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Soulfinger508

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About Soulfinger508

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  • Birthday 10/07/1975

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  • Relationship Status
    Single Male
  • Location
    Worcester MA
  • Interests
    Reading, writing poetry, trying new sports, traveling, pool and whatever's clever
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    Hotel
  1. Some guys have all the luck. Women like that are a rare find. When you do find one. it's good to hold onto her like a gold coin and try not to lose it.
  2. The swingers party I went to I came across a guy that said the same exact thing. He was saying that single males ruin the whole experience and set things backwards. He also said that the single males should use their money and go get a hooker. I don't know what spurned him to make this remark outloud, but to say that single males corner the market on being jerks is narrow. It would be like if I was to make a blanket statement on couples based on a negative experience. We all want respect and to have a good time, so why close the door shut and paint people with the same brush? I know at these parties its more couple-based, but at the same time I'm saying that there should be more openmindedness because we are all individuals.
  3. If a chick wanted to swing on the first date, I say, "Why wait"? Hell, I would go for it.
  4. This statement is a generalization. Not all couples and single males behave the way you describe. One of the reasons I'm involved in the swinging lifestyle is that there's more directness as opposed to when you meet someone at a club or a bar. If they want sex, they will tell you and be upfront about it. It's obvious that we all had different experiences and opinions as far swinging goes, but I feel at the same time that it's unfair to pigeonhole everyone based on the actions of a few.
  5. My experiences in the swinging scene thus far have been with people older than I. I say been with couples that were in their forties to fifties. I'm 27 years old and as long as they don't make age an issue than I certainly won't.
  6. I personally believe that some of the things people say or do as far as race goes has a lot to do with their upbringing and their mindset. From my experience I could usually tell when someone is uncomfortable being around people of color (especially in groups). There are still some whites who haven't grown up or been around too many people of color so it's a whole new experience. Now I can usually pick up when someone is uncomfortable because they either have the tendency to say something off-color or act insecure. It would be really nice if people just see the character and not the color but apparently that's not a reality yet. When I'm in situations where people tend ask a lot of race-related questions ( depending on how and what they ask) my first impulse is to turn the spotlight on them and find out where they are coming from and where they are going with it. To me, that separates the ignorant from the intelligent. Now as far as swinging parties, clubs and bars, conversations like that are off limits. I check my political and religious beliefs at the front door. I wish a lot of people would do the same, but to each its own, I suppose.
  7. I wasn't aware there were limitations. The last party had more than six single men so I can see why they decided to restrict it. Like I said in some other post, single ladies are more in demand than us and I'm not hating because of it. Anyhow, it's hard trying to find a lady to attend one of these functions. For me, I have luck finding openminded women when I'm not looking for them.
  8. Damn! It feels like yours truly and HappySexAddict live in the area where they're lenient on single men entering swinger parties. Where I live they only charge ten bucks extra for single men. Women get in free. That's because women are in higher demand than single men. That I can live with. While on that note, I'm going to see if I can sneak away from my family gathering in the evening to attend the next swinger party. Let's see how things go.
  9. The party I went to this past March I didn't see any black couples there. I seen one spanish couple and there was an interracial couple too. The woman was black and the male was white. The hostess at the party dates black men (Her ex. deejays the parties and he's black). I'm glad to say I didn't encounter any acts of racism in the lifestyle. Why couples of color aren't as out front as their white counterparts could have a lot to do with norms and social morays or the region where one lives. Then again, I'm just speculating.
  10. Hopefully Mr. Right doesn't hold it against you that you participated in the swinging life. After all, Mr. Right must've had some type of wild life before he meets you. Why should he hold you as some sort of object of virginity or sexual purity? We're not perfect. I'm a bit shy to a point, but someone once told me the best way to deal with your fear is to confront it. Next party you go to, ask the host to introduce you around. Dancing is also a good way to break the ice. As I mentioned in my previous post, there are a lot of single men who attend these parties (well the parties that allow single men). I'm sure out of that single bunch you'll find one that you'll probably hit it off with and perhaps be in a long term relationship. Just a thought.
  11. About five years ago, I started getting mail solicitations regarding swing clubs and pen pals who would be interested in meeting me. I never followed up on this because there was money involved but I was still intrigued, nonetheless. Not long after that, I was forwarded a swingers newsletter via the Internet but most of the parties were couples only. I asked a lady that I knew for quite sometime if she would be interested in coming to a party with me. She said "Hell no!". Apparently she wasn't into that scene, so this pretty much deterred me from asking other women to accompany me to these parties. Flash forward to 2000. I was approached by a female half of a couple who wanted to screw me in her van. When I first met her she was wearing a trench coat. Her hubby was with her and he was very laidback about the situation. When we got back to her van she revealed what was under her coat. She was naked as a newborn baby. My mouth dropped. I was so stunned I couldn't say anything. Needless to say, we had sex in the back of the van. Her hubby got out of the vehicle when I started to have sex with his wife. He encouraged me to have fun and pull his wife's hair because she likes it. I felt like I was in a porn movie. We exchanged numbers afterwards and would get together like two or three times a week for more fun. The whole event was a mind blowing experience. This past March, I went to my first swinger party. It was way out in the burbs. The party reminded me of an episode of HBO's Real Sex. There wasn't too many single women there. There were more single men, but I still had fun. There were couples at the party who liked single males and being that I was new there were people who were anxious to meet me and get better acquainted. There's another party this month, but I won't be able to go because I have my family reunion, but I'm counting the days until the following event. In my opinion, swinger parties are lot better than clubs and bars because swingers are more straight forward about what they want and I appreciate that.
  12. Post of the day goes to Roxy. I hope I'm on that top ten list of yours.
  13. Some serious drama and comedy up in this thread. I have nothing to add other than life is too short to worry about luck. But while on that subject, if I meet a nice-looking lady and we hit it off, hell ya I'm lucky. I love to have my day brightened up by a cutie pie. Who here doesn't appreciate when someone of the opposite sex smiles at them or says something nice and makes conversation? Cynicism has to go.
  14. I had the pleasure of being with three couples. The second one we keep in touch off and on, but I haven't been able to meet up with them seeing as they are so far away. I have a feeling that I will see them again before the year is over.
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