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Precocious

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Precocious last won the day on March 13 2009

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About Precocious

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  • Birthday 07/14/1969

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Canada... somewhere.
  • Swinging Experience
    Less than a year.
  1. We live on a farm. We are considering moving back to the city... Mr. P. is worried of what our neighbour's will think if we move back to the city... To heck with the city and neighbours! I spent many years holding back or holding a pillow over my face and biting it instead of letting loose. We have an empty nest now. I think that is reason enough to stay on the farm!!! Mrs. Precocious
  2. Okay, it's starting to sound like swinging is a performance event. If that's so, then I don't want it. People are human and not infallable. Everyone has a bad day (or night - whatever the case may be). Mrs. Precocious
  3. There are medications out there for ED. Viagra and Cialis both work for most men. ED itself is not as simple as not getting an erection. There are other things involved. Men expect other men to be able to perform. Women expect men to be able to perform. And a man expects himself to be able to perform. Period. That's not fair. I'm sorry but sometimes I don't get as wet as I should. I don't blame the man. With women it's all what's going on in the mind. I hate condoms, but know they have to be used. Mr.P has started to use them with me on occasion just so I can get comfortable with the feel of them. I think it would be insensitive and rude to ask about ED. Period. With some forms of ED, sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. The man doesn't know if it will work in a particular situation. They're not robots. These are human beings, and a man who has trouble getting and/or maintaining an erection in a swinging situation has got to feel somewhat less than a man. Why make matters worse? And as I said above with women and things depending upon what's going on in their mind... in the age group we're talking about, for the men there is a lot of mental and psychological things that affect their erections. My self confidence is strong enough to know that it's not me. I don't swing to build my confidence. I know better than to take it personally. I guess I'm a grown-up. I would not take it personally if a man could not get or maintain an erection. I would be sensitive to HIS ego because my God women, saying the wrong thing could make things even worse for the man. There are expectations in society that men are always ready. Well..... ummmm, maybe at 25. The 45 - 55+ age group is not a generation where condom use was prevalent. Condoms were not typically used when that generation was younger and more sexually active. In 20 years, I'd bet going soft when putting on a condom will not really be an issue for the men because they grew up with it more or less being the norm. We may only soft swing, but my introduction to swinging was not soft. It was during a period where Mr.P and I were separated. One man did have issues with his erection when it came time to put on the condom. A little help and a cock ring helped. For us it's not all about the fuck. I do know for some it is. But because for us that's not what it's all about, there is less performance anxiety, less expectations for "perfection". The people we play with are our friends. We have a small circle of people we play with. These people can come have dinner with us in our house and know that if play happens, cool, but if not, we've enjoyed each others company and we'll get together again. If something happens and babysitting did not work out as wanted, hell, bring the kids for supper. We have Nintendo and computer games and high speed internet in an area where being able to get high-speed sometimes isn't possible. We have horses and dogs and cats. Most of the children don't want to go home when its time. Most of them get bummed out when it DOES work out for their parents to come here without them. But again, it's not all about sex. Not for us. It's about people. It's about life and friendship and feeling good about ourselves on ALL levels, not just a sexual level. Mr.P. has to have a high level of comfort and trust to full-swing. We're building that with our new friends. He's getting more comfortable with the people we are with. Maybe some day we will just be able to meet a couple and fuck, but right now we don't want to.
  4. Hi. I've participated in both types of threesomes. The first was FMF with my friend and her husband, and it just happened. We were comfortable enough with each other as friends that he started playing with her and the next thing I knew, I was involved. It was very cool. The MFM was with Mr. Precocious and my friend's husband, and it too just happened. Mr. Precocious started playing with me and the next thing I knew, the friend's husband was involved. It too was very cool. When I think about fantasies, the thing that makes them fantasies is that you never know when they might happen. Spontenaiety is important for me/us, and making new friends and seeing where things go, if they go, if part of the fun. But then, where we live there are no swing clubs. There are house parties and we typically don't attend them (we feel that play is expected). There are Meet and Greets at bars/lounges where sometimes couples leave paired up. We haven't left in that way yet and really don't want to. For us, the "perfect" experience is something that just happens. Planning, scheduling, etc., just make us feel awkward, but maybe that's because we are still very new to this whole thing. I would say that no pressure should be placed on the third party, but when something is planned, there is pressure. When you are looking for that perfect experience, there are performance expectations. When things just happen, there is no pressure or expectations. Just my limited experience opinion. Mrs. Precocious
  5. Should have read the whole thread. Sorry for the second post.... If it's urine, it's urine. We do not have a lot of swinging experience, but the one time we really did play, I did not squirt (or pee to satisfy the Dr. on board). I was not in the "right" place to do so. With Mr. Precocious, I do. But whether it's urine or something else, he doesn't care. We're not into watersports either, but for him this is something completely different. This is validation that his wife trusts him enough to completely be free and let go when in his bed. I'm not trying to say that women who don't squirt/pee (whatever) are inhibited in some way. I'm just saying what it is for me/us. I've been told by others what I should and shouldn't do all my life, both in bed and out. Not anymore. My sex life is my sex life. And when it might affect others??? Well, that's why we take time to really get to know our partners. Mrs. Precocious
  6. I am in the middle of my sexual revelation! And I now squirt! Sometimes it does scare me because I do have a medical condition that affects my bladder control (I'm on medication for it), but Mr. Precocious told me NOT to worry about it. He doesn't care! He loves the feeling of knowing my orgasms are so intense that I completely let go. And I love feeling FREE enough to do so. Just one warning .... we one day were doing a 69 and I squirted.... right up Mr. Precocious' nose.... OMG I was mortified and LAUGHING my fool head off at the same time! I broke free of traditional taboos. No place for them in my life! Have a great day all! Mrs. Precocious ..... squirting again and again and again!
  7. I am the "she" half of the couple and I am the one that suggested swinging to my husband. We are very new to the lifestyle and at this time soft-swing only. Where we live there are no clubs. I/we joined this site to learn more about the lifestyle and to have a place where there are no "stupid" questions. I've only been here an hour or so, but already have seen that this is a safe place to really talk about the lifestyle. Precocious (she)
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