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Rembrandt

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About Rembrandt

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  • Birthday 06/02/1973

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  1. Mr. Sealover, First I would recommend some introspection. What is the source of your jealousy? Is a since of ownership over another human being perhaps? Just throwing out some ideas. I know that mine was a poor self esteem. I came unto my own and my demand to control disappeared. That is my story and may well be very different from your own. Rembrandt
  2. Stand strong my dear comrades in arms. I am a veteran myself. R
  3. I was sitting here reading this thread and I was thinking how lucky you are. You have a lady in your life that is willing to talk to you and obviously you are in love with her. Take your time and enjoy each other's company. You have received some of the best advice anyone could get in this thread. All I can add is don't worry and remember what is important. Talk is crucial, keep communicating and not just about this subject. Talk about everything. I know that my lady and I got to be much closer when the doors of communication were thrown wide open. Just be smart, be caring and attentive. Above all just love her and make sure that your relationship is maintained. The more secure she is the more she will be able to be open with you. I would wish you luck but it seems like you already have a lot of that. I wish will wish you both a long and interesting life. Take big bites my friend - moderation is for monks. Life is far too short to waste it.
  4. Wow, Planned Parenthood is obviously working faster than ever (at least since I worked around there). In any case, honey, you did lie to him. Own up if your conscience won't let you sleep. Other than that, don't worry him with your indiscretions if it isn't necessary.
  5. How about a ring, lapel pin, or necklace of a golden apple with a bite taken out of it. Obscure, kind of cool, and still conveys the message.
  6. Golden apple with a bite out of it is what was told to me. I wish there was a universal sign.
  7. Perhaps I am a remarkably selfish person. I don't feel the green eyed monster. I don't mind what my wife does as long as some very pragmatic rules are followed. Those rules are: 1. Don't bring home something that doesn't wash off - in other words be safe 2. Don't place me in a situation that would cause problems - don't run off with aggressive men that will cause and issue that I will have to address. The world is crazy enough as it is without inviting violence. 3. Be discrete. We have to live and work in the world. Never in the vanilla public - right or wrong I have to do business with narrow minded people. Rembrandt
  8. Your man is not necessarily being truthful. Anyone can control their own activities. Your concerns and feelings are valid. So are his. There is no legitimate workable philosophy that requires "my way or the highway" on either side. That being said there is no legitimate workable philosophy that requires concensus. No person owns another. You are your own unique and valued person, so is he. It is great when two unique and valued people can work together. I think that we may spend too much time worried about what another is doing. This goes both ways. That being said there is never any reason why you should feel bad for how you feel. It is what it is. He should respect that. In our rush to be correct we also tend to ignore the fact that the other person, who may be me more experienced or more adventerous, also has valid feelings and thoughts. The problem is being able to get each other to understand the other's stance. sorry for the psycho-babble Rembrandt
  9. It has been mentioned in this thread but it would be good to have it repeated. There are many reasons for ED. Some are physical, come are psychological. See a doctor and let him know what you are experiencing. It could be something as mundane as you are just overworked. Amp up the diet, eat better is what I mean. Your tool is as much a part of your body as anything else. Blood pressure issues (too low or too high) can have an effect on you. Go get a physical and mention your problem. At least you could rule out a medical issue. You only have one, take care of it. If it is a psychological issue that can be more elusive. It could take some time to get to the core issue but it is worth it. Regardless of the issue I recommend eating right and getting into a decent exercise program. You will feel better about yourself in general. That helps a lot. Men, unfortunately, place way too much stock in their abilities in the sack. Any person should be so much more than that. I am sure that you have been with other women before you got married. Each woman is entirely different from the other. This goes for men too I am told. We should not compare ourselves to others. A good therapy, in my unlearned opinion, would be to take some time and do something together - like take a dance class. Tango for example as it is a very intimate and sensual form of dance. Your wife will love it. I could also recommend swing dance lessons (no pun intended). It is fun, energetic, and can be quite sexy. All this being said, see a doctor just to be certain. We all need a tune up from time to time. Rembrandt
  10. Other than the most typical problems related in this thread, the Lady and I run on different modes. Whereas I am not too much to look at, my wife assures me that I have a rugged handsomeness, I do possess a certain charm and I can dance. My wife on the other hand can be a bit of wallflower. I have heard that she is hard to approach. R
  11. Kind of like when my best friend and I supported different candidates for the election. I got over it and so did he. But I was a bit shocked at first. I thought that we sympatico when it came to the pertinent issues. If your wife's friend cannot find a way to realize that the person she respected is still the same person, regardless of a certain recreational lifestyle, then the respect and the friendship was never really there. It was just another case of people treating others as objects instead of living breathing people.
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