a MFM 3-some. Even now she's have no problem attracting younger guys. One reply we had then was a guy in his 20's!
  13. Hmmmm. Well I THOUGHT Bi-sexual meant a person was interested in the same sex. I wonder why someone would say if you're not interested in a relationship with a same sex person you're not Bi? What does that have to do with your feelings? That makes no sense to me. The term Bi itself means two. As far as I understand it a Bi-sexual person is attracted to either/both sexes. That's why I suggest the term Bi-passive for those who are not attracted to the same sex but are willing to let a Bi-sexual person play with them, not at all uncommon with women and not unheard of in men. As far as the term swinger I would say it doesn't really matter very much which definition you use because anyone who is a swinger knows and it doesn't matter to anyone who isn't. What I'm trying to do is create terms that make sense that everyone can use so we all know without having to check what the individual site says they mean.
  14. I'm just wondering why each swingers site has different terms for Bi-sexual play. Bi-friendly, Bi-curious, open minded, Bi-comfortable, etc, etc. Seems to me that three terms, Bi-active, Bi-passive and Bi-closed say it all. If a man or woman says they are B-active that would mean they're open to being the Bi initiator with a same sex partner. A woman or man who isn't strictly Bi could say Bi-passive meaning they'd be OK receiving the attention of a Bi-active same sex partner, right? Bi-closed means no Bi play at all. Three terms no ambiguity or am I missing something? What's your take on this?
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