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  • Birthday 12/26/1970

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    female half of couple
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    a month! 9-22-09

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  1. I can really relate...we went through an encounter where I should have said spoken up. I realized I can't expect my hubby to be a mind reader. Experiencing jealousy feelings this week myself and trying to deal with them...I suggest keep communicating with your hubby and take a bit of breather...
  2. I think that is a very good way to be....
  3. we are closer in the sense that now we have talked about it and we are really communicating...but the "day after" it felt like we were 1000's of miles away...at least for me it did. I don't know what the source of jealousy was for me...because the first time we did anything that is exactly what I expected and I didn't have any of those feelings...this time I went in with no worries and ended up with them.....I'm not a jealous person either....and not to be conceded but I am a nice looking woman, in good shape and have had plenty of men hit on me over the years. The other lady was nice looking but I had no reason to feel jealous in that respect...the jealousy feeling was sharing the intimacy, connection I have with my husband. I'm not sure if I want to share that or give that up if that makes sense. OR risk what we have.
  4. Last weekend we ended up meeting with another couple & this second experience was quite the opposite of our first. Instead of feeling closer as a couple and more sexually charged I felt further away from my husband and just unhappy with the whole experience. Looking back on it was a number of things...I shouldn't of smoked weed...it ended up my husband & I were never really together. It wasn't as playful & fun as our other experience. Our first experience we were laughing & switching & combining and everyone was with each other...and this one...it started off with the girl & me for a few minutes and suddenly he was with me & she was with my husband and that's how it pretty much stayed. And I know how everyone here says that you are in control to do things your way but for some reason it didn't work that way. The guy was a little forceful with me...yanking on my hair and more aggressive...at one point I wanted to be done but wasn't sure how to stop it all....my husband wasn't sure if I was enjoying it or not and was a bit concerned of the roughness.... earlier in the night I had told him "not to tell me what to do" so he was trying to respect that. I had said that in the beginning because I didn't want him telling me to start off by taking my clothes off or anything like that...I wanted it to be on my terms and when I was ready...not being "told" and feeling dorky about it.... I felt jealous watching my husband with the other girl and it all just made me sick to my stomach. I couldn't help to feel that this was all so wrong for us...what the hell were we doing??? This experience was not at all about US...we weren't even together. It was just fucking with others. It wasn't doing anything for us as a couple which just made it feel totally wrong.....I felt I lost intimacy & connection with my husband and felt so insecure. Which was all so incredibly scary for me. 2 experiences and 2 totally different outcomes...very weird and I am still trying to sort through it all. My husband felt the same thing about the experience but his view is "we had a bad experience" and my view is "I'm not sure if I ever want to do this again." Pretty crazy after having such a fantastic, sexually charged experience the first time. So for now I feel like time to put the brakes on.....to slowwwwwwwwwww wayyyyy down......we are invited to a couple parties in the next few weeks...not sure if we will even go now...I don't even care about spending all the money on costumes now....I thought these parties would be a good way for us to meet some people all at once with out having to do awkward meet ups or exchange endless e-mails...we can always go and just leave....just still trying to process it all....
  5. ginger07

    And it begins....

    The holy grail...LMAO! Who knew!! Absolutely...we had an experience on Saturday that really made us see that...I'll have to go into a blog post on that though....
  6. I joined here last month with questions and got a ton of great feedback. Thanks to everyone who took the time to respond. Writing to me is very therapeutic so I thought I would just start a blog to sort through what is going on in my mind and to share my experiences into this new lifestyle. Maybe someone new just starting here can relate to what I'll be writing....and any others who have comments or anything valuable they might want to add please feel free to share! Last month my husband and I went out of town so we thought it would be the perfect chance to have our first encounter. We found a couple through craigslist and met for drinks. They weren't at all what we expected and confirmed to us the importance of more detailed pics....but after talking and joking around we felt like we all clicked and went and got a hotel room. It was my first experience with a woman. I had no idea what to expect and thought I would be turned on way more than I was. I wasn't really physically attracted to her at all...so I will try again with someone else in the future. Or maybe I am not into what I thought I was. We tried our best to do every position imaginable for the 4 of us...it was incredibly hot and fun. We lasted for hours...taking a break to hang out and talk and then start right back up again. I was surprised that I didn't have any of the emotions I thought I would have through the whole experience. I thought I would feel jealous of seeing my husband with another woman even though it was something that turned me on...I thought I would be jealous of that. I also thought I'd be nervous & scared and ended up being the one most aggressive and engaging. Who knew? Guess you have to just do it to figure it out! I discovered the best part of the whole experience was the next morning when my husband and I were in our hotel room and had sex again and again for the next few days. Sex together seemed more intense, sensual, explosive & new. It's something we look forward to doing again. We tried last weekend to hook up with a couple only to have them flake out.... now in the works of trying for something this weekend.... I am hoping we can eventually find 3-5 couples that we "click" with and then can just meet with them all from time to time. I dislike AFF and going through winks, spanks and e-mails back and forth....I don't want to spend my time online looking for a get together...I just want to slowly incorporate this new lifestyle as having new friends and having fun from time to time.... It's fun...scary...exciting...& adventurous all together.....
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